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In your experience how long does the honeymoon phase of a relationship last

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Runninggirl Established Member

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Out of curiosity. I know it can be shorter, it can be longer, it can be delayed. But in the average normal relationship where one dates, become "official", how long does it usually last from you start dating until the initial infatuation/honeymoon phase ends? I read so many different things, and Im just curious. 

How long did it last for you until you also started noticing flaws? And what are your age and gender? What do you generally believe is the normal? 

stillafool Established Member

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Usually around 6 - 9 months.  I'm a Boomer and I think 7 months is normal.  Usually if you make it pass the 9th month it sticks.

Wiseman2 Established Member

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19 minutes ago, Runninggirl said:

 how long does it usually last from you start dating until the initial infatuation/honeymoon phase ends? 

Anytime. Some relationships last, some don't, so you may just have to wait and see if it does. 

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Every relationship is different and you can't make generalizations like this.... but if I had to answer this question I would say around 6 months on average.  And I want to emphasize again that every relationship is different and this can vary a lot.

Alpacalia Established Member

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Mine typically lasted a year or two.

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I think this happens a number of times in one relationship...  Yes, somewhere around 6-9 months the initial shiny wears off.   Then as things progress and perhaps you live together, you find some more annoying things.   And after about 7 years, more pop up.  Then you do a renovation together and are shocked that there can be so much disagreement on paint colours LOL.   Unexpected hardship can also show up things which you didn't know about previously. 

All in all though, I reckon that after about 10-20 years together, you've been through so much of life that there's nothing much left to discover.

 

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Weezy1973 Established Member

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In emotionally healthy relationships there often isn’t an infatuation period. However there is a honeymoon period and that usually ends between 6-9 months. 

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1 hour ago, Runninggirl said:

 how long does it usually last from you start dating until the initial infatuation/honeymoon phase ends?How long did it last for you until you also started noticing flaws? 

Even if novelty wears off, it doesn't mean the relationship will end. 

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17 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Even if novelty wears off, it doesn't mean the relationship will end. 

Exactly.  This is when the relationship moves into a more comfortable state because the intensity lowers.

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A day, maybe two. Just kidding. Looking back, about a year or two on average personally. You don’t quite start seeing a lot of flaws until then and really observe how a person lives and decide your compatibility then. 

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32 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Even if novelty wears off, it doesn't mean the relationship will end. 

So true. In fact you shouldn’t make any major commitment until after the honeymoon period ends. Enjoy it, but if when it ends you see a lot of red flags, time to cut and run. 

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3 hours ago, Runninggirl said:

Out of curiosity. I know it can be shorter, it can be longer, it can be delayed. But in the average normal relationship where one dates, become "official", how long does it usually last from you start dating until the initial infatuation/honeymoon phase ends? I read so many different things, and Im just curious. 

How long did it last for you until you also started noticing flaws? And what are your age and gender? What do you generally believe is the normal? 

It depends on things like how much yousee each other or the speed it goes or how quickly you might be spending the night at the others.

 

ithink therr are 3 different points

 

1. new car smell stage —- e erything is lonely and you are always getting thrm at their best

2. You can relax stage —  you now feel you are in a relationship so a little spat isn’t going to end things.  People tend to go back to their more normal mundane lives

3. you can fart fart freely stage.  This is when the cute things start to turn into annoyances.

4. the final stage— this could happen before or after marriage— you can’t change them. You are stuck with who they are. The skeletons come out.

 

some might hold back on things durn stage 2 to stages 3 or 4 

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OP, why the question?

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There is not always a "honeymoon phase."   And, sometimes there's nothing further than the "honeymoon phase."  Every relationship is different.  I'm old and I really don't see a pattern in any of my relationships over my lifetime.  

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11 hours ago, Runninggirl said:

 how long does it usually last from you start dating until the initial infatuation/honeymoon phase ends?

Are you dating anyone you're concerned about losing attraction to?  

stillafool Established Member

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Are you asking this question to find out how long the guy you like and that girl will be together?  If so, we have no idea.  How long has it been so far?

Gaeta Established Member

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Depends what you call the : honeymoon phase. If it's being kind, loving, considerate, having the other one's well-being in mind,  that's supposed to never end. 

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6 months to a year and a half. But you can notice flaws on a first date. Everyone is different, every relationship is different. 

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It can and does last for about 6-9/10 months.  Infatuation is a dangerous thing for many because you don't see the person unless they do something really, really bad.  Or you choose to overlook some things when you shouldn't otherwise.  LTRs are difficult things, no question, but know that you are not alone in these situations.  We all have ups and downs.

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Almost four years on and I find it hard to distinguish when it ever really did. 

We've been living together for the past two years, and bought a house together late 2022.  Things couldn't be any better.

In previous relationships, I would say after six months it started to wane.  Usually, for mine, it's when little red flags start coming to the fore.

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Runninggirl Established Member

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Im asking because Im curious what the normal is. Both for what I see in other relationships, friends, my own etc. 

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2 hours ago, Runninggirl said:

Im asking because Im curious what the normal is. Both for what I see in other relationships, friends, my own etc. 

And also to try to get an idea how long your crush will be interested in his girl.  As you can see by him moving her in his place, that won't be happening anytime soon.

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