Nini82 Posted June 3, 2023 Posted June 3, 2023 (edited) Why would a guy say that I scare him sometimes. After hearing this I’ve quietly stopped all communication. This is also someone who I do not have any romantic interest. Edited June 3, 2023 by Nini82 Reword
basil67 Posted June 3, 2023 Posted June 3, 2023 (edited) I don't know....perhaps he finds you really intense? Did you ask what he meant? It would have been OK to respond with "Really?! What is it that I do which is scary?" Why have you stopped communication with him? Edited June 3, 2023 by basil67 1
NuevoYorko Posted June 3, 2023 Posted June 3, 2023 25 minutes ago, Nini82 said: Why would a guy say that I scare him sometimes. After hearing this I’ve quietly stopped all communication. This is also someone who I do not have any romantic interest. My question for you is: Why are you asking this on an anonymous forum? Only the guy know why he finds you scary sometimes. If you were curious, why not just ask him "why do you say that"? We don't know you at all so we have no ideas of how you might be frightening.
Wiseman2 Posted June 3, 2023 Posted June 3, 2023 33 minutes ago, Nini82 said: Why would a guy say that I scare him sometimes. After hearing this I’ve quietly stopped all communication. This is also someone who I do not have any romantic interest. Who is this and how do you know each other? A coworker, neighbor, friend? What exactly is he "scared" of? Do you have to see him regularly? How old is he? Is he interested in you?
Alvi Posted June 4, 2023 Posted June 4, 2023 (edited) 55 minutes ago, Nini82 said: Why would a guy say that I scare him sometimes. After hearing this I’ve quietly stopped all communication. This is also someone who I do not have any romantic interest. What did you talk about before he said that? What do you usually talk about? Hard to say here on this forum since we don't know any details. Ask him what he means by that. Or maybe text him and say "You said the other day that I scare you sometimes. Could you elaborate on that?" Could he meant is as a joke (not saying he did but who knows). Edited June 4, 2023 by Alvi
glows Posted June 4, 2023 Posted June 4, 2023 Can you share more context? Why did you withdraw? It gives the impression that you feel guilty for some reason. Whether that’s founded or not, no idea. He could be a giant scaredy cat or cracking a sarcastic joke. Maybe he fills the space with meaningless comments like “you scare me” when he has nothing else to say or it’s a kneejerk comment/thoughtless the same way people say “how are you” in passing and don’t actually expect a response. You’ve assigned meaning to it and took it personally so that makes me wonder why. Hopefully this isn’t a friendship you’re missing too much.
Alpacalia Posted June 4, 2023 Posted June 4, 2023 I don't know. In person, I am rather blunt and don't suffer fools well. Some people find this intimidating. Be okay with not being for everyone.
Ageless Wisdom23 Posted June 4, 2023 Posted June 4, 2023 I am not sure why he would say this. I don't know what was said between the both of you. Perhaps he Interpreted that you were too flirty or maybe wanted a real relationship. In that Case, If he was Wrong, It is best to stay clear. Who knows what else he would Misinterpret?
stillafool Posted June 4, 2023 Posted June 4, 2023 22 hours ago, Nini82 said: Why would a guy say that I scare him sometimes. After hearing this I’ve quietly stopped all communication. This is also someone who I do not have any romantic interest. Perhaps he thinks you're too intense. What was said that made him say that?
JTSW Posted June 5, 2023 Posted June 5, 2023 What do YOU think it could be that scares him? You must know that something you say or do can be considered scary or intimidating.
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