How to deal with a begging ex?

[HeyHey22]

Ex and I dated for about 5 months, I ruined the relationship. He blocked me on everything in may 2021, he later unblocked me in february 2022. I had changed my number to forget about him and it helped. I forgot I had blocked him on facebook and he created a fake account to message me wanting to talk and how he has been trying to reach me on my old phone number. I was honest that I lost all feelings and I don’t want to meet. He didn’t take it good and started getting mad saying how toxic I was and I was the one to blame and I made him breakup with him. I told him I was sorry for how badly I treated him but I don’t see a point in meeting him. I have nothing to tell him, there’s no closure to give. I accepted I was a bad partner and he left. However, he has been begging for over a year now. Not sure what to do anymore, I feel bad because he’s a very nice man but I have zero interest in him. 

[Wiseman2]

5 minutes ago, HeyHey22 said:

. He didn’t take it good and started getting mad saying how toxic I was and I was the one to blame and I made him breakup.

All you can do is delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media, devices, contact lists and messaging apps.  Try not to encourage him by engaging in this. 

[BaileyB]

13 minutes ago, HeyHey22 said:

However, he has been begging for over a year now. Not sure what to do anymore, I feel bad because he’s a very nice man but I have zero interest in him. 

He’s not a nice man if he hasn’t respected your boundaries and he has continued to pursue you through deceptive practices. 

That’s not normal behavior. 

Honestly, he sounds like a very angry man and that would scare me. I would block him every possible way I could and if this continues, I would go to the police. 

[Lotsgoingon]

Do you feel in danger when he contacts you or attempts to contact you? If so, that's a reason to stress and worry over this.

Otherwise, ignore him. 

There is something odd though in you saying definitively that you ruined the relationship and yet here he comes wanting to talk to you again. 

[ShyViolet]

You block him everywhere.  If he creates a new account to contact you, you just immediately block it.  Eventually he will get tired of trying and give up.  You absolutely should not talk to him or engage with him when he contacts you.  That only encourages this.

[glows]

I don’t see why you have to feel bad. He’s creating his own issues by continuing to pursue you and harass you. Don’t respond to anything he has to say. Keep blocking anything and everything to do with this person.

[ExpatInItaly]

He's not that nice if he refuses to accept "no" for an answer, OP. 

Keep him blocked everywhere and don't reply to him. 

[smackie9]

You can set your setting on FB to block messages from people who are not on your friends list, and you can set your settings on all your social media to private, then he won't have access. A begging ex is a person who doesn't know boundaries, and He's showing obsessive behavior that could turn dangerous for you. Please stay vigilant. Document all his attempts just incase it leads to stalking. So sorry you are going through this. 

Edited May 29, 2023 by smackie9

[OurLoveTurnsToRust]

I suggest differently, DON"T block this person, yes, ignore him, but you need to see if something is coming, being in the "dark" isn't going to help if he crosses the line and you're in danger you may not know about.  Also could be used as proof if you need to get a restraining order.

[mark clemson]

Maybe if he becomes aware that you've found a new partner and are "perfectly happy" he'll figure out it's time to stop wasting time carrying this torch...