Disappointed he didn't followup after he told me he would. wait or text him?

[cryinginmysalad]

Hey all

 

I (26f) have been seeing this guy (27m) for about 7 weeks now. It's been so fun getting to know him although I was hesitant at first due to getting out of a short relationship before. He's shown not only kindness but makes me laugh so much, which honestly has been refreshing since it's been a while I've been with a guy like this.

He's been taking the initiative for the majority of our dates. We've only been on 6 so far since I've been traveling a lot on the weekends and he's also taken some trips in between too. He makes sure to plan ahead of time at least a week in advance and checks in in between too. Intimacy has been great. I've also met a lot of his friends for a party he planned and invited me to.

The last time we got together was this past Thursday where we had a nice dinner out and watched a movie after. He asked what I was up to this weekend and told me his friends were coming into town and they were going to have a "Lads' weekend". I told him I might be going out with some friends one night and that we should all meet up. He said that sounded fun and he would ask his friends if they're down for that and would let me know. This was supposed to be for last night and he did not follow-up with me about that plan at all even tho he told me he would Thursday. I also haven't heard from him since Thursday after he left our date.

I'm disappointed that he did not followup about the plans of our friends getting together or at the very least tell me that they weren't up for that. Instead he didn't send me anything or follow up after our date Thursday. Do I text him or wait for him to? He also hasn't been the greatest at texts but mainly communicates to make plans.

Thoughts?

Thanks guys.

[Wiseman2]

30 minutes ago, cryinginmysalad said:

 told me his friends were coming into town and they were going to have a "Lads' weekend".. I told him I might be going out with some friends one night and that we should all meet up

That's ok. If he's having a lads weekend and told you about it, try to get together another time. Let him miss you a bit. He never promised he could get together. Enjoy your weekend with your friends. But don't try to meet up with him. 

Edited May 28, 2023 by Wiseman2

[cryinginmysalad]

8 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

That's ok. If he's having a lads weekend and told you about it, try to get together another time. Let him miss you a bit. He never promised he could get together. Enjoy your weekend with your friends. But don't try to meet up with him. 

I don't mind he's with this friends. But it's disappointing he said he would let me know of their plans and he didn't follow through with that he said he would do. Even if they didn't want to meet it would've been nice if he let me know that too.

[Wiseman2]

18 minutes ago, cryinginmysalad said:

 he said he would let me know of their plans and he didn't follow through with that he said he would do. 

It's ok to shoot him a breif text wishing him a nice time. Maybe he got caught up in the activity. Tell him to have fun and you'll be going out with your friends. 

Edited May 28, 2023 by Wiseman2

[cryinginmysalad]

37 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

It's ok to shoot him a breif text wishing him a nice time. Maybe he got caught up in the activity. Tell him to have fun and you'll be going out with your friends. 

This would've been potential plans for last night. 

Been through this before where a guy promises he'll do or say something and didn't follow up. Just disappointed that's all, might stay open to other options since we're not exclusive.