LilChicki Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Just read through a few posts..and I guess as a woman who has never dated a married man...I am curious as to WHAT you get out of continuing to wait and wait and wait and wait for someone to do something they keep promising to do and never follow through on?(Leaving their wife) I am NOT being judgemental...I guess when you're in that mindset it's hard to get out of. I personally would NEVER allow myself to fall for a married man. I have found out with 2 or 3 men ..as soon as I knew they were married I was GONE. End of story. I have read post after post of women with married men who have said they are on prozac to deal with the situaton. What kind of life is that??? I just don't get it. Please, tell me how you can remain in a situation like that for years and years..all in the name of a few 'stolen moments"..when you can be together? I am curious to know what these men can posibly offer to keep perfectly SANE women in such misery??
Author LilChicki Posted November 8, 2005 Author Posted November 8, 2005 Ok I re read my post and it sounds judgemental and harsh..but it isn;t meant to be. I apologize. Just trying to understand. Thanks.
erika2610 Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Just read through a few posts..and I guess as a woman who has never dated a married man...I am curious as to WHAT you get out of continuing to wait and wait and wait and wait for someone to do something they keep promising to do and never follow through on?(Leaving their wife) I am NOT being judgemental...I guess when you're in that mindset it's hard to get out of. I personally would NEVER allow myself to fall for a married man. I have found out with 2 or 3 men ..as soon as I knew they were married I was GONE. End of story. I have read post after post of women with married men who have said they are on prozac to deal with the situaton. What kind of life is that??? I just don't get it. Please, tell me how you can remain in a situation like that for years and years..all in the name of a few 'stolen moments"..when you can be together? I am curious to know what these men can posibly offer to keep perfectly SANE women in such misery?? For as far back as I can remember, I always told myself I would never date a MM. I always hated those women. A few years ago, one of the guys at work started chasing after me. I knew he was M, so I didn't do anything. A year or so went by, and I just fell for him. I fell into his trap. Became one of those women. I believed all his crap.. he didn't love his W, he slept in a different room, yadda yadda yadda. I had pretty low self esteem, and was pretty vulnerable, and he preyed on that. He made me feel special. Paid me lots of attention. I didn't care about anything else at the time. I was 'happy'. I was with him for about a year and a half. I look back now and really regret it. I met the W once, and she was so nice. She came into work to get keys from him, and he made me be the one to give em to her. I felt so bad when I met her. I was a waitress, and I used to wait on the whole family too. I felt horrible when I looked at them and thought about what I had done. But at the time, my happiness was all that mattered to me.
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