Stephen Furry Posted May 14, 2023 Posted May 14, 2023 I had been IG friends with this girl for a year. We now recently got friendly and got to know each other, so I asked her on a date, see agreed. I told her that I'll be free in a couple of weeks and she said no problem. But then last Saturday she invited me to go to a day club but I told her I can't I have to work.. She told me to call in sick, but I said I can't do that. She got a little upset. I texted her on Thursday, and gave her what days I'll be free, and she didn't respond. So yesterday, I sent a text saying "Hey, is everything okay?" Then later in the night I found out she blocked me on everything. I don't see what I did wrong, besides sending a follow up text 2 days later after no response.
Veryconfused004 Posted May 14, 2023 Posted May 14, 2023 You didn’t do anything wrong, she’s just upset that you didn’t do exactly what she wanted. She’s clearly immature and not worth your time. You didn’t do anything wrong king. 2
princessaurora Posted May 14, 2023 Posted May 14, 2023 (edited) It was not you. It was 100% her. I did something similar to a medical school student I dated back in the day. I had come over to his place for dinner, and we made out pretty hard afterwards. Eventually, I said it was getting late and I needed to get home. When he walked me to my car, we started kissing again and I really liked kissing him so it got pretty intense. Then he suddenly stops and tells me he has to get to class really early in the morning. That bruised my ego big time because I was used to guys doing whatever I wanted, so I got mad and ghosted him. Poor guy blew my phone and voicemail up for 3 weeks before finally giving up because he didn't understand why I all of a sudden lost interest. She sounds alot like I was back then, very selfish and the kind of girl who snaps her fingers and gets what she wants. When you showed her that's not always the case, she dropped you because she couldn't handle the rejection. But consider yourself lucky because you do not want to date a self-centered person like that. Edited May 14, 2023 by princessaurora spelling 3
Wiseman2 Posted May 14, 2023 Posted May 14, 2023 3 hours ago, Stephen Furry said: I told her that I'll be free in a couple of weeks and she said no problem. .. She told me to call in sick, but I said I can't do that. She got a little upset. I texted her on Thursday, and gave her what days I'll be free, and she didn't respond. So yesterday, I sent a text saying "Hey, is everything okay?" Then later in the night I found out she blocked me on everything Sorry this happened. She seems too flaky to date and it doesn't seem like anything you did or didn't do. It seems like you dodged a bullet if she's asking you to call in sick to make things more expedient and convenient for herself. 1
Author Stephen Furry Posted May 14, 2023 Author Posted May 14, 2023 I sort of get it, she has abandonment issues. We talked about how her ex didn’t want her, that she wish she never existed… But she said she’s healed and in a good place. I guess me not chasing her was taken the wrong way. She still has issues no matter what she says
Alpacalia Posted May 14, 2023 Posted May 14, 2023 It was an overreaction on her part. Is there a reason you haven't met sooner despite corresponding on social media for a year?
ShyViolet Posted May 14, 2023 Posted May 14, 2023 It sounds like you did nothing wrong. She is immature if she got upset just because you wouldn't call out of work to hang out with her.
Ami1uwant Posted May 14, 2023 Posted May 14, 2023 2 hours ago, Stephen Furry said: I sort of get it, she has abandonment issues. We talked about how her ex didn’t want her, that she wish she never existed… But she said she’s healed and in a good place. I guess me not chasing her was taken the wrong way. She still has issues no matter what she says You did nothing wrong. one thing I suggest…don’t ask about a date until you know you are fee/ ready to do it. for me personally I know I’m going to be out of town 4 out of the next 5 weekends so I’m going to hold off asking anyone out on a date till my weekends are free. 2
Author Stephen Furry Posted May 14, 2023 Author Posted May 14, 2023 1 hour ago, Ami1uwant said: You did nothing wrong. one thing I suggest…don’t ask about a date until you know you are fee/ ready to do it. for me personally I know I’m going to be out of town 4 out of the next 5 weekends so I’m going to hold off asking anyone out on a date till my weekends are free. I literally said “are you available, like to go on a date in the future? It will have to be in a few weeks..”
basil67 Posted May 14, 2023 Posted May 14, 2023 I totally understand her not wanting to wait around for a guy who's got such limited availability. But I think she should have told you in a good mannered way
Alpacalia Posted May 14, 2023 Posted May 14, 2023 (edited) There does need to be some degree of flexibility I think in the beginning of dating and certainly asking you to ditch work was ridiculous but a year of social media interaction with her and telling her that the date would be weeks away did not go over well. Her desire not to wait around is understandable. I wonder if she concluded you were a bit flaky too. Edited May 14, 2023 by Alpacalia 2
Ami1uwant Posted May 15, 2023 Posted May 15, 2023 5 hours ago, Stephen Furry said: I literally said “are you available, like to go on a date in the future? It will have to be in a few weeks..” Don’t ask until you are ready/ available to dating. asking wanna go on a date next month says the person is an afterthought 1
Lotsgoingon Posted May 15, 2023 Posted May 15, 2023 You should be celebrating. Someone tells you to call in sick for work ... in order to go have fun. That person is reckless and expects you to be reckless. Red flag. You shouldn't want to talk to her anymore. You really should have blocked her as soon as she made that recommendation. Why didn't you? 2
MsJayne Posted May 15, 2023 Posted May 15, 2023 Your question is, why did you get blocked. Because she's selfish, immature, and ill-mannered. Not girl-friend material. 1
Calmandfocused Posted May 15, 2023 Posted May 15, 2023 Right decision! Never compromise your career and professional reputation for the sake of a date. Dates come and go. Your job is much more important. So she got the hump and disappeared. This is both ridiculous and silly. This gives you a glimpse into her as person. Thank your lucky stars that you dodged this bullet.
Author Stephen Furry Posted May 15, 2023 Author Posted May 15, 2023 (edited) I was feeling miserable the past few days, but you guys made me realize that she's not a good person.[ ] Edited May 16, 2023 by a LoveShack.org Moderator rude 1
semble Posted May 15, 2023 Posted May 15, 2023 On 5/14/2023 at 12:34 PM, Stephen Furry said: I guess me not chasing her was taken the wrong way. Nah, chasing her would have simply validated her and fed into her ego, it wouldn't have changed anything. Not chasing her would ironically give you the best chance of hearing from her again.
Gaeta Posted May 15, 2023 Posted May 15, 2023 On 5/14/2023 at 8:58 AM, Stephen Furry said: She told me to call in sick, but I said I can't do that. She got a little upset. You're the one who should see what's wrong with her. In that one sentence l can tell you she lacks integrity, responsibility, reliability, respect. Sometimes it's worth looking beyond the big b00bs. 2
smackie9 Posted May 19, 2023 Posted May 19, 2023 Dude you dodged a bullet. You don't need that sassy crap. 1
free_radicals Posted May 21, 2023 Posted May 21, 2023 100% her issue for getting upset that you have to work. I mean who does that? You don't need a person like that in your life anyway, friend, lover or otherwise.
Ageless Wisdom23 Posted May 23, 2023 Posted May 23, 2023 It is a Red Flag with me that because you didn't jump hoops for her to call in sick the day she wanted you to go to the day club last Saturday, She didn't want to hear any of your own suggestions that may have been more convenient for You and she childishly decided to block you instead. She would have been nothing but trouble. Girls like that if you don't dance to their Whimsy, Whimper and Whine. Block her too now.
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