When you know that you have met the love of your life and it will won't happen again

[BrainRightHeartWrong]

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what you do here?

 

lived a long life and give up?

[I Luv the Chariot OH]

When I was 17 I thought I met the love of my life, and I thought I'd never love anyone like him again. We broke up a year later, and I loved inferior-ly for a few years after that. I thought I had "grown up" out of that kind of passionate, completel love. And then when I turned 20 I met someone who was more the love of my life than the one I had known at 17, and I loved him even more than I had loved my 17-year-old love.

 

Basically, I think you are young, and you're being silly. You will love again. Give it time. Not everyone you meet will be as special as that one.

[BrainRightHeartWrong]

When I was 17 I thought I met the love of my life, and I thought I'd never love anyone like him again. We broke up a year later, and I loved inferior-ly for a few years after that. I thought I had "grown up" out of that kind of passionate, completel love. And then when I turned 20 I met someone who was more the love of my life than the one I had known at 17, and I loved him even more than I had loved my 17-year-old love.

 

Basically, I think you are young, and you're being silly. You will love again. Give it time. Not everyone you meet will be as special as that one.

 

i'm 31 she will be 33 soon!

[I Luv the Chariot OH]

Well then! ... I'm sorry.

 

But there is still time. There is no need to give up.

[johan]

I don't know what your relationship was really like. I'm not sure it's relevant to my answer. I do know what heartbreak feels like, and I know how you feel.

 

It's a huge mistake to put someone on a pedestal as high as you've put this woman. You define her (or the relationship) as the love of your life, but if she left, then you have to re-define it. If it was the love of your life it wouldn't have ended. By definition.

 

You are thinking it won't happen again. How do you know? Do you really want it to happen again? Don't you want it to be different next time? Are you thinking you'll never feel love like that for someone again? Bull, trust me, you can find some really great, impressive women out there. Better in every way. And are you thinking that you'll never find someone who will love you the way she did? Bull, she left. You can find someone who will love you more. There are lots of women who will do that.

 

You think what you had with her was as good as it gets. I don't agree. If it was so great, then she wouldn't have left. She DID leave. You might have thought it was great, but she didn't. Again, by definition, it can get better. You can find a relationship where you BOTH feel like it's great. Can you honestly say that you never felt there were things wrong and that you always were convinced you found a perfect angel? I highly doubt it.

 

You can beat yourself down like this, but every blow you strike is one you strike against yourself. And it's one more you have to recover from. You're going to have to lift your head up and give yourself a chance to feel something positive about yourself. You run a serious risk of becoming a baggage-laden bitter man who let one dumb woman make a mess of who you really are.

 

It's absolutely true that you'll run off the road unless you look where you're going. Forget what's in the mirror. You're just allowing yourself a huge amount of self pity that won't get you anywhere but farther down than you really ought to be.

[konfuzd]

I believe in the saying, "It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all"

 

There are many 31 year olds who have never experienced real love. Be thankful that you have these memories to reflect on, and that you had the chance to let this beautiful person into your life and help shape you into who you are today and what you can give to the next amazing girl who comes along... there are more than one of us you know

 

 

Another cliche for you since one's never enough... "what doesn't kill you..." you all know the rest.

 

Good luck!

[whichwayisup]

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what you do here?

 

lived a long life and give up?

 

Trust me, there is another love of your life out there...You're just not any where close to finding her yet BTHW.

 

Everybody says that when the heart gets broken. Noone will ever love me the way he/she did...I will never find anybody to love again...Noone will ever make me feel like he/she did...Don't stress about it right now, you have enough on your plate to be thinking about not finding someone else. It happens when you least expect it to - And when it does happen, sometimes love is better the second time around.