collegegirl83 Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 In my experience guys don't like to pick up the phone and call. Are all guys like this? Have been talking to this guy I met a little over a month ago and he was calling me 2 or 3 times a week and one time I called he didn't answer and then called me right back saying sorry I couldn't get to the phone in time. We have had nice conversations and don't understand why he has not called since last Monday. I text messaged him Saturday saying: How are you? Are you having a good weekend? He never replied. Should I text message him again? Call him? Or just leave it alone? Could use opinions!!!
downcydeguy Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 I'd say leave him alone till he gets a hold of you. He knows your number. Also, it's not strictly a guy thing to not like the phone. My ex wouldn't stay on the phone for more than 10 minutes unless it was for phone sex. Other than that, she hated the phone.
glittergurl Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 I never knew any guy who didn't like to pick up the phone And I don't think that's the problem in your case either. Why not believe him when he said he couldn't pick it up in time? I mean, he called you right back, so ... There's a million possibilites as to why he didn't answer to your text message. Network problems (he didn't get it), he got it but forgot to answer, he got it but got tons of other messages that same day and yours just sunk in the mass, his battery's dead, he lost his phone, he accidentally deleted it, or whatever. Who cares? Just wait and see. Give it a few days at least.
cosmogal Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Think I agree with everyone here. You attempted to reach him already. So you did what you could to show you are interested. Maybe something is going on in his life and he's just too busy to give you a call. But , the ugly truth is , we all know what that means. Don't feel bad, a better man will come along! I would wait until he called me, but even then, I would be a bit cautious. Has he ever taken you out on a date or asked? Well, just forget he exsists. He already made a bad impression, why wait around for another one?
glittergurl Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 But , the ugly truth is , we all know what that means. Oh, I know! Ain't it painful? I've had this happening twice to me before, and it broke my heart. I've never been the desperate type, so I never called them again, and eventually got over it. Although, if I saw them now, I'd throw my cell phone at their face lol
konfuzd Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 I'm pretty much in the same boat right now... it's frustrating as hell... but I think I found a solution in my case, maybe it will work for you too.. When the calls stopped, I was always sending the text messages asking him to call me, or ask what he's up to, trying to make plans and such... he'd take a day or two to reply, and it was pretty maddening, since I know he obsessively checks his phone. So, I decided as a last attempt, I'd just send a comment about the hockey game... not two minutes later the phone rang... he's back in the game... I told him I couldn't chat, because I was at the pub with some friends... now he's really interested... Guys have it in their heads that as soon as they've got your interest, they can stop putting in the effort, as long as you keep contacting him, he'll just fit you in when he's got nothing better to do (in my experience anyway). He assumes that you'll just sit by the phone and wait for his sorry-ass. If you let him know he still has to work to keep you interested, he'll start stepping it up. Get out, have some fun and don't even think about him, and I'd be willing to bet he'll bring his cards back to the table... Don't let him get away with being lazy now... he'll take full advantage later! Good luck!
mini696 Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Well I average 400 texts to my GF a month, and 50 phonecalls. So no we aren't al like that. But... I hate talking on the phone. Men are visual creatures and I like to see a persons reactions to something I say. I also feel obliged to continue a conversation, you can have a 30 second lull when talking face to face, but not on the phone.
johan Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 I don't like to gab on the phone. I call for things I need. I'd rather get together for things I want.
konfuzd Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 I don't think the problem at hand is about him wanting to 'gab on the phone'.. it's a case where his behavior has changed... He goes from calling 2-3 times a week to none at all without incident. I know many people jump to the conclusion that he's 'just not that into you', 'he's seeing someone else'.... but I do like to give people the benifit of the doubt. It's just so pessimistic, I think it is laziness, he thinks the thrill of the chase is done with, he's already captured his prey.... don't give up hope, just don't let it consume your life either.
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