underdog Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 well this girl I know, she has kinda been turning off when I ask her out, but then she comes in the MSN and tells me some stuff like 'oh you don't care about me' and 'you never make compliments to me' so I don't know if I should actually flatter her all the time and stuff, cause i'm afraid she will lose any shred of interest she has in me, but at the same time I'm afraid to get too distant from her! help!
sparkles0913 Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 While I hate to admit it, I was this girl back in high school. Whenever the guy mentioned going out, I would completely ignore him and change the subject. Truth of the matter is, the girl probably likes it, but has low self esteem, at least I know for a fact that's what my problem was. If you keep her guessing about things, she will in fact keep in contact I would think. Compliment her here and there, but don't over do it. Simple things like, Oh that's so cute when you do ________. And then just leave it alone and see where she takes the conversation. Keep talking to her, just don't compliment her all of the time. If she hints around about it more times than not, then I would think she's interested, just shy. When she grows up, she'll realize how dumb she is b/c the guy that had me going that way is the guy I'm interested in five years later, after I've matured a bit. Good luck!
glittergurl Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Exactly, Sparkles. I was the same type of girl in high school, and a serious lack of self confidence was definitely the reason. I agree with the rest you said. Don't over-compliment her, but keep her interested.
Author underdog Posted November 8, 2005 Author Posted November 8, 2005 well I found out that this girl is afraid of losing me, because now she sees that i'm getting a little far from her...I think this girl is afraid of moving to something serious with me, but she is also afraid to lose me, she wants to be in that comfortable position knowing that i love her...what do I do? I don't want to be in that comfortable-for-her-but-not-comfortable-for-me situation, and now I kinda have the upper hand...
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