Mz. Pixie Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Does it intimidate you when you're at Neiman-Marcus shopping for that pair of $450 Jimmy Choo sandals? For the record, I've never owned a pair of $450.00 shoes, nor would I. That's just senseless to spend money on things like that. My mother in law actually just gave me a store credit for this expensive shoe store here and told me to go pick out a pair of boots and she would pick up the additional. I can't bring myself to do it because I don't want to spend $250.00 for a pair of boots. When you've never had it, you don't miss it. Don't get me wrong, she has been more than generous with me and my kids. She's always bought for her son as her only child and she dresses him well. But, they haven't bought a home for him- and he's always worked not one but usually two jobs so he's no stranger to working hard. They didn't want him to be handed everything and value nothing so they've kept his money in trust for him and if they died tomorrow, he couldn't even touch it until he was like 45. I can't fathom what it's like not to have to worry about money. Even if I had say five millions dollars I wouldn't spend that kind of money on shoes! I would spend some on a nicer home, and I'd buy myself a new car but not ten new cars. I'd travel and make sure my kids educations were taken care of. I'd love to be able to give my kids a down payment on a house when they get married. That kind of thing. No matter what, there is NO amount of money I would take to sacrifice my happiness. Even though one day he'll be set, if he started mistreating me or cheating on me, I'd be outta here.
alphamale Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Even if I had say five millions dollars I wouldn't spend that kind of money on shoes! I would spend some on a nicer home, and I'd buy myself a new car Why not MX PIXIE??? I mean...you can't walk around in your new house and drive around in your new car while wearing a pair of beaten up krappy shoes you bought at payless shoe store for $8.99
RainyDayWoman Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Why not MX PIXIE??? I mean...you can't walk around in your new house and drive around in your new car while wearing a pair of beaten up krappy shoes you bought at payless shoe store for $8.99 i agree...taste, as well as other things, do tend to change drastically when you come into money, sometimes even when you're born into it.
SmoochieFace Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Why not MX PIXIE??? I mean...you can't walk around in your new house and drive around in your new car while wearing a pair of beaten up krappy shoes you bought at payless shoe store for $8.99 It's easy... not everyone is into having lots of material things such as a $400 pair of shoes or 200 pairs of sneakers. And I know personally if I came into a huge amount of money most of it would go to those who are far more deserving of it.
RainyDayWoman Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 And I know personally if I came into a huge amount of money most of it would go to those who are far more deserving of it. of course some of it would....sometimes the best part of having money is being able to help those who don't. but you would still have the things you wanted also, i'm sure.
slubberdegullion Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 And I know personally if I came into a huge amount of money most of it would go to those who are far more deserving of it. waves arms in air *Pick me! Pick me!*
SmoochieFace Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 waves arms in air *Pick me! Pick me!* :p Fugeddaboutit, slubber!
Mz. Pixie Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Why not MX PIXIE??? I mean...you can't walk around in your new house and drive around in your new car while wearing a pair of beaten up krappy shoes you bought at payless shoe store for $8.99 There's a happy medium there as well. What's wrong with a nice $60.00 pair of shoes driving around in my new car?? I agree that your tastes probably do change a bit. My husband's parents like to travel- but there is a limit as to what she'll spend on a hotel room. She has like her own little system of what's reasonable and what's too expensive. I guess we all do, it's just that the limits are different. I would also give away money to those less fortunate- and they do this as well. I know my husband has some kids at school who just think we're rich because we have a nice house and carpet on the floor?? Apparently they live on the concrete slab. See, it's things like that that would make me feel bad about spending $400 on a pair of shoes. I guess should he inherit and we're still together our lives will be different but I can't count on that. I can't sit around and say, ooooh one day we'll be rich and we can do this this and this. I have to continue to work hard and save and not even think about that. The other day we were at brunch at a local country club. His parents are not members there but he has a friend who is and she allows him to take me there sometimes for brunch and he just pays her for it later. They have some beautiful little villas there and they are just the perfect size for a retired couple. He said, "You know one day we might be able to afford something like this" and I just cannot even imagine that. What's funny is that the bulk of this money came from his grandfather- who was such a miser that he refused to buy his own kids more than two outfits for school every year. And then who inherited it?? The same kids that he neglected when they were growing up!
alphamale Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 What's funny is that the bulk of this money came from his grandfather- who was such a miser that he refused to buy his own kids more than two outfits for school every year. Many rich people are cheap MZ PIXIE....ask any car valet attendant. The people with mercedes and bmw's tip the least and the people who drive regular cars tip the most. Rich people became rich for a reason....they like to hoard their $$$.
whichwayisup Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Rich people became rich for a reason....they like to hoard their $$$. They spend like crazy on themselves but will rarely buy lunch for you. Either go dutch or you pay. Don't like spending ANY money on anybody. Weird...
Author basscatcher Posted November 8, 2005 Author Posted November 8, 2005 I have nothing to hoard. I cant even save.. Penny to penny is how I live. I would be content to just make 35,000 a year At least I could make my loan payments, get a little better car (payments), catch up on late bills. The idea of being financially advanced doesn't appeal to me.. I don't need all kids of money to be happy. As for living in a nice big house... The bigger the house the more there is to clean.. YUCK...(I don't like the idea of having someone in my house cleaning.) Lower middle to middle class would suit me just fine. To be able to pay the bills, have decent food on my table, and a decent roof over my head, drive a vehicle that wont nickel and dime me to death.. I would be very content.. Whats important to me the most for my son to be healthy and happy and having a loving wonderful partnerto share my life with.. Payless shoes are just fine to me.. Especially if I can get them for 70% off...
SmoochieFace Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 They spend like crazy on themselves but will rarely buy lunch for you. Either go dutch or you pay. Don't like spending ANY money on anybody. Weird... It's not *weird*... they are just selfish as hell.
alphamale Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 I would be content to just make 35,000 a year ... WTF! $35K/yr??? I couldn't live on that and i'm single without any kids
Mz. Pixie Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Yeah, some of them are like that. His gf was. He traveled all over with his favorite professional baseball team but yet wouldn't buy his kids more than two outfits? She swore then that her children- and she was only blessed with one and her grandkids would never want for clothing or shoes even if she had to work two jobs. They can't even stand it if we offer to pick up the check when we go out to eat so I guess I'm lucky in that regard. She took me shopping one night and bought me some nice clothes- just because my husband had told me that I couldn't spend anything on myself until November because of our budget. She said, "I'm not going to have that" and took me shopping. I was uncomfortable but I did need the things actually and my husband said I might as well just get used to it, that was the way she was and she loved doing stuff like that. That night I was talking to my dad- who is financially stable about some boots he bought to resell at the flea market. I asked him if he had a pair in my size. They paid $12.00 a pair for them. I expect him to say that sure he'd sent me a pair- he never buys me anything or does much for the kids. Instead he said "Well I will send you a pair but I'm going to charge you what I paid for them" He's driving around in a 100K motorhome- that he won't drive because gas is too expensive and wants to charge me for some flea market boots. That is when she said she'd just get me some boots, it pissed her off. Now, I don't want to spend that much money.
SmoochieFace Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 I have nothing to hoard. I cant even save.. Penny to penny is how I live. I would be content to just make 35,000 a year At least I could make my loan payments, get a little better car (payments), catch up on late bills. The idea of being financially advanced doesn't appeal to me.. I don't need all kids of money to be happy. As for living in a nice big house... The bigger the house the more there is to clean.. YUCK...(I don't like the idea of having someone in my house cleaning.) Lower middle to middle class would suit me just fine. To be able to pay the bills, have decent food on my table, and a decent roof over my head, drive a vehicle that wont nickel and dime me to death.. I would be very content.. Whats important to me the most for my son to be healthy and happy and having a loving wonderful partnerto share my life with.. Payless shoes are just fine to me.. Especially if I can get them for 70% off... Your mindset regarding money is similar to mine. The way I see it, there are other things that are much more important to me than having lots of money and living a *fast* lifestyle. Making sure my 7-year old son is healthy and happy, having a decent place to live, having a decent job, and being in a great relationship with a great woman are those things at the top of my list. As far as material things... well, all in all I have what I want to have. I would like to buy a house someday but that will be a while. I don't need or want to have the *latest and greatest* when it comes to electronics, etc. I have the same stereo I had when I was in HS - over 20 years old and my TV is over 15 years old. I am not going to replace those as they work fine. The only *modern* thing I have is the DVD player! Cell phones, BlackBerries, iPods, plasma TVs, etc. - nope! I MAY get a new TV soon but the only reason for doing so is to be able to watch PAL DVDs. I will not chuck my current set though.
alphamale Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 I MAY get a new TV soon but the only reason for doing so is to be able to watch PAL DVDs. Why? Did you steal some Korean kid's porn collection?
SmoochieFace Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Why? Did you steal some Korean kid's porn collection? Sorry Alpha. Nice try but Korea uses NTSC like the U.S., Canada, Japan, Mexico, and the Philippines. I wouldn't need a multistandard TV to watch any Korean DVDs... just need a player that can play R3 discs. Not that I'd watch that porn garbage anyway. *sigh* Next...
alphamale Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Sorry Alpha. Nice try but Korea uses NTSC like the U.S., Canada, Japan, Mexico, and the Philippines. sorry, I meant East Indian kid's porn colection I know for sure they are on PAL and not NTSC...
SmoochieFace Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 sorry, I meant East Indian kid's porn colection I know for sure they are on PAL and not NTSC... Oh, of course, you change the country now!
Author basscatcher Posted November 8, 2005 Author Posted November 8, 2005 WTF! $35K/yr??? I couldn't live on that and i'm single without any kids Hun, I'm a single parent--I've been a single parent since 1998. I gross $27,000 a year RIGHT NOW. and I am making it.. I support my son by myself. I get $300/month in child support to help.. That is it. I pay my rent on my apt which is a shyt hole but its home and I can afford it. I have a roof over my head. I put food on our table--we eat home cooked foods.. Rarely do we get a pizza or take out of some sort. That is treats and special occasions. I pay my elec and basic phone. I do not have cable tv/dish, nor do I have long distance on my home phone. I do have a cell phone which is what I use for Long distance calls. I drive a peice of shyt car that is nickel and diming me to death but it gets me from point A to point B. It's paid for and because it's old the insurance doesnt really kill me. (I change my own oil to keep costs down. ) I live within my means. But I have no extras. So if I was making $35,000 a year I would be content even more.. At least I could get my student loan out of forbearance and maybe afford a better car...
Mz. Pixie Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Well, Alpha lives in the city where it costs more to live so your area may be different. I make around $35K a year and I had a car note and it was hard as hell to make it as a single parent of two kids. I can totally relate to what you're saying. It's much more important to be happy than to have money to me. I've known rich people who were miserable the same as poor people. I have actually taken personality profiles where it states that I am not materially motivated. That was before I actually acknowledged in my mind that hey, I wasn't. So, I guess in reality I truly am.
Author basscatcher Posted November 8, 2005 Author Posted November 8, 2005 The economy in Minnesota isn't that great in most ways but its good in others. Taxes are high. Homes are expensive, I am below the poverty line but yet not low enough for help of any kind. I went back to school and earned my AAS in Administrative Assistant. Since I graduated the Admin world has already drastically changed in technology and I have found that all the schooling I recieved I didn't get all the training I needed to be in the high markets. It pisses me off. There are programs I have never been introduced to that have been around since before I started college. I struggle to make ends meet and I cut where ever I can so my son and myself can have some fun.. It is not easy to live where I am. Even the suburb I live in is expensive. I wasn't alone when I moved here so there were two incomes coming in. I promised my son I wouldn't make him relocate to a different school again. He has 3 years left then he graduates. I WILL move to a less expensive city and location. I chose to live where I am at for my son... I am looking for a different job that pays better but I don't qualify for most of them.. It suxs..
Outcast Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 People with less money can be snobs in their own right. I guess im afraid if I start to like living my life higher then what I have been use too and I should lose everything and become poor again I wouldnt know how to adjust backwards.. The more money you have they say the more you spend and when you lose that money what the hell do you do with your habits of spending? how do you adjust to losing everything? You go back to your old ways. It's not that big a deal. No point in throwing up barriers for nothing. If you have more money, you can spend more but still be reasonable about it. Many rich people are cheap Those are the ones who got rich by being frugal. It becomes a lifelong habit. I cant even save. Do you mean because you don't have enough to save or because you are no good at it? Because you need to be good at it. You can be proud of your lack of money, but if you become ill or when you get older this won't serve you well. You need money put by for emergencies and for your retirement. Payless shoes are just fine to me.. Especially if I can get them for 70% off... Yes but they fall apart in a few months and then you have to buy another pair and another pair and another pair where if you get a good pair for a hundred bucks, it'll last much longer and be more comfortable. I don't say that you should spend tons of money on things, but in some cases expensive does mean better quality. In the end, it's actually more economical to buy something that lasts a long time than to buy a dozen replacements. It's not *weird*... they are just selfish as hell. Very often they had to scrimp in their youth. In fact, people like Pada have become wealthy and kept her mindset. If she marries this rich dude, she'll continue in her scrimping ways and then she'll be one of those rich cheapskates. See how it works?
Author basscatcher Posted November 8, 2005 Author Posted November 8, 2005 Do you mean because you don't have enough to save or because you are no good at it? Because you need to be good at it. You can be proud of your lack of money, but if you become ill or when you get older this won't serve you well. You need money put by for emergencies and for your retirement. I cannot save because I don't make enough to be able to put aside even $20 each paycheck.. Most months I don't even get by. When I get my tax return I stretch that out as much as possible and that is what keeps me afloat till about this time of the year. Right now I am very very tight and bills ae starting to increase and I'm getting disconnection notice threats. its not easy.. My friggin income sux.. But I make due.. (I don't even own a credit card.. Never have...) Yes but they fall apart in a few months and then you have to buy another pair and another pair and another pair where if you get a good pair for a hundred bucks, it'll last much longer and be more comfortable. I have a lot of Payless shoes and they last me a long time. I mostly go barefoot in the summer. I hate shoes and when I have to put them on I wear sandels so Payless shoes work for me..
alphamale Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 In fact, people like Pada have become wealthy and kept her mindset. If she marries this rich dude, she'll continue in her scrimping ways and then she'll be one of those rich cheapskates. No she won't....the first things she'll buy are a BMW 740 iL (around $80K) and a Gucci handbag and a mink coat. Its much easier to spend money when it is someone elses, and a husband counts as "someone else". Actually OUTCAST....the paradox is that people who have little money are much more obsessed with it than people who are rich.
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