basscatcher Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Friday I took a vacation day. My gf came to town we went out to eat-had a large, strong drink (started my buzz), went back home and had a few drinks there, then Mr. L came over and picked us (4) up and headed downtown. We had more to drink down there. My gf from out of town was in awe of the downtown city life. She said I had changed too. We were all outgoing, loud, joking, having fun, and when we all started dancing the provocative dancing came out and she felt like a small town girl. hahaha it didnt take long and she was 'all out there' too having a blast. She gave me her high approval of Mr. L. All she could say was 'WOW, he is into you,' 'you have a good man', 'damnnnn, I didn't expect him to be like--WOW', she was almost speachless and she is a woman who is outspoken, opinionated and judgemental. she hasnt liked any man I have dated since she and I have known each other and she instantly liked him.. this gf is a player, she messes with men bad.. She likes to have fun and she knows how to play the game.. She watched Mr. L like a hawk even at the club. Mr. L got jealous.. I was surprised.. There was a guy there that I know and I went over to say hi to him for a brief moment and went back to Mr. L right away. Mr. L. asked me if I was trying to make him jealous? I couldn't believe he was uneasy. That was a first... I guess I know where I need to be careful as to not give him any negative ideas.. Next time I will take him with me if I go say hi to a guy I know and introduce them. Saturday evening we picked up some food at the store and cooked together in the kitchen. That was fun.. Then we got ready and went out for a little while and listened to a live band. I was home around 1am. Sunday we went up to his cabin 2 1/2 hours north for the day, just him and I. He checked over the cabin and trailor to make sure they were winter ready he and I went four wheeling then into town. He took me to a little shop that has really unique country/outdoor/wildlife furnature and house decorating stuff. It was so nice.. We ate, went back to the cabin took another four wheel ride then locked everything up and headed home. What an amazing weekend.. It was perfect.. He is so wonderful.. I seen him get a little jealous, my girlfriend said she seen he is really into me big time--she said I had nothing to worry about, I found out so much more about him that I'm glad I didn't know during the first week because I would have bolted. I am not a golddigger--money intimidates me--if I would have found out what I know now I would have backed off. I don't want to have that kind of power and control in my life.. So I told Mr. L to keep my life simple don't complicate it with money please... People think I'm odd and weird but $$ intimidates me and I am not comfortable with a lot of it. THIS JOURNEY IS AMAZING.. So lets get the negative/possitive feedback from the LSers... I'm sure A_C and Alpha can give me the negatives.
SmoochieFace Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Sounds cool... except keep an eye on that jealousy bit. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity as we all know.
slubberdegullion Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Where's the part where you and he got naughty? Sounds like everything is progressing well. Congratulations!
Author basscatcher Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 Where's the part where you and he got naughty? Sounds like everything is progressing well. Congratulations! We got naughty saturday night. why do you think we had a early night and didnt stay out all night.
alphamale Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Friday So lets get the negative/possitive feedback from the LSers... I'm sure A_C and Alpha can give me the negatives. yes....keep one eye on your girlfriend from out of town. some women love to steal men.
slubberdegullion Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 We got naughty saturday night. why do you think we had a early night and didnt stay out all night. I kinda thought so, but didn't want to make any assumptions. Besides, I thought you were saving yourself for me Details! We need details!
SmoochieFace Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Details! We need details! What, you wanna know if she swallows?
slubberdegullion Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 What, you wanna know if she swallows? Hmmm... hadn't thought of that. But I like the way you think, SmoochieFace!
Art_Critic Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 No negatives from me.. But the jealousy issue you need to watch.. Jealousy is a sign of many things that could go wrong.. Anybody jealous of you at this early in the stage of dating isn't really a great sign.. You are both experienced adults and have pasts as well as friends and talking to someone in a bar shouldn't prompt a jealous comment.. I know your are thinking insecure.. Well yes jealousy is about insecurity.. But it is also about control and exercising control over someone else.
alphamale Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 I know your are thinking insecure.. Well yes jealousy is about insecurity.. But it is also about control and exercising control over someone else. agreed A_C, the more jelous one is the more insecure they are about holding onto their partner. Someone who is very confident about themselves and their ability to "keep" their partner around will act less jealous. Jealousy is probably the most powerful and most destructive of all the human emotions....it has caused empires and kingdoms to fall not to mention ruined countless lives throughout history.
Author basscatcher Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 Sounds cool... except keep an eye on that jealousy bit. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity as we all know. Ah yes the jealousy.. It was rather cute.. He didn't show it. BUT, he did say to me when I came back to him and sat on his lap. "were you trying to make me jealous?' I said "no" "where you." and he didn't say anything. I grabbed his face in my hands and told him he had nothing to worry about. I explained to him that that guy had hit on me about 6 months earlier and I said NO.. no no no no no many times. When my gf told me he was there I excused myself from Mr. L. I went over to that guy. He hugged me and he asked me how I was doing. I said great and that I was there with my bf. (he was the one with jealousy in his eyes because he had been trying to pick me up for many months and I wouldn't go out with him. He is from Matzatlan, Mx and I didn't want to get involved with another latino. I have had bad experiences with getting involved with latinos. They are hot, sexy as hell, great lovers but damn they are controlling, possessitve and jealous. (at least the ones I dated...) I also thought he was suppose to have left for home and he backed his departure date to the end of December. Mr. L. was a litle jealous and didn't need to be. His exgf use to play the bar and get all kinds of phone numbers when he was with her. It left a bad taste in his mouth. I reminded him that I am not her and to put some trust and faith in me. Next time i will ask him to come with me if I say hi to someone until he can understand I am not like his ex and I can be trusted.
Author basscatcher Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 yes....keep one eye on your girlfriend from out of town. some women love to steal men. ahahaha no i don't keep friends like that. nothing to worry about with my out of town gf. She likes middle eastern men.. she is very much in love with her kurd of 7 years.... she was visiting me and having fun.. But thanks for the warnig dear.. I'll take it to heart with others..
Author basscatcher Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 I kinda thought so, but didn't want to make any assumptions. Besides, I thought you were saving yourself for me Details! We need details! ahaha sorry sweetheart, i wasn't savin myself for you. my landscaper has me.. Details? Do good girls kiss and tell.
Author basscatcher Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 What, you wanna know if she swallows? Hmm maybe I do, maybe I don't, maybe I will, maybe I won't.. Only my man knows. :love:
SmoochieFace Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 I went over to that guy. He hugged me and he asked me how I was doing. Well, it might be a good idea to not let some guy hug on you in front of your new BF... I mean, things are still *new* and that probably isn't a good track to get on. I can understand his twinge of jealousy and it could even be justified if this Latino is one of those TDH dudes. Stay away from doing that *beep*, Pada... doesn't look too good. Not a sermon, just a thought.
SmoochieFace Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Hmm maybe I do, maybe I don't, maybe I will, maybe I won't.. Only my man knows. :love: Well, we do know that you won't take it up the ass so that's one less thing for us to be curious about.
Author basscatcher Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 Well, it might be a good idea to not let some guy hug on you in front of your new BF... I mean, things are still *new* and that probably isn't a good track to get on. I can understand his twinge of jealousy and it could even be justified if this Latino is one of those TDH dudes. Stay away from doing that *beep*, Pada... doesn't look too good. Not a sermon, just a thought. Understood... I told Mr. L that there are a few guys that I will put in there place now that he is in my life. I will do that as they come along and this latino guy was one of them. He looked at us once during the night but we did our own thing. I danced for Mr. L solely and he was grinning from ear to ear.. He doesn't need a strip club when he has me.. and he can touch.... he was the envy of the club.. My gf said it looked good and he and I were so into eachother that we didn't notice the crowd watching us. If that shouldn't take away his fears well then we have issues...
Author basscatcher Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 Well, we do know that you won't take it up the ass so that's one less thing for us to be curious about. right on... .. if its a NO i make that very clear... POINT BLANK.... Mr. L is like me. Nothing to crazy..
Author basscatcher Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 one of those TDH dudes. Whats TDH???
SmoochieFace Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Whats TDH??? Tall, Dark, and Handsome... the bane of my existence.
Author basscatcher Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 Tall, Dark, and Handsome... the bane of my existence. ahaha I have dated, been married too and dated again tall dark and handsome.. NONE of them worked out.. And all their penis were to friggin long and hurt me... Mr. L is about 5'8, approx. 180 lbs, light brown hair with strawberry hightlights (surprised cause i like dark hair) and baby blue eyes..he isnt dark.. He is perfect.. I love his facial structure and the fact that he is almost bald is sooo damn sexy.... wow I like either long hair or buzzed/bald..
Mz. Pixie Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 You guys are cute! When you said that money intimidates you?? It does me kinda too. It was a good thing I didn't find out my husbands parents have money when we dated. I mean, I knew they were comfortable but I had no idea how wealthy they really were. It still makes me uncomfortable. I'm not sure why. I'm just not material at all and I don't want anyone to make the mistake of thinking I am. I've always had to work hard for everything that I've ever had and to just think that all that money is sitting there......I don't know it just wierds me out.
SmoochieFace Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Yeah, those TDH muthaf***kas really f*** things up for us Napoleons... whoops... short guys!
alphamale Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 When you said that money intimidates you?? It does me kinda too. Does it intimidate you when you're at Neiman-Marcus shopping for that pair of $450 Jimmy Choo sandals?
Author basscatcher Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 You guys are cute! When you said that money intimidates you?? It does me kinda too. It was a good thing I didn't find out my husbands parents have money when we dated. I mean, I knew they were comfortable but I had no idea how wealthy they really were. It still makes me uncomfortable. I'm not sure why. I'm just not material at all and I don't want anyone to make the mistake of thinking I am. I've always had to work hard for everything that I've ever had and to just think that all that money is sitting there......I don't know it just wierds me out. it does. He told me about his father and grandfather this weekend and more about himself and I looked him straight in the facea and told him I would have left.. I came from nothing. We were very poor growing up.. trailor house was falling apart. car had issues, didn't have nice good food. we ate hot dogs, spagetti, bologna, cereal and i cant' stand those foods today. i rarely got new clothes they were hand-me downs or homemade. we struggled and my father was no help. he abandoned us. being raised catholic and poor i learned to live within my means to live humbly and never want for to much more.. never envy others be happy with what i have for material possesions because i could have less if God didn't want me to have what i had. I have struggled in my adulthood also on my own. I have had to go to food shelves and shovel snow off of the roofs of elderly people for $25 a roof to put food on the table. I have skipped meals to feel my son and my husband at the time.. So I have lived on what I have and I live withiin my budget. I learned to find peace and accept where i am at.. So for me to come into money I get panicy, I want it to go away.. I guess im afraid if I start to like living my life higher then what I have been use too and I should lose everything and become poor again I wouldnt know how to adjust backwards.. The more money you have they say the more you spend and when you lose that money what the hell do you do with your habits of spending? how do you adjust to losing everything? I don't want to experience that. If I stay simple I can cope, I can survive. Last night he drove me past his old house his exw got in the divorce.. Damn I about fell over. It is so gorgeous.. I couldn't imagin living in a home like that. I cant see past a old apt or trailor home. That house is absolutely beautiful on the outside. I can imagin what its like on the inside. He walked out of the house with a bag of clothes. She pretty much got eveything....
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