outofmymind Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 A little background:My wife and I have been married for 6 years and for the past year she has become a non affectionate,unhappy person.I ask her last Wednesday night about it and she told me she had no idea that this was a problem.Friday night at a party I told her I was ready to go and she was not.I told her (after drinking) that maybe she wanted to stay. After we got home I went to bed she grabbed some stuff and left(12:45 am).She left me a note saying that she was not affectionate with me because I cant give her things (House,etc.).She came back Sunday morning and said she wanted to talk but didn't say a whole lot.She wants to go to counseling.I'm just real confused! I'm also the one that posted cell phone cheater.
lilmoma1973 Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Women want that emotional connection with their spouse .. Have you been not showing her that side ? Women will stop giving affection if they are receiving it only in the bedroom .. I know that is where i am at in my relationship .. I think my h has taken me for granted!! I want itimacy outside the bedroom as well as in the bedroom!! My h don't help with the kids .. I do everything with our daughter bath and take care of her .. I have raised his son that is now 15 while he done his band...My h gets time away 2 days a wk and and the only time i get away from my daughter is when my mom keeps her!! I think my h thinks because i am a stay at home mom that it is my job to do everything!! H clocks out and comes home and gets on the computer to promote his band !! I never clock out till my head hits the pillow !! How is that fair? I wish i would get the attention that his band get and we come first for once !!!
westernxer Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 She left me a note saying that she was not affectionate with me because I cant give her things (House,etc.) Marriage can be a struggle, but this is no excuse for withholding affection, especially if you're working hard to pay the bills.
lilmoma1973 Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Marriage can be a struggle, but this is no excuse for withholding affection, especially if you're working hard to pay the bills. Sorry Westerner there is more to a marriage than just paying bills!!!
westernxer Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Sorry Westerner there is more to a marriage than just paying bills!!! Did you read what he said regarding his wife's note?
lilmoma1973 Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Yes i did but i think it is something else... I think from a women' s point of view he isn't giving her emotionally what she wants and has taken her for granted and it will make us women not want to be affectionate and feel why bother giving him what he wants when im not getting what i want!! I am in this postion right now with my h !!!Just my thoughts !!
westernxer Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Yes i did but i think it is something else... I think from a women' s point of view he isn't giving her emotionally what she wants and has taken her for granted and it will make us women not want to be affectionate and feel why bother giving him what he wants when im not getting what i want!! I am in this postion right now with my h !!!Just my thoughts !! You could be right, but you could also be wrong.
lilmoma1973 Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 You could be right, but you could also be wrong. im not saying im right just telling you my point of view as a women and my feelings toward my h !! Myabe that she is feeling this way that is all
Mz. Pixie Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 You guys need counseling. Her comments tell me that she's scouting out someone who can give her the things that she wants. I don't relate to that because material things are not really important to me. Sometimes I think people are way to shallow when it come to things like this.
Trimmer Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Her comments tell me that she's scouting out someone who can give her the things that she wants. And the evidence of her cell phone usage you mention in your other thread, may well point to who that someone is... So she spent the night "out", effectively both Friday and Saturday nights, and was gone all day Saturday as well? Did she make any claim as to where she went, what she did, or who she was with?
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