genEric Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Another "single guy" weekend under my belt! I almost blew it Saturday: Spoke with the ex on the phone Friday morning- I'm doing NC but we're still sorting out bills (everything is pretty well wrapped up now, thank goodness) so I took her call. We got the business talk overwith and she started in about how stressed out she was and how she is right on the edge of cracking up. I simply told her that it was she who wanted a new life and "needed space" and that she'll have to figure it out for herself. I then ended the convo and that was that. Saturday morning I woke up feeling sorry for her! I guess I have "Sucker" tattood on my forehead. I had some shopping to do and I *almost* screwed up and bought her a few things to make her feel better. Damn, talk about crazy thinking! When we were together, and she was all stressed out, I'd put fresh towels, a candle, bath fizzies, a bottle of wine and glass, and her current book on the edge of the tub with a note for her to chill out and relax. I thought, for a few crazy moments, about putting together a "care package" for her and send it down to her new home. BAH! I almost got sucked into doormat mode once again, but then thought "No more! Its time for ME!" I instead bought MYSELF a few scented candles, a small bottle of my favorite spirits, and a couple new shirts. I enjoyed a nice blustery November evening with my dogs, some good music, and a nice little buzz. Slept like a baby for the first time in weeks! Went one step further Sunday and took a buddy of mine out for sushi. (yes, we eat sushi in Michigan!) Hey! I could get used to this! Got an email from her this morning regarding yet another check that hasn't cleared. She also mentioned that she "needs all the help she can get to prevent overload". Funny, I don't feel like doing anything nice for her this time- she is reaping what she has sown. Not my problem any more. I'll save the bath fizzies for myself from now on, and eventually some new woman who will actually appreciate it. I guess I'm starting this week on a stronger note. Feels good. I know there will be a lot more ups and downs along the way, but I'm hangin' in there! Is LS ever gonna send me a bill for all this "free" therapy? Thanks all! genEric
slubberdegullion Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Congrats on moving on. IMHO, you've done exactly the right thing, and even your body is telling you that ("Slept like a baby for the first time in weeks!") Good on ya! You use bath fizzies??
Author genEric Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 You use bath fizzies?? I'm more of a soap on a rope kinda guy... ;-)
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