buzzie2 Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 Can anyone explain my boyfriends behavior? I had been out of work for a really long time and I finally got hired at a superstore as a sales rep in the clothing department. At first when I found out I got the job he was excited and said "well I hope eveything works out for you". Anyways, after my first couple of shifts I told him that I really liked the job and that everyone was so friendly and I was having fun!!! Then he said in an unfriendly voice "so I guess things are working out for you". He didn't sound happy at all. I don't understand his attitude. Do you think that maybe he's worried I might meet a guy at work? Or maybe that I'll be making my own money I won't need him? Link to post Share on other sites
mini696 Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 He sound like hes jealous over something. Could be because you are having fun, meeting new people, taking time away from him, could be many things. Talk to him about it and get back to us. Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 New jobs often means meeting new people. Your bf may be a bit worried of the new people you might meet and this includes possible competition. If you think about it many of us see the people we work with more often than see our own families. And there are so many statistics out there about work being the number one place cheating and affairs originate from. The best thing to do is keep him in the loop and involved. Let him meet your coworkers when the opportunity arises so he doesn't feel that he is being excluded. I'm sure he is happy for you just a little leery of the unknown of your new coworkers. Just reassure him and tell him that you think about him at work and miss him, etc. He will get past it, just let the newness wear off and keep in in the know. Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted November 7, 2005 Share Posted November 7, 2005 Maybe he was just in a bad mood, or had something to say and thought you should ask how his day went, or something strange. Link to post Share on other sites
cosmogal Posted November 8, 2005 Share Posted November 8, 2005 I don't understand his attitude. Do you think that maybe he's worried I might meet a guy at work? Or maybe that I'll be making my own money I won't need him? BINGO! That could be it. Either that, or he was really tired when you told him so and he didn't have the energy to be excited for you, though deep down, he's happy. Don't worry about it. He is probably a bit insecure that you'll meet someone else, but it will pass. I've experienced that before too. I just ignore it and move on. As far as the money thing goes, I doubt he's afraid of having your own money. Most (not all) men like a independent woman. I think it may be the first thing you said. It will pass probably. And if it doesn't, it may be a sign he has potential to be possessive. Link to post Share on other sites
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