archangel Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Hi, I am a latina, I started to date an Asian guy, at first things were great as I saw I started to fall more for this him. However his lack of emotion and problems of being affectionate really disturbed me, I am from a close knit family and we are very affectionate and his indifference seems as if he didn't care about me. Who knows maybe he doesn't care about me anymore and found someone new, however he says he is always like this cold. Are all Asian men like this? Cold? not very affectionate, I really like Asian guys but this really bothers me.
sywha Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 nope...i'm very affectionate and show my love in many ways as possible.
AngryAngryOrcMan Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Hi, I am a latina, I started to date an Asian guy, at first things were great as I saw I started to fall more for this him. However his lack of emotion and problems of being affectionate really disturbed me, I am from a close knit family and we are very affectionate and his indifference seems as if he didn't care about me. Who knows maybe he doesn't care about me anymore and found someone new, however he says he is always like this cold. Are all Asian men like this? Cold? not very affectionate, I really like Asian guys but this really bothers me. Actually from my knowledge as an asian guy asian guys are actually very tender, that stereotype that we bash our wives is an untrue stereotype imposed on us by white people! If you look at the Detriot police report for domestic violence WHITE males are up there at number 3! Way above asian males beating thier wives so that **** isnt even remotely real. I think you just got a dud.
Author archangel Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 Hey thanks I guess I had a looser after all, it sucks I really liked him, take care.
alphamale Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Are all Asian men like this? Cold? not very affectionate, I don't know ARCHANGEL....but since were stereotyping large groups are Latina women all sex-starved nymphos who drink to excess and like to do the Tango?
Author archangel Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 Actually I don't drink, do not have one night stands, nor can dance the tango. I didn't mean to stereotype, the idiot guy I was with said it was his culture to act cold, can you believe it? he used his ethnicity to justify his stupidity and that angers me, it hurted me a lot too.
alphamale Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Actually I don't drink, do not have one night stands, nor can dance the tango. I didn't mean to stereotype, well, then there is your answer, pumpkin...
SmoochieFace Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 well, then there is your answer, pumpkin... Guess that means it's HER fault, right?
alphamale Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Guess that means it's HER fault, right? so SMOOCHIE....tell me exactly. Is your brain in Virginia and your body in Michigan, or is it the other way around?
SmoochieFace Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 so SMOOCHIE....tell me exactly. Is your brain in Virginia and your body in Michigan, or is it the other way around? Actually, I divide my time between VA and MI as my GF lives in MI. Anything else? :lmao:
quankanne Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 are Latina women all sex-starved nymphos who drink to excess and like to do the Tango? yes, no, mattress-dancing instead of tango. ... :D to the original poster: some guys like to hide behind perceived image/stereotype because it's easier than making an effort.
sdguy Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 In the words of the great Vanilla Ice... Anyhow, the fact that HE doesn't act affectionate towards you doesn't mean that you aren't deserving or worthy of such affection. It just means that HE isn't that way and you should get rid of him for a better boyfriend. Don't get confused between the two. You have to believe that you are deserving of such treatment from a guy and that you are going to find one and keep giving the boot until you do. I'd say I've had my share of one night stands or short term relationships with girls that I didn't see myself with for the long haul. But when I find girls that I really like, I let them know.
monkey00 Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 I didn't mean to stereotype, the idiot guy I was with said it was his culture to act cold, can you believe it? he used his ethnicity to justify his stupidity and that angers me, it hurted me a lot too. Wow sorry to hear that archangel. Im asian myself and i dont believe that to be true (not for my family anyway), but my dad is like that. The thing is a lot of asian families are tightly knit, respect teh elderly, and still have their traditions. In terms of being affectionate and caring for others, it's slightly true. Most asian families are nothing like your southern white families. Most (not all) asians keep to themselves, and not much of emotion expressing going on. Families of other ethnicities are probably the opposite, more hugging and stuff going on. But a lot of it has to do with upbringing. Probably his parents are the type that i mentioned in paragraph 2. As for what your friend said, i would not say he's completely lying to you. I suppose he strongly believes in how he was raised, and doesnt want to change. Im sure there are better guys out there, he wasnt worth the trouble.
Chicana01 Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Hey Archangel, I'm Latina and I have been with my Vietnamese boyfriend for 7 months now...and still counting He's very affectionate, compassionate, caring...etc etc. We are very happy and have much things in common. I've dated different guys, different races...and not one of them has been more romantic and loving then my Asian baby
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