akaWetNoodle Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Ok so here's the whole situation.........Get ready cuz its pretty complicated. There's a girl that I met last year at school through her then-boyfriend who is on the college basketball team with me. I've always thought that she was attractive and I love her personality and pretty much everything about her, but I never really considered anything with her because she had a boyfriend and at the time, i had a girlfriend. Well, right before school started back up this year, My girlfriend and I broke up, on my 21st birthday, after 2 years and 8 months of being together. That's a whole story on its own, but anyways. Now that I was back on the market and all, I had started talking to a lot of girls, you know, just looking around. Well, after basketball practice started, I find out from my teammate that they had split up at about the same time me and my girlfriend had. I had seen her around campus a little, but about a week later we ran into each other and started talking a little. Things were all cool between us and we started hanging out quite a bit. At first it was just casual, then we started talking a lot about her and her ex. I knew at that point that she wasn't over him at all, and i was just there comforting her, and trying to help her figure things out. I spent a lot of time just walking with her and listening to her talk about things. I was pretty much just being there for her. The longer things went like this, the more and more i began to like. After about a month of things going like this, she finally came to the point where she was over her ex and pretty much didn't want anything to do with him. To me this was great news, cuz by now i had really started developing feelings for her. From that point on, we started to get closer and closer. Spending a lot of time together, watching movies, eating, and cuddling, etc... By now, i had already told her that i really liked her, and she had told me that she liked me a lot too. I finally got up enough nerve one night when i was leaving her house and asked her if it was alright if i kissed kissed her. She just gave me one of her amazingly cute looks and then we kissed. It was amazing by the way. After that I was smiling the whole way home, and couldn't think about anything but that kiss, yet at the same time i felt sort of bad about it, cuz i felt like i was maybe pushing her a little too much. So, the next day I talked to her about it, and she sort of felt the same way, so we decided to slow things down a bit. After about two weeks, we were hanging out at her house and she came up and kissed me. Pretty much a blatent sign that she was ready for something a little more. Things developed over the next couple of weeks, but thenall of the sudden it seemed like she was avoiding me. It went on for about a week, so I asked her about it. At first she said she wasn't avoiding me, but then i asked her what her feelings were about me. She told me that she didn't really know. She said that i wasn't really sure what she wanted, and didn't really want to have a boyfriend cuz she had to figure things out. That killed me, but being the gentleman that I am, I told her that I understood and that she had all of the time in the world to figure things out. It's killing me inside cuz I like her sooo sooo much, and the last thing that i want to happen is for things to change to us just being friends and then having her start liking someone else. What should I do? Do I stay and wait as patiently as I can? Do I give up on her? The thing that makes it so hard is that she is the only girl that i have really been able to open up to since my ex, and i don't want to lose that. If anyone has any advice please try and help me out, preferably females that might have more perspective from that point of view.
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