brittanyjean259 Posted November 6, 2005 Posted November 6, 2005 i know you eaither lose alot of weight, or gain alot of weight from depression ( of a heart ach)...in my case all i do is eat...and have no motivation tips? haha
jc Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 I've found that I tend to get depressed and lie in bed on the weekends sleeping on and off, not showering, etc. Pretty depressing. Lately, I've been forcing myself to get out of bed and get out the house. I go for a walk with my dog and I actually do feel better. Just getting out of the house, out of my room makes me start to think about things other than him. I also started doing Ashtanga yoga 1 month ago...it's a great workout, and a lot of the focus is on "remaining in the moment" which means not thinking about C, it means thinking about the pose that you are in. Maybe you should give Ashtanga a try. I would certainly recommend it.
Yamaha Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 I know you either lose alot of weight, or gain alot of weight from depression ( of a heart ach)...in my case all i do is eat...and have no motivation You need people to talk to about your ache. Your depression is normal after a break up and people deal with it differently. Some don't eat at all and others find food their best friend. Keeping yourself busy will help take your mind off of him. If the depression gets to deep you may need some professional help. Try to do activities that you enjoy. Don't try to rush the grieving process.
downcydeguy Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Forcing myself to stay busy is the only thing that has even come close to making the time a little more tolerable. If I remember correctly from another post, you are still in school, so finding things to do with friends should not be that difficult. And if eating is all you're doing, force yourself to eat healthy. Unhealthy foods actually spawn more depression.
scobro Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 I couldn't eat I had to force myself to eat I ended up losing 10-15 pounds that I did not want tom lose.I can say that it took a good 3 months to get to where you do not let it occupy your mind completely,you start to move on if you focus on whats best for you.
Author brittanyjean259 Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 thank you, yeah this is my last year of hs...the thing is...memories are every where from school ( of my 9th and 10th year)....and its so sad...to walk the halls...the air seems different..and i have no motivation sometimes...and right now its hard to hang out with people, when they are all happy...i have ups and downs and its hard to except that i have to go through with this...you know the grieving process its just so darn painful......... each day that goes by is another day sooner to when i graduate...and another day sooner to when i feel like my self again though... thank you all
chocolate_boy Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Keeping busy can help for a bit, but personally I find you need to relax, take a few days off work, I went to stay with my folks and now I feel so much better. Found out my ex (who split up with me around 6 weeks ago) is already seeing someone new, after that it changed my outlook on everything, I let go of hope and have really started to get pissed off, why the hell should I feel like this when our relationship meant so little to her. So I have started healing, good healthy food, lots of rest, focussed all my effort into family, friends and work now and started a life-plan on how I can improve myself. I think my main problem is, I was quite lonely before my ex-girlfriend came into my life, and hadn't had a partner for 2 years before her, and at this stage in my life I really don't want to be on my own. I do need to be until I heal from this, and want to do it asap, as it would be our anniversery in a 2 months, I don't want to feel like **** then.
Author brittanyjean259 Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 yeah, i went in to total shock after founding out my ex had been seeing some1 FREAKin week later...and it got better with in 3 months...but than i herd hes moving and now im back from day one....bc than i lost all hope...even though i shouldent have been holding on to hope to begin with.. do you think its a good experience for a 17 year old to go through( after the healing is done)?
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