OLD - How to keep building a connection over phone & text for a couple weeks?

[jgolffan96]

I met this pretty cool girl online via Hinge. She lives in Philly but is moving to my city in a couple weeks. I called her a couple days after I got her phone number, had a good conversation and we've been texting throughout the week. In the past, I wouldn't text a girl enough I think. I would let a day or two pass without texting them and then they wouldn't feel comfortable going on a date obviously because of lack of communication/comfort. I tried to improve on this by asking interesting questions but now I am wondering if I am texting too much or running out of interesting questions. 

Below is a link to some screenshots of our conversation. Any advice on how to keep building a connection over text and phone calls?  I am thinking of calling her today before she leaves for Italy tomorrow but I am not sure if that is too much?

Link to Conversation

[Veryconfused004]

I would say if you’re interested make sure the girl knows you’re interested. Don’t purposely goes days without texting her. Most girls want to feel wanted by you and if you’re going days without talking then they may not feel as wanted. Don’t worry about texting too much. Just text her as much as she texts you. Just get to know her and ask her about her day and what she’s doing and tell her about yours. Things will just start to flow if there is a connection between you two. It’ll just come naturally.

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, justasht said:

. She lives in Philly but is moving to my city in a couple weeks. 

Unfortunately you can't build a relationship through texting. All you can do is get a slight sense of someone. Stay in touch, but wait until you can meet in person before you get too invested.

[Gaeta]

Ask her to video call. Keep it light and fun. More senses you are solicitating more impact you'll make. Video call feels more real than text or just phone. 

[full.of.regret]

2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Unfortunately you can't build a relationship through texting. All you can do is get a slight sense of someone. Stay in touch, but wait until you can meet in person before you get too invested.

I agree with this. It's good to stay in touch, but risky to invest too much before you meet, as when you finally do, you might just not have chemistry etc, and you will really feel the loss.

[Lotsgoingon]

Just stay in touch. Really you can't do anything until she comes to town. That experience in person is what will count. 

 

[Alvi]

Just ask her to contact you when she finally moves into your city. By all means, do ask her out at that point if by that time both of you are single and available. But I would not invest any time or energy into someone who doesn't physically live close by. Unless either of you can drive to see each other way before the move. I suggest that you put everything on a hold till the is actually moves. In a meantime, do talk and date others.

[free_radicals]

The key is to do minimal texting. No texting unless she initiates, and keeping them short and sweet, and eventually ending the convo when there's no additional questions to answer. Video date once a week in the meantime to keep in touch, but for 30 mins. max to avoid this same issue of having nothing to talk about...especially when she finally moves. From the attraction perspective, once you're all talked out through text, then there's nothing interesting for her (and you) to keep discovering about each other. What keeps things exciting is knowing that there's more to discover. Just like a movie- there's suspense when you don't know how it will unfold and the ending. But once someone spoils it for you, then you're likely not want to watch it. 

[smackie9]

You haven't been on a date yet, so keep it short/light with the texting. Do not get invested because you may not like each other irl. Plus you have to assume she is talking/dating others. Don't think you have this in the bag yet.