He rejected me but we hooked up?

[JTSW]

12 hours ago, RennerReiner said:

Does he like me or not?

No, he doesn't.

His compliment was to make his girlfriend jealous.

He has no interest in you whatsoever.

He didn't even recognise you so that should tell you that he doesn't like you.

[JTSW]

In your previous post you were asking the same about a guy who tapped you on the shoulder.

That guy wasn't interested.

This guy isn't interested.

[RennerReiner]

5 hours ago, JTSW said:

No, he doesn't.

His compliment was to make his girlfriend jealous.

He has no interest in you whatsoever.

He didn't even recognise you so that should tell you that he doesn't like you.

Then why did he agree to go out for drinks? I called him outside of the room to ask if he would like to join me and my friends and he said yes and came along until she texted him something and he abruptly left looking all stressed 

[NuevoYorko]

I will reiterate what others have said:  He's given you no reason to think he likes you.  

What you think are reasons, are not.

When you find yourself fixating on this guy,  go somewhere else and change your focus.   He's just some guy doing whatever.  None of it is relative to you personally.

[RennerReiner]

My crush has a female friend who is constantly looking at him, giving him hugs, trying to hold his hand, touching his hair etc when talking. She is his close friends ex girlfriend and he's known her since 2018.

 

She also keeps messaging him and inviting him to events, parties etc.

 

I ve noticed other women also hugging him in the same way , throwing themselves at him when hugging him.

 

He usually pats her on her shoulder and hugs her but I haven't seen them kissing. I ve seen her though, looking at him a lot.

 

I ve seen them together multiple times. Once, they were quite distant and seemed like he was getting very worked up with her. But most of the times, they are always talking, when they meet they hug each other etc.

 

I saw them once and he saw me too. The next day when he came to me, he looked nervous and didn't say anything to me. But I noticed he kept looking at me from across the table while I ignored him.

 

Is he hooking up with her and should I just cut ties with him?

Edited July 5, 2023 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Wiseman2]

3 minutes ago, RennerReiner said:

.should I just cut ties with him?

What ties are there to cut? Are you friends?

[RennerReiner]

4 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

What ties are there to cut? Are you friends?

Potential love interests

[MsJayne]

Sounds like he’s everyone’s crush, so yes, I’d forget about him and stop hoping. 

[BrinnM]

37 minutes ago, RennerReiner said:

Is he hooking up with her and should I just cut ties with him?

Yes, it certainly looks like they have something going on between them. Not sure why you'd be so dramatic to "cut ties", though, unless you feel uncomfortable around him, which doesn't appear to be the case as you call him a crush and a potential love interest. Cutting ties is for people who are family members, lovers, close friends, people we have a history with, and such. All others we just ignore, or we stop hanging out with them, and we stop communicating. No official/dramatic "cutting ties" required.

I don't get the impression that you have that closeness when I read your post. He is just a guy you might be interested in, so what "ties"? He is either in a relationship with her, or wants to be; they seem physically close, they seem to like each other, and they do stuff together, maybe as friends with benefits, who knows.

You need to do nothing at this point. Stand back and watch. If he's single and interested in you, he'll treat you accordingly, and will let you know. If he's with her, you'll soon find out as well, I'd wager.    

 

[NuevoYorko]

Just live your life and my real advice to you is to stop obsessing over this guy or any guy you feel like you have a crush on.  Your crush doesn't translate into anything really going on between you and the guy.  

[RennerReiner]

43 minutes ago, BrinnM said:

Yes, it certainly looks like they have something going on between them. Not sure why you'd be so dramatic to "cut ties", though, unless you feel uncomfortable around him, which doesn't appear to be the case as you call him a crush and a potential love interest. Cutting ties is for people who are family members, lovers, close friends, people we have a history with, and such. All others we just ignore, or we stop hanging out with them, and we stop communicating. No official/dramatic "cutting ties" required.

I don't get the impression that you have that closeness when I read your post. He is just a guy you might be interested in, so what "ties"? He is either in a relationship with her, or wants to be; they seem physically close, they seem to like each other, and they do stuff together, maybe as friends with benefits, who knows.

You need to do nothing at this point. Stand back and watch. If he's single and interested in you, he'll treat you accordingly, and will let you know. If he's with her, you'll soon find out as well, I'd wager.    

 

Then why is he after another girl who tells him to stop talking to her but he won't agree?

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, RennerReiner said:

Potential love interests

Have you ever spoken to him or hung out?

Are there other boys you could talk to and go out with who might be interested in you?

[BrinnM]

6 minutes ago, RennerReiner said:

Then why is he after another girl who tells him to stop talking to her but he won't agree?

Huh? Who's that other girl he's after? I am assuming it's not you?

To summarize for clarity (please correct if I am wrong): He has this one friend you're talking about in your OP (let's assume she is his FWB), he has another chick whom he wants to date, but she won't because of the FWB, and then there's you who has a crush on him. Did I get this right or am I way off? If I got it right, this is even more reason for you to stop interacting and "crushing". 

 

[RennerReiner]

11 minutes ago, BrinnM said:

Huh? Who's that other girl he's after? I am assuming it's not you?

To summarize for clarity (please correct if I am wrong): He has this one friend you're talking about in your OP (let's assume she is his FWB), he has another chick whom he wants to date, but she won't because of the FWB, and then there's you who has a crush on him. Did I get this right or am I way off? If I got it right, this is even more reason for you to stop interacting and "crushing". 

 

It's not me. It's another girl he wanted to hook up with 2 years ago but she wanted a relationship and didn't pursue him for sex. He got sulky but kept her in his contacts and kept talking to her until she told him she wont talk anymore as he never replies to her and he protested saying they should meet to talk. He created a scene in front of his classmates and she got mad eventually dumping him but he didn't agree to it either and kept pestering her to talk until she gave in.

He didn't add her in his contacts for 8 months though but kept talking to her in person and started telling more about his studies/work than before. Then she told me about how some people spoke badly about him and how he's with someone but he kept deflecting the question and never really answered to her if he's with someone or not. He just kept repeating it's my private life etc but wouldnt say if he was with someone. She again said they should stop talking but he refused and said he likes to chit chat with her.

Now he's readded her in his contacts and thinks she looks out for him.

[RennerReiner]

The guy I like has a female friend who is constantly looking at him, giving him hugs, trying to hold his hand, touching his hair etc when talking. She is his close friends ex girlfriend and he's known her since 2018.

 

She also keeps messaging him and inviting him to events, parties etc.

 

I ve noticed other women also hugging him in the same way , throwing themselves at him when hugging him.

 

He usually pats her on her shoulder and hugs her but I haven't seen them kissing. I ve seen her though, looking at him a lot.

 

I ve seen them together multiple times. Once, they were quite distant and seemed like he was getting very worked up with her. But most of the times, they are always talking, when they meet they hug each other etc.

 

I saw them once and he saw me too. The next day when he came to me, he looked nervous and didn't say anything to me. But I noticed he kept looking at me from across the table while I ignored him.

 

Is he hooking up with her and should I just cut ties with him?

On the other hand he has another girl. It's another girl he wanted to hook up with 2 years ago but she wanted a relationship and didn't pursue him for sex. He got sulky but kept her in his contacts and kept talking to her until she told him she wont talk anymore as he never replies to her and he protested saying they should meet to talk. He created a scene in front of his classmates and she got mad eventually dumping him but he didn't agree to it either and kept pestering her to talk until she gave in.

 

He didn't add her in his contacts for 8 months though but kept talking to her in person and started telling more about his studies/work than before. Then she told me about how some people spoke badly about him and how he's with someone but he kept deflecting the question and never really answered to her if he's with someone or not. He just kept repeating it's my private life etc but wouldnt say if he was with someone. She again said they should stop talking but he refused and said he likes to chit chat with her.

 

Now he's readded her in his contacts and thinks she looks out for him.

This girl has tried severing ties with him but to no avail. He even mirrors her clothes like if she starts wearing white, he also does.

What does this mean?

Edited July 4, 2023 by RennerReiner

[Sony12]

5 minutes ago, RennerReiner said:

The guy I like has a female friend who is constantly looking at him, giving him hugs, trying to hold his hand, touching his hair etc when talking. She is his close friends ex girlfriend and he's known her since 2018.

 

She also keeps messaging him and inviting him to events, parties etc.

 

I ve noticed other women also hugging him in the same way , throwing themselves at him when hugging him.

 

He usually pats her on her shoulder and hugs her but I haven't seen them kissing. I ve seen her though, looking at him a lot.

 

I ve seen them together multiple times. Once, they were quite distant and seemed like he was getting very worked up with her. But most of the times, they are always talking, when they meet they hug each other etc.

 

I saw them once and he saw me too. The next day when he came to me, he looked nervous and didn't say anything to me. But I noticed he kept looking at me from across the table while I ignored him.

 

Is he hooking up with her and should I just cut ties with him?

On the other hand he has another girl. It's another girl he wanted to hook up with 2 years ago but she wanted a relationship and didn't pursue him for sex. He got sulky but kept her in his contacts and kept talking to her until she told him she wont talk anymore as he never replies to her and he protested saying they should meet to talk. He created a scene in front of his classmates and she got mad eventually dumping him but he didn't agree to it either and kept pestering her to talk until she gave in.

 

He didn't add her in his contacts for 8 months though but kept talking to her in person and started telling more about his studies/work than before. Then she told me about how some people spoke badly about him and how he's with someone but he kept deflecting the question and never really answered to her if he's with someone or not. He just kept repeating it's my private life etc but wouldnt say if he was with someone. She again said they should stop talking but he refused and said he likes to chit chat with her.

 

Now he's readded her in his contacts and thinks she looks out for him.

This girl has tried severing ties with him but to no avail. He even mirrors her clothes like if she starts wearing white, he also does.

What does this mean?

You just mention you like him. Are you two actually dating or do you just fancy him like the other girls seem to. How much interaction do you two actually have?

[RennerReiner]

9 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

You just mention you like him. Are you two actually dating or do you just fancy him like the other girls seem to. How much interaction do you two actually have?

We aren't dating. I like him. But I'm concerned why he won't dump the other girl and gas now re-added her?

[Sony12]

8 minutes ago, RennerReiner said:

We aren't dating. I like him. But I'm concerned why he won't dump the other girl and gas now re-added her?

Well you two aren't dating so he is free to talk to and flirt with anyone he chooses. If you like him ask him out. See what he says. Just mention to him sometime that you'd like to see a movie or have dinner with him sometime.

Edited July 4, 2023 by Sony12

[RennerReiner]

1 minute ago, Sony12 said:

Well you two aren't dating so he is free to talk to and flirt with anyone he chooses. If you like him ask him out. See what he says. Just mention to him sometime that you'd like to see a movie or have dinner with him sometime.

What about this girl?

[Wiseman2]

1 minute ago, RennerReiner said:

What about this girl?

How old is she? Does he like more mature girls?

[basil67]

1 minute ago, RennerReiner said:

What about this girl?

If you're bothered that he's talking with her, then don't ask him out.  If you're not bothered, then go ahead

[Sony12]

If you feel like he is acting inappropriate than raise the issue to an authority figure.

[central]

He may like to have beta orbiters, like many women do. He just doesn't want to date them, IMO, but doesn't really mind having them around, either.

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, RennerReiner said:

.He even mirrors her clothes like if she starts wearing white, he also does.

Does he ever wear the same colors you wear?

[NuevoYorko]

Seriously:  This guy's  interactions and relationships with other people are NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. 

Okay, you like him.  Your business is confined to YOUR interactions with him.  Be aware that there is no guarantee that he likes you back.  In your posts there are not any mentions of the two of you having anything going on whatsoever.   So, you might be disappointed.