He rejected me but we hooked up?

[JTSW]

4 minutes ago, RennerReiner said:

I mean wasnt it a romantic touch?

No.

What are you hoping to achieve with all these questions?

Are you hoping someone will agree with you?

Because so far NOBODY has agreed with you.

Everyone agrees that he has no intention of dating you.

He told you so himself.

[stillafool]

48 minutes ago, RennerReiner said:

 

But does patting on shoulder mean more?

It means nothing.  I pat my mailman on his shoulder.  Absolutely zilch.

[RennerReiner]

13 minutes ago, stillafool said:

It means nothing.  I pat my mailman on his shoulder.  Absolutely zilch.

He always did it tho

[stillafool]

1 minute ago, RennerReiner said:

He always did it tho

And it always meant nothing other than a hand on the shoulder.  I do that to children.

[ZA Dater]

My suggestion would be to take a step back and stop over thinking his actions and seeing what perhaps is not there. As people we tend to do this when we want a certain outcome but often that outcome is not realistic and the objective facts suggest that outcome is unlikely.

[Versacehottie]

2 hours ago, RennerReiner said:

He always did it tho

it could easily alternatively mean, he feels pity for you or feels sorry for you. A pity or sympathetic pat...Study body language and you will find that information. 

I think you are misinterpreting a lot and agree you are getting too obsessive and would benefit from professional help/therapy. 

I have no idea why you are saying you bullied anyone on Instagram like it's a good thing. It's not and you shouldn't be doing that. 

Apart from the fact that he is not interested in you romantically, you also need to accept that people may start off with one feeling, ie to be open to a relationship with a person, but over time (a little or a lot), have enough information where they decide they do not want a relationship with that person. Feelings evolve and open to a relationship becomes not open to a relationship once they know enough to make that decision. Sounds like that might have been a possibility. You need to accept that you cannot change that.

[ExpatInItaly]

3 hours ago, RennerReiner said:

He always did it tho

So? 

He has told you he doesn't want a relationship with you. Do you not believe him? 

[RennerReiner]

2 hours ago, Versacehottie said:

it could easily alternatively mean, he feels pity for you or feels sorry for you. A pity or sympathetic pat...Study body language and you will find that information. 

I think you are misinterpreting a lot and agree you are getting too obsessive and would benefit from professional help/therapy. 

I have no idea why you are saying you bullied anyone on Instagram like it's a good thing. It's not and you shouldn't be doing that. 

Apart from the fact that he is not interested in you romantically, you also need to accept that people may start off with one feeling, ie to be open to a relationship with a person, but over time (a little or a lot), have enough information where they decide they do not want a relationship with that person. Feelings evolve and open to a relationship becomes not open to a relationship once they know enough to make that decision. Sounds like that might have been a possibility. You need to accept that you cannot change that.

So you agree he liked me before?

[Versacehottie]

3 hours ago, RennerReiner said:

So you agree he liked me before?

Not at all.

This is why you need help (or maybe are you trolling? idk)

To choose to take or misinterpret what I said, to mind bend it to fit the narrative that you want to be true today is delusional.   Or perhaps your ego cannot take in the information that is the only relevant information: He is not interested in you.

Seek some help. Good luck 

[Lisa]

Thread has been closed as the question has been thoroughly answered and is now going in circles.  Thank you all for your participation

[RennerReiner]

He complimented me 8 months ago saying I look good in front of his on and off girlfriend or love interest and when I invited him to go out for drinks with my female friends, he agreed and came along. He was fine until his girlfriend texted him something which made him very stressed and he abruptly left.

 

Turns out she was upset with him for some reason and they had a brief break up but they got together again.

 

He never interacted much with me after that. We would chat but he did not compliment or say anything after that.

 

I was trying to gossip about her to my female friends because she stole me from him but she told him about me

His gf was trying to talk to him back in 2021 as she told my close friend (they were friends) that she used to see him staring at her and my friend told me so I told my friend to tell her to not approach him as he's dating someone. I liked him back in 2021 too but he said he was seeing someone to me (he wasnt, he was casually hooking up but nit exclusive) .

 

His gf still approached him and I guess that's when they got together

 

He complimented me in front of her so I thought he likes me but my friend said he was trying to make her jealous as he told my friend why she didnt tell him that our guy friend had gone to Poland (even though he barely talks to this friend of mine and we were never close).

He was talking to my friend in our shared study space and when my friend tried to tell him about me (without mentioning my name) , describing how I look/hair colour changes, he did not recognise me initially. Instead, he thought of my other friend who constantly colours her hair. He only recognised me when my friend mentioned how I asked him out for drinks .

 

He likes me right so how can he not recognise me and see my hair changes? I dyed my black hair to highlights to reddish but he couldn't recognise me??

 

He literally complimented me?

[smackie9]

Sorry but this guy is bad news. On and off GF means he plays games and manipulates. While he has a GF at home he's out flirting with you. It's no wonder his GF is checking up on him/jealous. She's not the problem ...he is! Just walk away.

[RennerReiner]

17 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

Sorry but this guy is bad news. On and off GF means he plays games and manipulates. While he has a GF at home he's out flirting with you. It's no wonder his GF is checking up on him/jealous. She's not the problem ...he is! Just walk away.

So you agree he likes me?

[smackie9]

39 minutes ago, RennerReiner said:

So you agree he likes me?

I wouldn't know. Some guys do it for an ego boost.

[RennerReiner]

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[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, RennerReiner said:

He was fine until his girlfriend texted him something which made him very stressed and he abruptly left.He never interacted much with me after that. We would chat but he did not compliment or say anything after that.

Try not to bother with people in on/off relationships and their games.It doesn't matter if this guy likes you or not, he has a GF.

You're much better off getting your own BF. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting men.

Do you work? Go to school? Join some groups and clubs volunteer, get involved in sports and fitness, take some classes and courses and broaden your social horizons. This way you can make friends and meet men.

Focus on available single quality men, who are interested in you and ask you out.

[RennerReiner]

54 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Try not to bother with people in on/off relationships and their games.It doesn't matter if this guy likes you or not, he has a GF.

You're much better off getting your own BF. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting men.

Do you work? Go to school? Join some groups and clubs volunteer, get involved in sports and fitness, take some classes and courses and broaden your social horizons. This way you can make friends and meet men.

Focus on available single quality men, who are interested in you and ask you out.

Does he like me or not?

[Wiseman2]

7 minutes ago, RennerReiner said:

Does he like me or not?

No. Men who like you ask you out.

[Wiseman2]

3 hours ago, RennerReiner said:

I was trying to gossip about her to my female friends because she stole me from him but she told him about me

Is this the same man?:

 

[RennerReiner]

19 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

No. Men who like you ask you out.

Then why compliment?

[MsJayne]

12 minutes ago, RennerReiner said:

Then why compliment?

Because when males think they've got a reasonable chance of getting sex with you they'll pretend they "like" you. It's extremely common behaviour. If he was genuinely interested in you he would have acted on that and asked you out. It sounds as though this guy likes himself way more than he likes anyone else. Think about it, he has a GF but he's wanting attention from other girls. This is jerk behaviour. The red flags are there, take notice of them. 

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, RennerReiner said:

Then why compliment?

Is this the same man?:

 

[mtnbiker3000]

2 hours ago, RennerReiner said:

Does he like me or not?

Reminds me of high school...

Ask Susie to ask Jane to ask Billy to ask Tom. Then you'll know for sure!

[ExpatInItaly]

He complimented you once 8 months ago and you think he likes you? 

[basil67]

11 hours ago, RennerReiner said:

He likes me right so how can he not recognise me and see my hair changes? I dyed my black hair to highlights to reddish but he couldn't recognise me??

Your post is so convoluted that I'm having trouble following.  But one compliment and hanging out in a friend group does not mean he likes you.  And if REALLY liked you, he would have recognised you with different hair.

Anyway, there's nothing in any of this to suggest he likes you romantically