cooljack23 Posted April 18, 2023 Posted April 18, 2023 (edited) How long should start saying I love you to my new girlfriend we just started yesterday Edited April 18, 2023 by a LoveShack.org Moderator clarify title
Wiseman2 Posted April 18, 2023 Posted April 18, 2023 14 minutes ago, cooljack23 said: saying I love you to my new girlfriend we just started yesterday When it feels right. How long have you been dating?
Author cooljack23 Posted April 18, 2023 Author Posted April 18, 2023 39 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: When it feels right. How long have you been dating? Two day
Wiseman2 Posted April 18, 2023 Posted April 18, 2023 Just now, cooljack23 said: Two day You've been dating for 2 days? How old is she? Have you gone on a date?
Author cooljack23 Posted April 18, 2023 Author Posted April 18, 2023 1 minute ago, cooljack23 said: Two day I'm 28 and she is 38 she said the told me we have to wait how long to wait
Giovane Posted April 18, 2023 Posted April 18, 2023 (edited) 33 minutes ago, cooljack23 said: I'm 28 and she is 38 she said the told me we have to wait how long to wait There is no hard and fast rule that applies to every relationship. However, it‘s definitely a step up from something like „I like you“ or „You‘re cute“ or even „I want to kiss you“, so I think you should wait until you have really lived in the relationship for a time. You know, once you have created some memories together, once you have become a regular part of each other‘s daily life and being with her doesn‘t feel new any more. To many people, me included, the word „love“ conveys deeper feelings than just the initial attraction, which one can quickly and easily develop towards lots of people. The word conveys something that should feel more earned, less easy to come by. Hence, I think that saying „I love you“ too early may come across as insincere, because you haven‘t given your relationship enough time yet to honestly gauge whether your feelings are actually that deep. (Again, this is not the same as feeling attracted to her in the initial stages of dating or of a relationship.) In my last relationship, it took us a couple of months to say „I love you“. Edited April 18, 2023 by Giovane
Author cooljack23 Posted April 18, 2023 Author Posted April 18, 2023 8 minutes ago, Giovane said: There is no hard and fast rule that applies to every relationship. However, it‘s definitely a step up from something like „I like you“ or „You‘re cute“ or even „I want to kiss you“, so I think you should wait until you have really lived in the relationship for a time. You know, once you have created some memories together, once you have become a regular part of each other‘s daily life and being with her doesn‘t feel new any more. To many people, me included, the word „love“ conveys deeper feelings than just the initial attraction, which one can quickly and easily develop towards lots of people. The word conveys something that should feel more earned, less easy to come by. Hence, I think that saying „I love you“ too early may come across as insincere, because you haven‘t given your relationship enough time yet to honestly gauge whether your feelings are actually that deep. (Again, this is not the same as feeling attracted to her in the initial stages of dating or of a relationship.) In my last relationship, it took us a couple of months to say „I love you“. I was just ask what should I say to my new girlfriend? I love you how long is your take ask
Giovane Posted April 18, 2023 Posted April 18, 2023 I used to say things like „I like you“ or „I like you a lot“, or maybe „You‘re a great woman“. Be careful though. Don‘t drown her in compliments, give her room to breathe. If you like her and think she is special, there are other ways of showing that: be considerate, be affectionate, treat her well, maybe surprise her from time to time, try to make her feel good, comfortable, relaxed, and maybe make her laugh. All of this can be equally important as words, because talk is cheap. Actions speak louder than words, and women know that, too.
Gaeta Posted April 18, 2023 Posted April 18, 2023 2 hours ago, cooljack23 said: How long should start saying I love you to my new girlfriend we just started yesterday What does * I love you * mean to you? I know a woman that would say ILY to her guy after 2-3 dates. Her lLY means she is excited and feeling giddy. My *I love you* means l want to spend the rest of my life with you, l will love you, support you through eveything life throws at us. So again: what your *ILY* means? 1
ShyViolet Posted April 19, 2023 Posted April 19, 2023 3 hours ago, cooljack23 said: How long should start saying I love you to my new girlfriend we just started yesterday Why are you asking this or worrying about this when you have been dating her literally two days? This is not something that you should be worrying about at this point. It's a long way off. Do you have any experience with dating?
NuevoYorko Posted April 19, 2023 Posted April 19, 2023 First you'll need to get to know her very well. Only then will you know whether you have fallen in love. I think that might take a minimum of 6 months and probably longer. Then you will need to think about when and how to let her know, which is a whole different question. But now, you don't even know her - so you don't love her now either.
Wiseman2 Posted April 19, 2023 Posted April 19, 2023 6 hours ago, cooljack23 said: I'm 28 and she is 38 she said the told me we have to wait how long to wait Have you been dating in person? How did you meet?
JTSW Posted April 19, 2023 Posted April 19, 2023 After only 2 days I don't think it's love. It's way too soon. I think you may be infatuated by her and mistaking it for love. There are no rules on when to say it.
basil67 Posted April 19, 2023 Posted April 19, 2023 You say that you've been dating for two days. But how long have you known her for? Perhaps you've known her for a year and have fallen in love with her over that time.
Author cooljack23 Posted April 19, 2023 Author Posted April 19, 2023 (edited) Last night at the movies I held her hand. What sing of Love with a new girlfriend Edited April 19, 2023 by cooljack23
JTSW Posted April 19, 2023 Posted April 19, 2023 9 minutes ago, cooljack23 said: Last night at the movies I held her hand. What sing of Love with a new girlfriend I'm guessing you are very young.
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