I hate him

[KatieMae]

ok so heres my story. hopefully someone can help. i really need help and i have no one to talk to and ne one i do talk to doesnt take me seriously bc im so young. im 18 yrs old and ive been with my bf for 3 yrs (since i was 15). he is the only guy ive ever "been" with and we are supposed to get married. when we first met he was 21 and i was 15 now hes 24 and im 18. everything has changed. he use to be sooo nice to me- that's why i fell for him-but now he is never nice to me, he never wants to have sex with me and everything about me annoys him. he basically hates me. well i hate him too i hate the way he talks, i hate the way he breathes, i hate the way he eats, i hate everything about him. so we should brake up, right? thats what i think ne way, but he doesn't. The problems started as soon as we hooked up. he was into drugs, hes an alcoholic, he was homeless,and he didnt have a job. i was living with my mom and i was in school and working full time as a waitress. i took care of him, i bought him every meal he ate everyday, i payed for motels for him to stay in when it got too cold to sleep outside. he eventually got a job and we got a place together and about a year ago, he changed. i swear his change took place in one day. one morning i woke up and he was mean. he says hurtful things all the time, he acts like i am completely disgusting. today before i went to work he called me a stupid fat bitch (i weigh 130 lbs after gaining 10 lbs following an abortion) What i need is help. he treats me like **** but he wont admit it, he tells me that we r going to be together forever. he just wont admit that its time to say its over. we are both financially dependant on one another so splitting up is going to be very difficult. im willing to take the financial blow if it means getting my happiness back and im willing to lose my brand new car, but how do i get him to give it all up? how do i get him to leave?(the home we live in is owned by me) ive asked him to leave, and he wouldnt then i told him he had to leave, and he didnt. hes a guy, hes bigger than me, i cant just pick him up and kick him out, and even if i could, i know he would come back. i dont want to be another stupid woman, please anyone, give me suggestions.

[IsHeListening]

Honey, I am so glad u are on here. I am a 21 year old female and think i can give you some advice. You sound very mature and the fact that you acknowlege that you need to end things is great. Growing up my mother dated a lot of loosers (my father died when i was 3) and your boyfriend reminded me of one. He didnt work my mom took care of him and let him move in, he was an alchy, addicted to drugs. My mom didnt want him around anymore because he was so mean to her and i and he was a huge disaster, my mother was also scared of him and couldnt just kick him out because he would of "punished" her for that. My mom finally had to get him out by the police after he hurt her so bad her face was swollen the size of a tennis ball and he had ripped all of her clothes off, broken her arm and fractured her hip. Please take all the necessary procautions to get him away from you because he could turn into what hers did. If you have to get the police involved do it, i know it may be scary but definatly worth it. What about your parents? can they help? Please get rid of him even if you have to go to the police department and file a complaint and a restraining order. it may sound dramatic but believe me...it will be worth it.