Wo_ai_ni Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 Hi guys and gals, I've been reading through these forums and I've noticed that when women mention what qualities they find most attractive in men, confidence is usually high up there on their list. Now my question is, what exactly does 'having confidence' mean? Can anyone give me some examples of situations or actions where a man is seen as confident, and therefore attractive to women? Thanks, Wo_ai_ni
konfuzd Posted November 6, 2005 Posted November 6, 2005 Having confidence means that you are comfortable with who you are, and don't try to adapt yourself to who you think she wants to date. A specific example: I am a huge music fan.... I began flirting with this guy, and mentioned how much I liked music, and we started talking about bands and such... he told me he was into all the same bands as me, and that he was the singer in a similar style band... all lies... it came out on our 3rd or 4th date that he'd never heard of half the bands I mentioned and he wasn't really in a band, he just told me all these things to impress me... Don't use this approach... I ran, never to talk to him again! If you want to use your confidence as a selling point, just tell her specific things you are into, don't wait to compare yourself to her. Don't get yourself into one of those, "what do you want to do?" "I don't know, what do you want to do?" situations... Assert yourself, and ask her to dinner, to a specific restauraunt, or to go see a specific movie. Show her that you know what you want and you're going to get it... that to me is really, really sexy.
Walk Posted November 6, 2005 Posted November 6, 2005 It's accepting who you are, flaws and all, and feeling comfortable that others may not. Always striving to be the best you can be, but not for someone else's happiness. It's believing that you are an important person, that you're thoughts and feelings are just as important as everyone else's. While knowing you aren't "better" then others, but equal. If you're comfortable in who you are, it comes across as confident. Because if you aren't afraid to show people who you are, you'll be relaxed, your actions will be true, your words won't be hesitant, your feelings will come across clear. That is confidence. Relaxed shoulders, head held high, looking people in the eye and unafraid of their opinions or thoughts about you. Knowing that if one person doesn't like you, doesn't make you less of a person. That there's 3.2 million people out there and a majority of them are going to like you just because you are who you are. Understanding that being alone is not the worst thing in the world that could happen to you. And if you accept that we're always alone, no matter what, then you can't fear being alone.
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