Fallen_Angel Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 I don't know how many of you are familiar with my sob story about my ex, but he broke up with me 7 months ago after three and a half years together, so suffice it to say this year has been hellish. One of the upshots of the breakup, so to speak, is that I realized I needed to take another direction with my career and found myself a better job closer to home. I've made a few friends at work and through one of these said new friends I met a guy. We went on our second official date last night and I feel as though I've gone all overanalytical, as I tend to do. NO, I'm not torturing myself as to whether he'll call and all that nonsense...rather, I'm just not sure how I feel about this guy. I know I haven't known him all that long, so it is rather strange to have to make up my mind so quickly. My friend from work is VERY excited for me and really hopes things work out, which is a bit more pressure than I'd like! NG (new guy) is sweet, really easy to talk to, and fun to hang out with...and ok, is very willing to do things with his tongue that my ex hated to do... whoops, am I digressing?! Anyhow, I don't feel the "spark," or at least I haven't yet. I'm not sure if my ex has totally destroyed my view of relationships or what, but at this point I would much rather have a casual fling-type thing with NG than anything else...what's wrong with me?!
AndrewJ Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 Must be hard Fa, That spark that ur chasing is being blurred by ur memories of ur ex. His tongue is golden!!! golden tongue what more do u need;)
smile95 Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 I am having the same issue!!!!!!! I think we need to let the spark develop as we get to know them. I have been racking my brain and other peoples brains too! They all say that once you see how they treat you and make you feel, they become more attractive. I cried the other night after my 3rd date all becasue I was afraid I would not have that connection I had with the ex. Not one thing is wronog with the new one, but I want that spark!!!!! I know exactly what you feel. I am hoping that it has nothing to do with the exes. Try not to compare too much. I had to stop that. My attraction and chemistry with my ex was insane! I wanted that again, but I have to see that being loved and cared about is better in the long run then just having the spark! Well, at least that is what I keep saying to myself! lol
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