Aquarius9 Posted April 3, 2023 Posted April 3, 2023 I knew of someone through someone else but had never actually spoken to her, I ended up meeting up with her a couple of times, we hit it off so well. We met up in the evening at her friend's place and it could hardly have gone better (no, not in one certain way). We clicked enormously well, we seemed like two similar people. I've been on dates before with people where we had no chemistry, but here, the chemistry was off the charts. She was really flirty on the day afterwards, she was talking about meeting up again afterwards, about coming to mine. It seemed like she was set on me. Even took herself off the apps. Then, the second day after, she started being a bit 'off' and I could tell something was up but I didn't want to come across as needy. We texted a few times while I was at work today, she then said we should call off what we had going on. I was floored. For it to be so good one evening, to less than 72 hours later, it's nothing, I had to take my break immediately - I just couldn't understand. After I asked a bit more, she said it wasn't anything I did, she had met someone else. I didn't really speak much further, I just sat in my car on my break and just wanted to be alone. I suppose this is dating, right? I just feel a bit... I dunno. There's a term I'm looking for but can't find. Why be like that with me then meet up with someone else?
ccas93 Posted April 3, 2023 Posted April 3, 2023 sounds like you barely knew each other. maybe she realized how silly it was to take herself off the apps that soon. Sucks when something seemingly good doesn't work out, but I wouldn't worry too much about it.
mortensorchid Posted April 3, 2023 Posted April 3, 2023 It's okay guy, you barely knew this gal at all. She said she is moving onto greener pastures and that's that. It's what it is.
ShyViolet Posted April 3, 2023 Posted April 3, 2023 You barely knew her and you had only hung out a couple of times. This is why you should not build up such high expectations in your mind when it is that early. Stuff like this happens all the time in dating. Just brush yourself off and move on.
Wiseman2 Posted April 3, 2023 Posted April 3, 2023 4 hours ago, Aquarius9 said: I asked a bit more, she said it wasn't anything I did, she had met someone else Sorry for the disappointment. After flirting a bit, she changed her mind. It probably doesn't have anything to do with you. Maybe you dodged a bullet, she seems flighty if she's supposedly 'taking herself off apps' and inviting herself over after meeting once.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 3, 2023 Posted April 3, 2023 6 hours ago, Aquarius9 said: Why be like that with me then meet up with someone else? She acted impulsively taking herself off the dating apps when she barely knew you. That early on, you should not assume that anyone is "set" on you, as you don't know them and anything can happen. It's disappointing but it's not worth over-analyzing.
smackie9 Posted April 3, 2023 Posted April 3, 2023 She is very charming and possibly was multi dating or weighing her options. You don't really know much about her, and may have had lots of suiters, or some guy she was trying to forget resurfaced. You just assumed, and over invested. That is what can get you into trouble. Next time really slow your roll.
Mrin Posted April 3, 2023 Posted April 3, 2023 It happens. I wouldn't stress it. I've been on both sides of this equation. Several times.
OurLoveTurnsToRust Posted April 3, 2023 Posted April 3, 2023 Maybe she was ovulating, wanted a stud like you, maybe she'll be back around in a few weeks... Sorry, just thought you needed a little humor, hang in there Buddy...
spiderowl Posted April 18, 2023 Posted April 18, 2023 Really sorry this happened. I have noticed that some people are 'all in' at first in any relationship, then they flit from one person to another. I think just be wary of anyone who seems like they are wildly interested when they don't really know you yet. It is no failing in you but just that they are very enthusiastic, impulsive personalities and turn on the charm. Personally, I am the opposite - very reserved to the point that people are never sure I even like them (but that's another story). However, I have come across these flirtatious, flighty people. I think they convince themselves they have met 'the one' and then do the same with the next person they meet. In fact, a family member of mine know someone just like this who leaves a trail of destruction behind her. Her excuse is that she believes she is in love with them from the start. They barely last 3 months and then she 'falls in love' with someone else. Of course it could be that your date has really met 'the one' but it is more likely that she is flighty and unreliable. Although it feels horrible, it is best you find out now than weeks later when you are ready for commitment and she spots her next object of romance.
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