CurvyGurl Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 I guess he wasn't that into me. He cared but couldn't show it can kept saying 'I can't promise it will work out between us'. I feel sick and I am in physical pain. I was hoping he would be IT for me.
Art_Critic Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 Sorry CG that it didn't work out for you.. I wish I had words of wisdom that could make things better.. Were all your friends here.. *** hug ***
Fallen_Angel Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 I'm sorry sweetie. I did read a few of your posts about the guy and he did sound like a winner. Keep your chin up. There's lots of support for you here. :bunny: Plus, as I've been telling myself for months, there are tons of fish in the sea...
MakeMeBeautiful Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 I'm sorry. You must feel horrible right now. When I break up with a guy I listen to my sad love songs cd, throw little momentos into a box, and cry. But I only allow myself a set amount of time to grieve before moving on with my life. I have a box filled with guitar picks, knottsberry farm tickets, matchbooks from various restaurants, pictures...when i can look at the items in the box without cryings, that is when i know i will be okay.
noclobber Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 I guess he wasn't that into me. He cared but couldn't show it can kept saying 'I can't promise it will work out between us'. I feel sick and I am in physical pain. I was hoping he would be IT for me. CG i am deeply sorry to hear about ur break-up! but if it doesn't work out it just doesn't work out.. i know how u r feeling now but trust me with time u will be able to come out of this and start meeting new ppl. and when u do meet someone interesting the old baggages get dropped off automatically as ur focus is now on the new person. i am currently waiting to ask a girl that i am seeing b'cos she broke-up with her LDR boyfriend only last wednesday. even though it was she that broke-up i still don't want to rush things and am waiting to ask her out. all the signs that she is into me are very apparent but i want to be patient.. i wud suggest that u now take some time for urself, de-compress, catch up with ur friends, visit ur parents, etc... good luck, hope u feel better soon
Israfil Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 Oh No! I am so sorry to hear this! I was rooting for you. But there are other fish in the sea, and a better fish for you will come swimming along when you least expect it. Take time to heal. *bighug* Next weekend, you and your girls go to Compound and have a great ladies night out!
Author CurvyGurl Posted November 14, 2005 Author Posted November 14, 2005 The breakup email. I still cannot believe this.. Sorry about the email but this is the best way I can express myself clearly. The reason I signed up on plentyoffish is because I thought I was ready to date again. I wasn't 100% sure but I dived in anyway. Now that I have dated you I feel that I wasn't ready simply because the same issues I had with my ex and other relationships have come forward in ours, not once but twice and maybe other times that you haven't mentioned. I have come to realize that I am a self centered person and I always have been. I will put myself or my family first before thinking about anybody else even if it's a best friend, girlfriend or whatever. Is it a good or bad thing I don't know but I am comfortable with it. I must say that I enjoy my freedom. I love coming and going as I please. I don't like being on a time schedule. If I feel like being alone then that's what I want. If I feel like being around people then I will choose to do so. I don't like planning my schedule around someone else's and being in a relationship, that's what has to happen. Being alone this weekend has helped me realize this. I love being in control of my life. When we first talked on the Internet I told you I was looking for marriage and all the good stuff that came along with it. At the time that was what I wanted but I spoke too soon. I say that simply because I thought I was ready. Society says a person must be married and have kids by a certain age. I listened to society and not my heart. This weekend has given me a lot of time to think, and I have come to realize that my unwillingness to let you or any other person into my private life can ruin that relationship. I am settled on being a bachelor for the rest of my life. Sounds crazy but I am happy with that decision. I acknowledge my mistake and will learn from it. I truly apologize for what has taken place in the pass 6 months. If I could take everything back I would. You do not deserve to be around a person like me. I apologize for misleading you. You are a great catch and any man would be blessed to have a woman like you. Blah blah blah. I'm selfish man, I'm not changing, have a nice life.
konfuzd Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 Sounds like a load of crap to me. He sounds very immature and looking to objectify women, and somehow feels he has the right to treat others like crap. You don't need that, nor does any other woman he decides to play his little games with. I noticed you changed your pic, and you look GREAT!!! Work with that and find someone who will treat you with respect and decency!
noclobber Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 CG, i am not trying offend you but from this email ur ex gives the impression of a very selfish person!! its not right to toy with somebody's feelings when they themselves are not sure about their lame lives.... i think u wud be better off without this person... keep ur chin up.. i dunno whether u read my previous post in this thread.. i had mentioned that i was about to ask out a girl. that didn't work out and i am broken too... she had all the fun with me, gave the signals, and when i actually told her about my feelings she stomped on it!!! she is very very selfish.... i am hurting so much but i have plenty of support from LS members... get moving on with ur life... good luck to you!
downcydeguy Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 Why are you all so quick to jump all over this guy for ending the relationship? Yes, I completely disagree with him doing it through email, but at least he was honest about it. If he truly thought he was ready to get serious again, why is it wrong that he tried? I'm sorry that you are hurting but at least it was only 6 months - not 6 years. Take your time, get over him, and hit the scene again. You'll find a better match at some point. Good luck.
brittanyjean259 Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 girl, we feel your pain- your going to be just fine though:).......
brittanyjean259 Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 i just saw your age, i really thought you were younger:) :)from your picture of course
kitkat826 Posted November 14, 2005 Posted November 14, 2005 Awww I'm sorry, girl. At least you find out now and not a year from now. Go out and have some FUN, whatever that means for you.
Author CurvyGurl Posted November 14, 2005 Author Posted November 14, 2005 i just saw your age, i really thought you were younger:) :)from your picture of course Thanks, I have always had a babyface.
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