Fyonnaa Posted March 26, 2023 Posted March 26, 2023 I think I'm in love with my classmate. I still haven't came out to her yet but apparently she's an lgtbtq supporter. I'm living in a place where lgbtq isn'taken quite well. I've been trying hard get closer with her. I have been regularly texting her and have asked her to go to an art convention but she said she was busy. Right now, she considers me her bestie. Rationality tells me we might work out. What should I do?
Wiseman2 Posted March 26, 2023 Posted March 26, 2023 1 hour ago, Fyonnaa said: . I'm living in a place where lgbtq isn'taken quite well. Right now, she considers me her bestie. If you're friends, that's fine. However if same sex relationships are not favorable in your area, you may want to be careful. The other problem is you don't know her orientation. It's possible you're setting yourself up for headaches and heartaches by pretending to be a friend when you would rather find a partner. 1
ShyViolet Posted March 26, 2023 Posted March 26, 2023 Before telling her that you have feelings for her, I think it would be a good idea to just find out whether she is gay or not. Find out if she has dated guys or is seeing anyone. So if you find out she is not gay, you won't embarrass yourself by telling her you have feelings for her that will make her uncomfortable or cause an awkward situation, and likely even ruin the friendship. 2
smackie9 Posted March 27, 2023 Posted March 27, 2023 (edited) Just because she's a supporter doesn't make her gay unless she has told you as such. I suggest when a discussion comes up about the LGBTQ community you can admit you like girls, and then feel things out from there. Blurting out you love someone or have feelings for them, gay or not, it is never a good idea to do that. let things unfold organically instead of bringing on awkwardness and the possibility of total rejection. Edited March 27, 2023 by smackie9 2
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