Fromage Posted March 18, 2023 Posted March 18, 2023 I am now the ripe old age of 30, and have been in numerous relationships since the age of 21, but none of them ever went anywhere serious like engagement or marriage. Although it almost happened on 2 occasions but it never did. I just feel like I am past my prime and should just throw in the towel, as I want to settle down and have a family but with so many failed relationships I don't see it happening. Also relationships are mentally and emotionally time consuming that when it collapses it just sucks the life out of me because I know I have to start the process all over again. :/ It would really uplift me if I hear any users on here who have stories of them finding love and settling down in their 30s as I feel like my ship has sailed. :/
Gaeta Posted March 18, 2023 Posted March 18, 2023 My brother met his wife at 38. They started their family they were both 40. Now they have 2 beautiful todlers running around. Sometimes life waits a bit to bring us a gift. 2
Weezy1973 Posted March 18, 2023 Posted March 18, 2023 I met my wife when I was 43. She was 33. Now married, two kids (just had our second 2 weeks ago), both have careers we love. We do have a cranky cat though. So not everything is perfect. 2
Alpacalia Posted March 18, 2023 Posted March 18, 2023 My father met his now long-term partner when he was in his mid-60s. No one's journey is the same when it comes to finding love and settling down. It is not beneficial to compare your timeline to others as this can make you feel inadequate. There are benefits to finding love in your 30s and beyond, as you can have a better understanding of what you want in a partner and a relationship due to more life experience. 3
Author Fromage Posted March 18, 2023 Author Posted March 18, 2023 Just now, Weezy1973 said: I met my wife when I was 43. She was 33. Now married, two kids (just had our second 2 weeks ago), both have careers we love. We do have a cranky cat though. So not everything is perfect. Congratulations on your new born baby. Thank you for giving me hope. 1
Author Fromage Posted March 18, 2023 Author Posted March 18, 2023 8 minutes ago, Gaeta said: My brother met his wife at 38. They started their family they were both 40. Now they have 2 beautiful todlers running around. Sometimes life waits a bit to bring us a gift. Thank you.
mark clemson Posted March 18, 2023 Posted March 18, 2023 (edited) Life's a marathon, not a sprint. Take it from someone in their 50's - you have plenty more time at 30. You have been finding partners, and you should relatively straightforwardly be able to continue with that. Also, keep your health up, it counts for a lot! Keep in mind that humans are serial monogamists. While having only one lifetime partner happens, it is NOT the norm biologically. This means that relationships that end are not "failed" relationships (as some people tend to think of them). While things can and do get choppy during breakups, they are in fact normal relationships, that ended. Edited March 18, 2023 by mark clemson 2
Author Fromage Posted March 18, 2023 Author Posted March 18, 2023 18 minutes ago, mark clemson said: Life's a marathon, not a sprint. Take it from someone in their 50's - you have plenty more time at 30. You have been finding partners, and you should relatively straightforwardly be able to continue with that. Also, keep your health up, it counts for a lot! Keep in mind that humans are serial monogamists. While having only one lifetime partner happens, it is NOT the norm biologically. This means that relationships that end are not "failed" relationships (as some people tend to think of them). While things can and do get choppy during breakups, they are in fact normal relationships, that ended. I agree. 1
JTSW Posted March 23, 2023 Posted March 23, 2023 You're only 30, that's still so young. You have your whole life ahead of you. 1
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