lova69 Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 Hi everyone, Im new to this community, I read some other threads regarding this topic but I figure another one couldnt hurt, besides, the way I see it, a problem is or can be different from person to person. My best freind since grade school has a sister who is frankely one of the sweetest most beautiful girls I have ever seen in my entire life (and in 20 years a guy sees lots and lots of girls). I wouldnt say I "know" her per-se, but I have had a number of platonic conversations with her when going over my freind's house. Here is the problem, after knowing she was my best freind's older sis for 12 years I have just now come to realize that I've fallen for her(yes its much more than a crush). I mean dont get me wrong, I always thought she was sweet girl and pure eyecandy but I just now developed strong feelings for her. She was ALWAYS nice and sweet to me, she always smiles at me, she seems to try to make conversation with me nearly everytime I come over(couple times I practically neglected my buddy while doing so) , she is so helpful too, I remember one time, I came over to do some homework with my buddy, we had a science project to do actually. This project involved using a strand of long human hair (wierd I know). Anyways she asks what was the project all about and I told her and she (without any hesitation or me asking for that matter) went ahead and pulled out a strand of her hair and handed it to me. That was 7 years ago and until now I dont know why she did it to be honest, I know I had mentioned that I had a project but I did not expect her do that. I was speechless for a moment but I smiled at her and said thanks. I need to know if the above could mean she is into me. Before you guys let me know what you think I should let you know that she is 2 years older than me but we look virtually the same age, in fact Im taller than her, just felt I had to clear that up;) . I have not made a move yet because if I feel that if I make a move it better count because this could potenially ruin a best friendship and a possible relationship. So please let me know what you all think. Thanks!!! James
whichwayisup Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 Not too sure on the hair thing... But, I think you need to tell your bestfriend about your feelings first. He is your friend and hopefully he'll understand. Just tell him that you've got these feelings, they've been developing for a while and you need to see what happens. I'm sure he knows you're a good guy and won't hurt his sister but you need to be VERY clear with him of your intentions. Then, I guess you need to find out by asking her what she feels for you. I'm not sure what order to do this in, but something tells me right now you should atleast give your BF a headsup about it all.
westernxer Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 A strand of hair from seven years ago isn't enough to go on, since it was all in the name of science. If you want to find out where you stand with her, go over and talk to her when your buddy isn't home. See where your conversation leads you, then go from there.
konfuzd Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 If she donated a kidney, sure I'd say she's interested... but a hair means nothing... I'm always super nice to my bro's friends... and I don't get along well with my bro.. it's just what sisters do... I even befriended one of my bro's friends when we both ended up going to the same college and didn't know anyone else in town... simply out of kindness for someone close to a family member. I wouldn't read to much into it, besides it could end up in an awkward situation with your friend... wait another 20 years, and maybe you'll find another good girl, we're a rare breed!!!
Author lova69 Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 First off Thanks for the input everyone! I appreciate it. you all had good advice. The thought that maybe she was all nice because I was her bro's friend did cross my mind a few times. But At the most recent visit, I said I was going to be moving out of the state, and I cought this sort of melancholy look on her face for a instant, then she said "No why do you have to go, just stay here" My freind didnt even seem to take it as hard. Also later than day, my buddy and I and some other friends were in the living room watching some WWE and she just came downstairs from her room in these really tight jammys(she *Never* ever did that before,usually she just stays in her "outdoor" clothing I guess till we leave) and sat right in front of me in a really sort of sexy position with her practically bare rear staring me in the face. I quickly looked around to see if anyone else noticed what was going on but they were all way too into the match for some reason. I just sat there pretending like she wasnt doing that(you know for the sake of my buddy and also because I didnt want to take any awkward chances with her and find out that she is just "unintentionally" or "naturally" sexy), and right when I felt like I was going to explode (no pun intended), she gets up off the seat, goes over to the living room computer and calls me over from all the WWE chaos asking me for my cell number. When I gave it to her she saves in the hard drive right away. From that point on I felt like I was in a hole so deep there would be no possiblity of getting myself out. Lots of girls find me attractive but never one quite like her. Am I just paranoid? What do these signs mean?
westernxer Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 Just take it in stride. She has your number (and that of other guys as well), she likes to tease you, and she doesn't know you're a sucker for her yet.
Author lova69 Posted November 7, 2005 Author Posted November 7, 2005 Just take it in stride. She has your number (and that of other guys as well), she likes to tease you, and she doesn't know you're a sucker for her yet. I gotta say, As much as I dislike saying it, It is a big possibilty. But the thing is I've never really seen her as a tease. She has a more reserved personality, she keeps all her "stuff" under deep cover. I just wish I knew for sure as to whether she is just teasing or interested. I am seriously thinking about going over there and asking her. I dont foresee this to be good...
westernxer Posted November 7, 2005 Posted November 7, 2005 I dont foresee this to be good... It's not, so keep your mouth shut when you see her, unless she wants to make out.
Author lova69 Posted November 8, 2005 Author Posted November 8, 2005 It's not, so keep your mouth shut when you see her, unless she wants to make out.
konfuzd Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 But At the most recent visit, I said I was going to be moving out of the state Why are you letting yourself get so hung up on this girl? New state = new opportunity to meet great, fun new girls.
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