mslovely97 Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 I just don't know what to do about the situation I'm in. I have managed to fall in love with a married man. I have tried my best to try an hate him,but that did not work. I have even tried my best to ignore him, but that did not work either. I work at the hospital in the ER, and the man that i have falling for is one of the doctors there. We have know each other for about a year and he is wonderful. We have never had sex, we have only kissed and thats about it. I want to make love to him, but it's scary. Its very confusing to me these feelings that I have for him. One minute its like ok I'm find its going to be alright, then the next minute I scared as hell. I have told him that I love him, he told me he loved me too, but I just think he tells me that because he knows that is what I want to hear.When I am not around him its like I'm missing a big void is missing out of my life. When he has to go out of town, I just cry becuase I miss him so much. I know the feeling I have for him is wrong, but it feel so right. I love him II have to face that, but I know its wrong for being the other woman in his life.
whichwayisup Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 If you allow yourself to pine for this MM your heart is going to be in million pieces ALL the time. It's alot easier now to NOT let it happen. Reas afew OW threads here and see what others have gone through. Read afew threads in the infidelity section to find out the mess that betrayed spouses go through when they find out their husband/wife cheated on them. I don't think you want to involve yourself in this situation. 1) He's married. 2)He's a doctor where you work! In a hospital! There is a huge long list of why you shouldn't be with him. Don't you feel you deserve to be loved by someone who will love just you? Yes, you have feelings for him, but it's all the 'good and happy' stuff you feel...It will never turn into a life long one on one relationship, he won't leave his wife for you... And if he has children, double that! He won't leave his kids. Please really sit and think about this. Right now you DO have the strength to not allow it to happen. If you do involve yourself with him, you won't have the strength to leave for a very long time...
curly Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 The saddest turh of this........ I read all the threads in the beginning (sp?) of my 1.5 yr MM/OW relationsip & still REALLY thought I (IIIIIIIII) would be different. She won't listen,... we've been there... Won't anyone tell her that we're not chasing an iliusion (sp?)... she's a goner.... not talking her out of it,...... Go, original poster..... have fun... it will be fun 4 a while..... When your heart finally feels like it's been through a meat grinder... come post.......
Sami_D Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 he told me he loved me too, but I just think he tells me that because he knows that is what I want to hear. If you feel that way (and you might well be right about that), then really concentrate on that feeling. Think about what it means for you, and what a dangerous situation you're in with him. Even when both parties in an A are really in love with each other, its still a really difficult situation with no certain outcome, and someone, perhaps everyone, is going to get hurt. You might feel that you can't walk away at this moment, but it will only get harder. Please try to make the best decisions you can for your own heart. Good luck.
Mtn.mamacita Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 Why would you want to go down that road? The pain at the end is unbearable sometimes. Read all the posts from OWs. The pattern of A are always the same. The endpoint is always the same, they stay in their unfulfilling marriages. Everybody thinks theirs is "extra special and unique, nobody understands how we feel about each other." If there are kids involved it makes it even worse with the # of lives destroyed. Go find someone single that can give you 100%. Don't settle for less! By the way, I just D my Dr. husband.......they are all selfish (hate to generalize but I'm familiar with the medical community).
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