Jukeboxhero Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 I met an interesting girl at the bar the a few weeks ago. I'm guessing she's what they call the 'social butterfly'. She actually grabbed my hand almost as soon as I walked into the venue! She started talking to me like she knew from somewhere and started asking me what Highschools I attended and if I went to other any other locations where she could have met me. Unfortunately, none of them were places I had attended or been to, so she began introducing me to all her friends. I actually felt popular for awhile because some of her female friends would sorta scream/shout my name, "Barnabas" like I was some kinda celebrity or something...weird. Throughout the night this girl, Erin would introduce to practically everyone she met and everytime she saw me would approach me like she would a long lost friend. Doing rolling punches, hugging, grabbing my hand or some other form of physical contact..at one point she even sat on my lap and gave me a quick peck on the cheek. Anyways, she seemed like a cool person so I got her number and invited her to an upcoming Halloween party my friends were having. We called back and forth to arrange to meet and get directions. She also called me to tell me her cel phone got shutoff, and to confirm what day it was. I called her the night before to make sure she had all the information and was still able to come. She said everything was great, told me what she was coming as and we discussed possibly meeting the next day beforehand so she could follow me down. Unfortunately, I was busy putting some last minute stuff together so I didn't get to meet her I did call her beforehand to see if she was able to make it, but I got no answer. However, I figured since she had directions and such she should be able to make it there on her own and she had my number so she could call from a friend's cel. But for some odd reason, she didn't show up!! I'm really puzzled by this since she seemed so interested and even called the day before. OF course I didn't really expect most of the other girls I invited to show up since they only got my number and didn't give me theirs or didn't answer their phones when I called. Although, Keisha said she would come after she got off work at 11am if I gave her directions. She didn't showup but I imagine she can get off the hook easily since I believe she worked 2 jobs and didn't seem as enthusiatic about going. SO my questions are: 1.Why didn't Erin show up? 2. What should I say if I ever see them or talk to them again? Should I bring it up in a light-hearted manner? Basically what is a good non-confrontational way to approach?
cosmogal Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 It really could be anything... Maybe she assumed you weren't that interested since you didn't call her to confirm and she didn't want to intrude or anything, maybe she got lost on the way there, maybe she made other plans, or maybe she just was out to get a number that night. It's harder with women than with men. We all know when men don't show up, he's basically not interested. But with women, I think they are more complex with this. I think what happened was she expected you to call before the party. Being she never heard from you, she probably figured you were probably not so interested in seeing her to begin with. But that's just my opinion from what you are telling me here. Whatever the reason is, my suggestion is to just give her a call. Don't worry about "looking desperate" either...'cause I know men have a "thing" about portraying that notion to women and wind up blowing any chance they had with the woman in the first place. Just call her. Be nice. Say something along the lines of, "hi, it's so&so, the party was so much fun, how come you didn't come? Did you maybe want to go out this weekend since we didn't get a chance to see each other?" If you get a machine, make sure to leave you number. If she doesn't return your call, try her a week later and if you don't hear from her or she sound like she's not that into, forget the whole thing alltogether....she was just out to have fun with her friends in a bar and hit on some guys out of boredom. And who knows, maybe she's playing hard-to-get. Call her. To be honest, I don't see what the big deal is about a two minute phone call. Good luck & i'm sure things will work out! Keep us posted on the latest!
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