In Sync Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 I'm having a rough go this week. I have suffered a personal family loss and now I feel more lonesome than ever for the ex. I have the strongest urge to just call him. I'm fighting it though. Of all people why do I want to turn back to someone who has caused me heartache. I swear being an emotional wreck make me have the dumbest thoughts (i.e calling him up) I'm actually thinking he might be nice this time. I long to be with him now and it's completely irrational. Why are these feeling surging up now and so strong?
JS17 Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 I went through the same thing when my mom first got sick a month ago. It's hard to be alone during a trying time. I had the urge to turn back to one of my ex's...not the one that tore me apart though, I realized that he wasn't nice to me then, he wouldn't start being nice to me now....from what you've said about your ex it sounds as though he wouldn't suddenly be nice now either. You're having these feelings because you're alone and the person that you were used to supporting you during times like this isn't there anymore. If you learn to deal with it on your own it will be much more painful but you will come out stronger. Don't say that you're having dumb thoughts. You're not dumb, you're human. Would leaning on your friends and family more help you now?
westernxer Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 Why are these feeling surging up now and so strong? Because you're vulnerable and looking for someone to lean on.
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