Wiseman2 Posted January 31, 2023 Posted January 31, 2023 1 hour ago, Mr Nice Guy said: . A big fight occured, her mum took the child out of the room, the police were called and he was escorted off the property. Unfortunately she's not ready to date. She has too much going on. You've never met in person, so it seems she wants a shoulder to cry on. She's finally doing the right thing getting help and protection for the domestic violence. It may be best to step back. While this wasn't your fault per se, she's dealing with a crazed abusive BF and it may be best to let the dust settle and steer clear for a while.
LynneVicious Posted January 31, 2023 Posted January 31, 2023 Goi g out on a limb here and thinking he is not her ex at all, but a current boyfriend. Would explain the 6 month lapse in meeting and the ghosting. 2
NuevoYorko Posted January 31, 2023 Posted January 31, 2023 54 minutes ago, LynneVicious said: Goi g out on a limb here and thinking he is not her ex at all, but a current boyfriend. Would explain the 6 month lapse in meeting and the ghosting. It's actually pretty common - unhappily married / partnered people creating a fantasy world with somebody online that they will never actually have to interact with personally.
Calmandfocused Posted January 31, 2023 Posted January 31, 2023 Op I’m interested to know why a young single man would be interested in a “pen pal relationship” with a woman he cannot see? Why? In addition to that why would you voluntarily and willingly want to put yourself smack bang in the middle of someone else’s drama? What’s in it for you? Absolutely nothing from what I can see. You’re being played yet you cannot see it. You need to open your eyes and stop playing her silly game. You think that everything she tells you is real? I’ll be honest and say that I don’t believe her drama stories for a second. This is not going to work out Op. it’s time to start being honest with yourself. This includes understanding why you’re putting yourself in this situation. 1
mortensorchid Posted February 1, 2023 Posted February 1, 2023 This situation sounds rather ... Hopeless. If she is a real person then she has a lot of things going on at the moment and might not have enough time/energy to invest in you for the moment. Reach out with a text or phone call, just say "Hi it's me how've you been?". If she doesn't respond, fine. Just move on. If she responds and continues to give reasons / excuses as to how and why she can't see you, move on.
glows Posted February 2, 2023 Posted February 2, 2023 Let me get this straight. You picked a long distance single mother who works four jobs and whose “ex” believes she’s cheating on him and has an overbearing mother…. Go easy. It’s more likely she does have a lot she’s dealing with and isn’t going to be consistent in her time available or responses. Keep in mind unavailable people date other unavailable people. Take a closer look at how things got to this point and why any of it seemed okay or reasonable at all to you. You mentioned your job in regards to time off. Do you like your job and life in general? Are there things about you holding you back from choosing someone available and more local? Work on things in your power to control and improve. Pick situations that are compatible and make more sense overall when sustaining a relationship. I’m sorry it’s turned out this way. 1
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