Can a man be too shy to call or text?

[Lisa]

@vanillakoala and @xWanderer are the same poster

[xWanderer]

6 minutes ago, Lisa said:

@vanillakoala and @xWanderer are the same poster

That isn't me .

I'll see what happens anyway but I've have for sure seen how he acts with others as it's a coach an he doesn't do the same . Always acts differently with me .

[poppyfields]

@xWandererfwiw, my dad (an ivy league school graduate, successful attorney and U.S. Marine) was too shy to ask my step mom out in college.

She ended up dating and marrying another man, and my dad ended up marrying my mom (sloppy seconds basically as he was too shy to make a move with the woman he TRULY liked/loved).

20 years later, the woman's husband died, and by then he got over his shyness around women he was attracted to/interested in, divorced my mom and married the woman he had loved all those years, my step mom.

So yes it's quite possible he's too shy, don't rule it  out.  Nothing is ever black and white like that. 

Try to NOT make assumptions about people without knowing them or the facts behind why they behave as they do.

I would suggest YOU being a bit more bold yourself and straight out asking him out.

You have nothing to lose imo, good luck.

Edited January 25, 2023 by poppyfields

[xWanderer]

2 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

@xWandererfwiw, my dad (an ivy league school graduate, successful attorney and U.S. Marine) was too shy to ask my step mom out in college.

She ended up dating and marrying another man, and my dad ended up marrying my mom (sloppy seconds basically as he was too shy to make a move with the woman he TRULY liked/loved).

20 years later, the woman's husband died, and by then he got over his shyness around women he was attracted to/interested in, divorced my mom and married the woman he had loved all those years, my step mom.

So yes it's quite possible he's too shy, don't rule it  out.  Nothing is ever black and white like that.

I would suggest YOU being a bit more bold yourself and straight out asking him out.

You have nothing to lose imo, good luck.

I think he is shy (always get told I'm intimidating too)I'll try be more direct  either way whatever happens at least I tried properly .  We never really chatted before either maybe he doesn't know if the conversation will be awkward etc. Also I already knew he wouldn't reach out if I gave him mine felt he was gonna be too shy  only cause friends said I should give him  mine. I got too shy to ask him.

I always felt it was best to ask for his after a quick chat  also so I don't need to wait on anyone I  know straight away . Although I already half made a move I'm also shy . 

Maybe it'll be easier now since he knows and I can see  if hes trying to get me to leave the bus etc not saying a lot  see whether I make a more direct approach.

He didn't give a lot away the last time I saw him  after he'd already got the note seemed his usual way. I wasn't last off 2nd last.

 

 

 

 

[NuevoYorko]

1 hour ago, xWanderer said:

That isn't me .

 

You should reach out to them.  They''re having the identical experience that you are, seems like it's even with the same bus driver.  Just think of the talks you could have.