Becki Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 That it was time for you to have a baby?? Until recently I always said I wouldnt have a child unless it was unplanned, because I don't agree with abortion. But since I met a guy who I know I love, and I know he would be great as a dad, I've changed my mind..or he has! We've only breifly discussed it, and I know its not the right time now, as we haven't got a house, and very financially unstable right now, and personally I wouldn't want to bring a baby into the world like that. So skip a few years down the line...how did you know you were ready for a baby?? Can anyone ever be mentally prepared? I mean this time a year ago I would have said "yeah,maybe one day" but I've obviously changed my mind...but I dont know if i can ever be prepared to give birth/raise a child!!
RecordProducer Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 I always knew I'd have children some day. When I was 22 I fell in love and wanted to have his baby. I had twins and he left me when they were 2 y.o. (but was leaving before many times too). I think a woman has to live with a man for at least one year and make sure she wants to stay with him. In order to be content with motherhood, you need to make sure that: 1. You won't have financial problems 2. You won't sacrifice your career or school (unless the baby is unplanned, but hence th existence of BC pills) 3. You have had enough wild nights and fun in the past and you're prepared to be imprisoned for one year, go to bed on time, wake up early, cook, change diapers, run to doctors, wash, clean, play with your baby, and overall spend a lot of time with it. In other words the days of freedom are gone for at least a few years. 4. Your husband wants the child too, understands that it's a huge responsibility, and won't leave you 5. You have help from your partner and somebody else too (baby-sitter, moms, siblings, etc.) A new mom needs stability, peace, and solid emotional and financial situation. When you decide to have a baby, it should be your primary interest. You can't have a baby in the fly or because you fell in love. I realize now that I wasn't prepared. I am glad I am 30 and my kids are 7 y.o. now though. They are independent. At age 40 some women have little kids and mine will be 17 and soon go to college.
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