WCCJESSE Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 I'm meeting this girl today who i have chated online/phone for the past few months.We really clicked and anyway we are meeting today any advice on what to do cause i'm very shy and i'm worried there will be a lot of moments with nothing being said.
sayray23 Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 Just act the same way that you would if you were talkign to her online. Are there many moments on the phone or online when there is nothing said? If not...then just continue to do what you have been doing. If the two of you clicked thus far, meeting can only further the connection between your personalities.
Author WCCJESSE Posted November 4, 2005 Author Posted November 4, 2005 Well there are moments here and there on the phone when nothing is said but it only happened like twice:D
alphamale Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 If the two of you clicked thus far, meeting can only further the connection between your personalities. I dont' know what planet you're living on SAYRAY23 but its not the same one as mine. Connection over the phone/online and connection in person are two totally different things...
whichwayisup Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 I actually agree with ALPHA. The online/phone thing - You've already inside your head have some sort of build up about her as she probably does about you...Problem is, reality --->The person is REAL. So, whatever thoughts and fantasies that you had could be shattered. Hopefully all will be OK and you two will click. Just go in with no expectations that way if by chance it doesn't go well you won't stress out about it. Chemistry is chemistry online, but if you don't like how she smells, or something doesn't "feel" right face to face, everything could change. Sorry, don't mean to put a damper on your date, but just be aware of everything. Have fun and post back!
Milo Posted November 5, 2005 Posted November 5, 2005 Really, when you take stock of the things that have happened in your life prior to this one possibly awkward conversation, it doesn't add up to a hill of beans. One thing I have found helpful is to do just a hell of a lot of talking and reading with friends before you meet up with the new friend. You'll have about a million readymade ideas to discuss. And go for a walk as opposed to sitting at a table somewhere. A park is nice. The walking helps draw out conversation and the scenery is constantly changing. It's a challenge to keep the ball in play if the other person is quiet and shy. At some point, you might just have to run behind a rose bush and taunt them. Ha ha. Playful stupidity has saved many a dull conversation.
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