GuySimple Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 I debated asking this but is it appropriate to give a compliment and strike up a conversation with a relative stranger? I had lunch today in a fairy trendy restaurant and our server was very nice and had the most wonderful smile. She did the normal things a server would do I maybe reading more into this but there seemed to be an attraction of some sort. She totally ignored the guy I was with and seemed to linger smiling at me. She came back to the table 4-5 times to see if I wanted anything more and I don’t think we were their much more than an hour. The other guy even commented that she seemed to be somewhat focused. Now from my perspective there was certainly a physical attraction with her. On the way out I almost stopped and said something more than thank you. After I dropped my business associate off I considered going back to the restaurant but thought that might be kind of creepy for her. So under the same circumstance would it have been appropriate to acknowledge her in some what?
Mz. Pixie Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 GS- Ummmmm hmmmmmm, you devil you! Actually it would have been fine for you to leave her your business card with a note on it or something saying "I like your smile- give me a call sometimes". or something along those lines. My husband is a waiter at a upscale place here and he's had that happen a couple of times. Of course, not now that he's married but when he wasn't he met quite a few dates that way.
whichwayisup Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 Just do it! This day and age people are so politically correct and careful what they do and say to others, I say tell her you think she has beautiful smile and maybe one night when she's free you'd love to take her out for dinner!
noname Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 worst she can do to you is say no... btw... do it while you are still there. it woulda been kinda creepy if you came back...
kitten chick Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 Baby, you only live life once. Go back and ask her out.
RecordProducer Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 I would NEVER say "yes" if a stranger asked me out. I also wouldn't give him my phone number and probably wouldn't call him. Women differ, but if she is like me then she might say "no" even if she likes you physically. Why I would say "no" is because: 1. I can't decide on whether I like someone enough to go out with him just basing on his looks. I need to know more about him. I don't want to discover in the middle of our date that he was a highschool drop-out, is 5 years younger than me and works as a pizza delivery guy (nothing against these people, just that I am in a more mature stage of life); or that he is still married and has 4 children or is a religious fanatic. 2. I would think that I would look too desperate and easy if I would accept to go out with a stranger or call him on the phone. 3. He would seem impatient to get in my pants and not motivated enough to chase me for a while and get to know me better. I would say, go to that restaurant and talk to her unconventially. Ask her what else she does in her life, if she has a BF, whre she is from... stuff like that. Tell her about yourself too. She would be interested in what you do for a living, where you work, where you live, whether you're married or divorced, etc. If she seems interested in talking to you, you can come back a couple more times then ask her to have a cup of coffee with you when her shift ends. Then you can ask her out. I think the retro style always work best.
kitten chick Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 I would say, go to that restaurant and talk to her unconventially. Ask her what else she does in her life, if she has a BF, whre she is from... stuff like that. Tell her about yourself too. She would be interested in what you do for a living, where you work, where you live, whether you're married or divorced, etc. Isn't this what a first date is for? I think it's more adventureous to accept a date from a stranger, not desperate. I would give a guy a shot. Isn't everyone a stranger until you meet them? You never know when and where the right one will show up!
RecordProducer Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 Isn't this what a first date is for? I think it's more adventureous to accept a date from a stranger, not desperate. I would give a guy a shot. Isn't everyone a stranger until you meet them? You never know when and where the right one will show up!As I said women differ, but I really don't want to waste an evening with the wrong guy. I simply can't be attracted to somone just because he is physically cute. Plus I need to talk to him for a bit and observe his style (self-confidence, charm, sense of humor, etc.) I have to know something about him before I go out with him. I just can't imagine myself spending a whole evening with some boring person and then the hassle of getting rid of him forever. So you would go out with a total stranger? Imagine this situation on a first date: She: So what do you do for a living? He: Well I just got out of prison so I am looking for a job... What about you? She: I am a judge! So... ummm... what kind of job are you looking for? What are your skills? He: Well all I've done so far was robbing stores and stealing cars... I didn't go to high school? You? She: I went to Harvard. So... where do you live now? He: I live with my wife (we're separated) and 7 kids (two are ours, two are from her previous marriage, and 3 from my two previous marriages)... She: I'll pay for the 5 beers you've had tonight and your cab... He: Am I going to see you again? A short unconventional conversation can reveal a lot.
littlekitty Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 Imagine this situation on a first date: She: So what do you do for a living? He: Well I just got out of prison so I am looking for a job... What about you? She: I am a judge! So... ummm... what kind of job are you looking for? What are your skills? He: Well all I've done so far was robbing stores and stealing cars... I didn't go to high school? You? She: I went to Harvard. So... where do you live now? He: I live with my wife (we're separated) and 7 kids (two are ours, two are from her previous marriage, and 3 from my two previous marriages)... She: I'll pay for the 5 beers you've had tonight and your cab... He: Am I going to see you again? RP.... you are fab!! Perhaps this is just another reason why internet dating works well. The chance to talk and find this stuff out (hopefully) before you meet!!
tanbark813 Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 The guy isn't the only one with the potential for failure. The guy might go out with the girl but then find out she's stuck up, constantly on her cell phone, and has 3 kids that she supports on welfare. kitten chick is right. The whole point of a date is to get to know someone. First dates are best in the middle of the week so if the chick sucks, at least she didn't take up a weekend night.
kitten chick Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 The guy isn't the only one with the potential for failure. The guy might go out with the girl but then find out she's stuck up, constantly on her cell phone, and has 3 kids that she supports on welfare. Absolutely, it goes both ways. First dates are best in the middle of the week so if the chick sucks, at least she didn't take up a weekend night. I agree here too. Some people start giving up sex on the third date, I start giving up weekend nights. RecordProducer - I see where you're coming from but that kind of situation is probably not going to happen that often and if it does then that person SHOULD stop dating strangers. Besides, bad dates make for GREAT stories!
tanbark813 Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 Besides, bad dates make for GREAT stories! Sooo true. The worst date I ever had makes for a fantastic story.
kitten chick Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 So share tanbark My girlfriends and I all ended up conversing one time about all of our bad dates and wrote it all down in one liners. It's pretty hilarious. People have told us to publish it but we want to keep it to ourselves
tanbark813 Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 So share tanbark Posted in a new thread so as not to hijack: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t74299/
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