mat76 Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 I dated this girl for about nine months. However, I did not want to continue with the relationship, but did not want to hurt her in the process of doing so. (Especially, because she wanted to marry me.) So I cut off all contact with her. I didn't call her, didn't return her phone calls. This was two months ago. The girl hasn't gotten the point and is still calling me daily, asking how I am and wanting to know when I'll call her back. We don't live in the same city, so I never run into her. Her website still has a page dedicated to "Us" with pictures and a countdown to our "First anniversary". I asked one of our mutual friends to call her and see what she's up to. (ie: has she gotten the picture and moved on?) When the mutual friend asked how the "relationship" was, the girl said "He's disappeared on me! I hope that he's okay! He won't call me back and I'm worried." The friend didn't mention what was really going on to her and reported back to me. How do I let this girl know that by not returning her phone calls and not contacting her, it means that the relationship is over?
slubberdegullion Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 NC is usually reserved for after it's been made clear that the relationship is over. Tell her directly. Two words. "It's over" or "We're through." You don't have to give a reason. Then go NC.
Art_Critic Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 You created the problem.. In fact what you did was pretty cruel and immature. You were with this person 9 months and the best you could muster up is stop talking to her.. How cold.. Chances are that because of how you have handled this you are going to hurt this girl really bad.. You need to call her and fix this.. Break up with her like a man..and the next time show someone some compassion.. Role reversal I think you would want compassion and maturity shown you if she was gonna dump you.
glittergurl Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 That is sooooooo cruel, Mat!! You should have told her flat out; that was so coward of you. She doesn't seem to be the brightest bulb, but whatever; she's probably too in love to face it. And how exactly did you expect the girl to get over you if she doesn't even know it's over? And did you really think she wouldn't get hurt if you just disappeared? Please. Next time remember it's always a good thing to inform your girlfriend when you dump her. And sending over a common friend to find out what she says .... how ridiculously immature.
MakeMeBeautiful Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 what you did was extremely immature. Do you think that by ignoring something it will go away? You were with her for nine months. Have the courtesy to tell her that you are no longer interested. Be a man about it.
whichwayisup Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 What you did wasn't very nice. You took the easy way out. She obviously cares enough to wonder WHY you aren't calling...You ever think that maybe she needs some closure? Or wants to know why you want to break up with her? You should have broken up with her face to face, after 9 months YOU owe her that respect. That was just plain cruel. You hurt her more this way and now she doesn't know WTF is going on. You disappeared on her without letting her know why. the girl said "He's disappeared on me! I hope that he's okay! He won't call me back and I'm worried." The friend didn't mention what was really going on to her and reported back to me. Yeah, screw her for caring about your sorry a$$. Boy, she's an awful girlfriend.................. Geez, reading this tonight just really pissed me off. I hope she finds a real man who will treat her better than you have. She's better off without you.
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