Rhythm28 Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 I was dating this girl for about two months. Nothing serious but we really hit it off well. She eventually told me she had a boyfriend back in Florida that she was going to work things out with. I was ok with it and let her go but I also told her not to call me unless it was to come back. It was an on-again-off-again sort of deal which she always came back to me when I told her I wanted no part of her until she was done with the other guy. Well she calls about about two weeks ago to say she misses me, things aren't going so great with the job situation in FL and, of course, that things are not going well with her guy in FL. She calls a week later saying she will visit her mother in New York and asks if I would like to go. I say yes thinking she is ready to leave this guy and come back to me. Turns out I was wrong. When I met her at the airport, we hugged and kissed each other on the cheek. OK, no biggie, we'll smooch later. Wrong. At the nightclub I went to kiss her but she gave me the cheek. At that point I was upset and asked myself what the hell I was doing in NY and why she brought me there in the first place. Didn't she say she missed me? Didn't she say she wanted to see me.? We talked the next day and she said she wanted to see me because she wanted to get to know me better and to see if I was a guy worth going back to Chicago for. She also said she wouldn't do anything with me because she didn't want to go back to FL and look her boyfriend in the eye knowing she had fooled around oh him. We had a few more chats while I was out there but when I left I gave her one month from today to figure out what she wanted to do with me. This is not the first time she has left me and come back although it was the longest time apart without any contact (2 months) Here are my questions: Did I do the right thing by giving her a month to figure things out? Why did she bring me out to NY if she had no intention of being intimate with me? Is there a pattern here I'm not seeing? What kind of woman is this? I really like her but she is not stable with anything right now (job, boyfriend, finances, etc.) I don't want to be with someone like that. I realized I had to get out of there while I still had my senses. Thanks to all respondents in advance.
westernxer Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 What kind of woman is this? The kind you don't want to be with.
d.s. Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 She is playing you man! I think she only took you to New York because she knew you would go. Shows that you are weak and that you are still into her. Why did you even bother to give her a month? Most people play the game that they are having problems with their bf/gf just to suck you into their stupid games. You sound like a nice person. Next time she calls and asks you to go somewhere, just brush her off and tell her you have something else to do-maybe another time. There should never be another time! You need to forget about this girl and find another girl that actual respects you and will always be there for you! HTH, d.s.
downcydeguy Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 She has issues my friend. She wants her cake and eat it too. Don't set a time limit on anything. Tell her that you're gonna go on with your life and if she decides to go back to Chicago, fine. You'll see what happens then.
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