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I feel like I need to go to this breakup forum.

 

I have posted a thread in "Getting Married" forum, but now I think maybe it's more appropiate for me to come here, or to coping forum to get some supports.

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t74145/

 

To cut this short, I am waiting for a guy's decision on whether to get back together or breakup. We love each other but the relationship goes from triangle to quad. To me, it can't be more dramatic than this. I am trying to follow my heart (I love him and I don't want to lose him) so that this mess appear. I told the new guy about my true feelings, without any pride talking. After he know that, he was shocked and asked me why I didn't tell him earlier. He need to think and decide now. I told the guy that I will wait and try to give patience and not to push for his decision, and I know it's a hard decision for him.

 

The waiting period is killing me..., I am stuck among moving on / getting together with new guy / breakup with my bf / dangling in this 4 people relationship. I need to come to this forum to get some support and conselling. Your help is appreciated.

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sounds like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place. What do you want?

 

is it truly this guy? If so, break it off with the boyfriend you're dangling -- no one is going to take seriously a vow of love when the speaker has a backup partner waiting in the wings. Otherwise he is going to think you're just trying to keep all bases covered, "just in case." Nobody wants to be in that spot.

 

same with him: Are you someone he's truly interested in, or just a dalliance to keep coming back to when he's not with his girlfriend? If you two truly care about each other, then there shouldn't be spare boyfriends and girlfriends laying around, IMHO.

 

what do you want, and are you willing to go out on a limb for it?

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