nyguidette Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 Lemme sum this up as quickly as possible: I met J 2 years ago. About 7 months ago, we started dating...on a serious level ...so the problem??? During the 7 months we broke up 4 times. I always pissed him off b/c I started a fight over NOTHING. (I'd just get an attitude b/c I was hurt by my abusive ex and was scared of getting hurt again). We always got back together within a week. Everything was getting better and we were talking about moving in together and getting married..then I opened my mouth again. We ended up breaking up on Monday.He told me he loved me and really wanted to be with me, but couldn't handle fighting with me anymore and I was never going to change. Then yesterday (wed) I asked him if I could see him for a few minutes and he agreed. I gave him a card and a letter that told him that I KNOW I need to change and why I always argued with him (in extreme detail). I hugged him, told him I loved him (he said "I love you" back) and told him to call me after he read the letter and was ready to talk. He started tol open the card and I began to leave....he said "I'll call you in a little bit" and I closed the door. That was yesterday at 3:30 and I haven't heard from him yet. Would he agree to meet me if he didn't want to? Would he tell me he loved me if he didn't? Do I just give him time and pray this is like all the other times and we'll work it out?
slubberdegullion Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 Cut the dude some slack. It's been less than 24 hours.
downcydeguy Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 He's just learning of your true past so it's gonna take him more than a few hours to make a decision. He now knows you have a lot of baggage and he may not be ready to help you carry it right now. Just let him take some time and he will call you soon I'm sure. Just be ready to accept his decision whether it's "bad" or "good".
Author nyguidette Posted November 8, 2005 Author Posted November 8, 2005 I called on Friday..he told me he loved me but couldn't do it anymore (fight with me)....so, I sent a text when we got off the phone and told him that if he really loved me to call me when he wasn't mad and wasn't around his friends and have a conversation with me....he hasn't called. I guess I just have to wait. If he loves me, he'll call, right?
seachange Posted November 8, 2005 Posted November 8, 2005 Whenever you talk next - and I think you'll get another chance to talk, but don't push - it would probably help if you didn't phrase it as a sort of challenge about his feelings (i.e. "if you really love me then ... "). That's kind of an ultimatum and not giving him the room he needs. It's just another kind of pushing, which is exactly what you don't want to do here.
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