Verbal Attack

[andrem11]

Received this gem yesterday from a woman I used to casually see after I asked her a question about how much a slab of wood was worth. 

”Ok let me make this clear to you. You sucked at sex but I put up with you because I was bored. You’re whiny and you’ve reached put to multiple times because you clearly can’t get anyone because your personality and dick suck. f*** Pdf ”

Kind of feeling like s*** over it, even though I never had any interest in more with her, mostly because I know some of it is true. Seems like one of those things that’s going to stick with me for a long, long time.  Not sure what I’m trying to get out of this, just venting I guess. 

 

[Wiseman2]

34 minutes ago, andrem11 said:

 I never had any interest in more with her, mostly because I know some of it is true. 

Just delete and block her and all her people from ALL your social media and messaging apps . There's no point chatting or trying to stay friends with someone like this.

[smackie9]

Sounds like she tried to hint/tell you that she no longer wanted to hear from you, but you kept contacting her. I'm guessing you pushed it and she felt there was no choice but to lash out to get her point across. Boundaries are needed. When it's done, you block/delete move on. 

[Calmandfocused]

Sounds like a woman scorned to me. Hell hath no fury …… you know the rest. 
 

Yes, she may be a psychopath but …. Op did you give this woman the run around? Did you mess with her feelings and then intermittently decide it was ok to throw her breadcrumbs (reaching out) once in a while? 
 

I’m not saying her behaviour is acceptable but I think she’s very angry about how you’ve treated her. Does she have a point? Only you can answer that. 
 

Bottom line; you need to leave her alone. 

[ShyViolet]

From what this woman said, you contacted her multiple times.  I'm not sure why you did that?  Maybe let this be a learning experience not to contact exes.  Yes she was harsh but we don't have the full backstory here.  

[poppyfields]

6 hours ago, andrem11 said:

”Ok let me make this clear to you. You sucked at sex but I put up with you because I was bored. You’re whiny and you’ve reached put to multiple times because you clearly can’t get anyone because your personality and dick suck. f*** Pdf ”

I've had men NOT get the message an annoy the living daylights out of me AND I have gotten pissed as hell because of it.

However, what's quoted above is above and beyond, uncalled for, unnecessarily cruel and abusive.

Such verbal abuse should NEVER be tolerated or excused no matter how much you may have annoyed her.

I would suggest not responding and simply block and delete.

She's not a kind person, I have a few other choice words to describe her but will refrain since I don't want to risk a ban for language breach.

IGNORE HER AND MOVE ON.

I'm sorry. 

Edited January 23, 2023 by poppyfields

[stillafool]

4 hours ago, Calmandfocused said:

Sounds like a woman scorned to me. Hell hath no fury …… you know the rest. 

This is what she sounds like to me also - butt hurt about something.  I know it's hard OP but don't believe what she says it sounds like she's angry because you didn't want her.  Block and delete.  Good riddance to bad rubbish.

[Alpacalia]

7 hours ago, andrem11 said:

Received this gem yesterday from a woman I used to casually see after I asked her a question about how much a slab of wood was worth. 

I don't get it. Why did you ask her how much a slab of wood costs? Is that supposed to infer something sexual?

Yes. Delete and block.

Edited January 24, 2023 by Alpacalia

[Alvi]

8 hours ago, andrem11 said:

Received this gem yesterday from a woman I used to casually see after I asked her a question about how much a slab of wood was worth. 

What do you mean by that? I don't understand what you are asking her. Is she working in the industry that sells the wood? Did she actually purchase a slab of wood recently or something?  Otherwise, huh???  I am assuming (and I could be wrong) that she thought that you called her a "wooden" in bed so she reacted accordingly more or less. She perceived that you have told her that she sucks in bed, got upset and went off the rails.  I have no other explanation. Perhaps try to clarity to her what you actually meant if you wish to continue seeing her. If not, block, delete and move on.

[glows]

Your q about the slab of wood frankly sounds like an underhanded insult. Not sure what you were thinking opening a conversation with that. Were you expecting an actual estimate or meaningful conversation?

She also says there you reached out (although there’s a spelling mistake “put”) too many times. Either one of you could have blocked the other before it came to this. 

[ExpatInItaly]

You gave zero context for this, OP. 

We can't really offer much useful insight if you don't share the backstory. Obviously there is more to this. 

[basil67]

People don't generally go around delivering such explosive commentary without provocation.  

 

[bene]

14 hours ago, andrem11 said:

I asked her a question about how much a slab of wood was worth. 

What does it mean? Is it slang for something?

She’s either a nasty and rude person or someone who was harassed to the point where she laid out all this to end any communication once and for all.

[JTSW]

Ok, so clearly you have been harassing her for a while and she had enough.

You make it out like she just said that out of the blue for no reason, but people don't react like that for no reason.

There is a lack of context in your post and you are not being completely truthful with us.

[Alpacalia]

Given that you've hooked up with her previously, your comment seems to imply you're hitting her up again for sexual activity (which maybe you felt was fine considering your casual relationship with her?). It reads a bit prostitutey, though.

Edited January 24, 2023 by Alpacalia

[NuevoYorko]

I still really need to understand why you had to call this particular person to confer about a slab of wood.

[Alpacalia]

Me too. Is she a lumberjack? Works in Home Depot? It's puzzling.

[poppyfields]

I don't get why some of y'all are blaming OP claiming "clearly" he harassed her and suggested he may have provoked the outburst.

There is no evidence or even a suggestion that he "clearly" harassed her.

All she said was that he reached out multiple times.

Yes that's annoying however why couldn't she have simply blocked him?   

Versus allowing it to continue to the point she became completely unhinged and lashed out in a very cruel and hurtful way?  About his sexual organs and sexual prowess no less.  Or lack thereof. 

The slab of wood remark is irrelevant.  You're assigning negative meaning to it where none may exist. 

Flip this around and what if a man had verbally lashed out at a woman in this way, would you be singing the same tune?  

There is no excuse in the world that justifies such cruel words.

She could have blocked him, called the police if she felt harassed or simply ignored and sent the unwanted messages to trash which is what I always did.

This post will probably get deleted but felt it needed to be said. 

OP, I'm sorry.  Block and delete. Try to not take her cruelty to heart.

 

Edited January 24, 2023 by poppyfields

[Alvi]

I would really love to hear her side of the story. People don't usually  blow up like this or go on long rants unless they've been greatly provoked. Well, at least well adjusted, sane people don't.

16 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

The slab of wood remark is irrelevant. 

It is relevant, apparently, since the OP is not clarifying what he was asking her. This particular comment made her go crazy, so there is a particular meaning to it that the OP is not telling us.

Yeah, I can totally see her reaction of going off the rails if she thought that his comment meant that she was wooden (sucked) in bed. Knee-jerk reaction it would be called.

[Alvi]

27 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

There is no excuse in the world that justifies such cruel words.

On a second thought, you are right. Getting angry is often not a way to go throughout the life. There is no reason to fight fire with fire. This  is neither not good for your karma nor for your nervous system. So, even if she thought that he said or did something bad to her, she should have simply blocked or ignored him. Name-calling and nastiness is rarely (or probably never) justified.

[Alpacalia]

And a question (with an obvious answer), which can be perceived as an insult is also known as negging.

 

 

[Calmandfocused]

You know after reading this again, I’m not sure it’s real. We get the full text message but no back story except something about  a “slab of wood”? 

I’m thinking the Op was trying to give us a giggle. 

Edited January 24, 2023 by Calmandfocused

[MsJayne]

What is/was your relationship with this woman? Sounds like you've had a FWB situation but she wasn't getting the benefits bit. 

[Wiseman2]

On 1/23/2023 at 12:37 PM, andrem11 said:

 I asked her a question about how much a slab of wood was worth. 

Most lumber yards or home improvement stores could answer that better than she could, so was this an attempt at flirting or restarting communication? In any case she doesn't seem interested. Perhaps think of better types of banter to start a dialogue.

[andrem11]

Wow, I was not expecting this level of response to this post/ intrigue in the story . First of all - some of your responses automatically assuming I was harassing this woman are disappointing. Perhaps you should take some time to consider why you projected a negative outlook on me from only an out of context text and my gender. Gender discrimination goes both ways, and if you don’t want to be on the receiving end of it, perhaps you shouldn’t dish it out. Men and women can both display good and bad qualities. 

Now for more details to the best of my memory:

The last time I saw her in person was in September of 2021- we slept together and this was not our first time doing so. After having sex she found out I was unvaccinated and had an absolute tantrum.  I am paraphrasing here, but I recall her insulting my intelligence and yelling about how she can’t believe she slept with an anti-vaxxer (I am not one), before kicking me out. I believe I reached out to her ONCE in the time in between this encounter, linking her to the song Runaway by Kanye West. Hey what can I say, sometimes I poke the bear . I believe this was met with no response.

I am moving out of my apartment currently, and have a slab of wood that would be suitable for making a coffee table that I am trying to sell. When we were hooking up, we spoke about making/ selling coffee tables. She makes coffee tables out of wood slabs and sells them and I was dabbling in the idea of doing so, so I knew she had experience with them. Here is the text exchange word for word that led to this text from her.

Me: Do you have any idea what type of wood this is?
Me: *photo of wood*

Her: Who is this?

Me:Lol *********. We used to sleep together occasionally, until you kicked me out for being unvaccinated at the time
Her: I don’t know what wood that is 

Me: Any idea what a reasonable floor would be for cost if it’s low quality like pine or something 

Her: I’m not Home Depot 

Me: But are you Lowes?

Her: I have a bf and I live in NYC now, enjoy your life 

Me: Lol I’m just trying to sell wood and know you make tables 

Me: Don’t make it into something it’s not 

Her: Ok let me make this clear to you. You sucked at sex but I put up with you because I was bored. You’re whiny and you’ve reached put to multiple times because you clearly can’t get anyone because your personality and dick suck. f*** Pdf 

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I know this is going to come up - I had thought that possibly the reason she blew up on me back in September 2021 might no longer be an issue due to the public perception of Covid changing since that time. Yes I have received the jab before any of you come after me for that.