gp569 Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 I made a grave mistake last month. I cheated on my fiance whom I've been with for 2 years, and now I might be pregnant. On the 17th of October I got horribly drunk and had sex with this guy I just met because I didn't have enough money on me to pay for all the drinks and he covered for me. I insisted that he use a condom and he did, but he took it off once and put the same one on again after I luckily realized. We didn't have unprotected intercourse, and he didn't ejaculate. Afterwards, I swallowed my shame and acted like nothing happened until I forgot about it. But then recently I've been feeling strange. First of all, I've been eating like a pig, but this happens a lot (I seem to have waves, like periods of when I eat very little and when I really gorge myself) so I didn't really think much of it. I've also recently started working two jobs so fatigue could explain some of the symptoms, but what really made me worry was the fact that all of a sudden, 3 days ago I started having a really really sensitive gag reflex. I haven't vomitted or anything like that but the fact that I can't smoke the same kind of cigarettes I've been smoking for years without gagging a little really scares me. I'm expecting my period in about 4 more days. I'm trying not to panic too much until I really do miss my period, but I really really couldn't handle having a baby now, much less from a different man than my partner. The fact that scares me the most is, even though I don't really keep charts, the 17th of October is approximately when I would be the most fertile... Any advice would be appreciated...
ponder24 Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 you will be fine,,,you are prob not pregnant,,,it is gonna be easy to freak out and think that b/c of what you did... The guilt you are probably feeling is most likely contributing to thinking your pregnant/acting different than normal.
curly Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 Advice - get to a pharmacy and get a pregnancy test. NOW Before you drive yourself insane, just know the facts. Is there no possibility that it's your fiance's? Not trying to be judgemental, but don't you think having anonymous, casual sex with a stranger because he bought you drinks is something you should be doing? You're getting married. Doesn't your fiance mean anything to you? I think you might have lots to examine before you commit yourself to someone else. Or, even more importantly, have a baby. Whatever way it turns out, I wish you luck. It's not an easy situation you have found yourself in.
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 Same advice here - get a pregnancy test. Your symptoms could be psychosomatic or they could be real - either way, you won't know until you test.
Author gp569 Posted November 3, 2005 Author Posted November 3, 2005 I know I know. I realize what a horrible thing I've done. But I've certainly learned my lesson and there's nothing I can do about the past except put it behind me and cope with the consequences. I will get a test if/once I miss my period. I don't think it could be my fiance's, as we are careful when it comes to protection. And as to guilt causing the symptoms, I don't know, I really didn't think about it until I added one and one a few days ago and started worrying. Could it be subconscious? It's just so revolting to think of what I've done and that I could be carrying another man's child... I needed to get rid of some emotions by posting this.
newbby Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 i agree. it is very probably guilt making you imagine the worst outcome and your body is reacting with the physical symptoms you expect to feel.
littlekitty Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 Do the test...! Especially keep in mind that stress (of worrying about this) could and might cause you to miss your period anyway. I've been there, had that... although stress was from a different cause. But it can happen, and I was worried for a while...!! So do the sensible thing. You can get pre-period tests... buy one today. Oh, and good luck.
Leid Posted November 4, 2005 Posted November 4, 2005 well, I hope you're not! keep ya fingers crossed... Leid
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