Just read my story and know that anything in a relationship is possible.

[LoveAlways]

I am 20 years old, so is my ex. My ex-boyfriend (of 5 years) lied to me for 6 months about something very touchy. I lost my virginity to him and he, to me and I never questioned whether we'd had other partners. At the beginning of this year we went on a "break", during which I assumed he stayed faithful because when we got back together he said NOTHING had happened with anyone else. A few months down the line my best friend heard through the grapevine he slept with a 15 year old girl in our "break". I didn't believe it at first but managed to get hold of this girl who said it was true. So I had been back with my boyfriend thinking nothing had happened, when unknowingly to me, he had slept with her and then me WITHOUT telling me about his encounter. As soon as I found out, I confronted him. He denied it, he insulted ME, cursed me and said I was falsely accusing him. This carried on for ages. Only until a few weeks ago did the truth come out (as it always does). I feel violated, what he did is almost secondary to how he lied to me for so long. I can't believe what can become of someone you invested your entire life and self in for so long.

[J dub]

Not trying to knock down the valdidity of your feelings or stick up for him, but if you were on a break then he technically had the green light to do whatever he wanted.

 

It was bad of him to lie to you about it yes, but I'm sure he did it thinking he could prevent u from getting upset about it since he saw it as no big deal.

 

I know it hurts to think he was with another girl, but sometimes men do this in an attempt to get over their partners. Obviously it didnt work because he came back...

[Treasa]

I wouldn't be as stressed about him sleeping with another girl during the break as much as I would be about him (20, right?) sleeping with a 15 year old!!!

 

He needs to be slapped. Why would anyone even want someone like that? He might as well just start scoping out the grade schools and really get a leg up on the kiddies.

[whereismylifegoing]

he slept with a 15 year old girl in our "break".

15! WOW. that's messed up!

[Ruff Ryder]

Listen, do you want to be with someone who would sleep with a 15 year old?

 

I sure as hell wouldnt. Whip his ass and get him out of your life. It should be about the fact that lied to you or the fact that it was in the break, it should be because he is twisted in his head. No offence inteanded it just doesnt sit well with me that he did it.

[Israfil]

LoveAlways,

 

I would be incredibly angry with him - no - LIVID, and certainly, you should NEVER speak to him again. Not only did he lie to you, which has resulted in the breaking of trust between you two - but he put your life at risk!!

 

Especially in ZA, everyone - white, black, or pink - is potentially positive. What he did to you, I would consider potential attempted murder.

 

He has lied to you at least once, so you never know what, or who, else he has done. I suggest abstaining for at lest six month, and then getting tested.

 

Thank goodness you are done with him. Good riddance!

[smile95]

one thing to learn from this...which I wish I had learned at your age......trust only yourself and do not think that love is a fairy tale or plays out like a movie. Learn from this, move on, and now you know what to be aware of in the future.

[Ruff Ryder]

Hi there again,

 

I live in S.A too so if you would like ill whip hiss ass for you...... Where about in S.A you live? Im in J.H.B (sandton)

[LoveAlways]

ruff ryder -- i live in cape town but dont worry i whipped his ass (emotionally) by cutting him off completely, he knows he f*cked up and lost me and he's running back but it's not working...

 

ah what a terrible experience this has been.

so true about fairytales coming to an end!

what a waste...

[Ruff Ryder]

Your fair tale has not even started. He was just one chapter in the book that takes a turn that now looks like it was for the worst but trus me its not. It only gets better from now on.

 

Where in cape town are you? Got family down there LOADS OF THEM.

 

Just keep you chin up girl it will get better and you DESERVE better.

[LoveAlways]

I stay in Hout bay - the little village around the corner from llandudno and camps bay...maybe it's a good thing I'll be single for the summer

 

You know he says it was a mistake but I truly believe YOU KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING when it comes to sex. It's intentional, free will...Drunk or not, you know you're either DOING IT or NOT! Agreed?

 

He also says he thought we were over for life and I was moving on too, but that doesn't change that fact it was with a 15 yr old. Nasty.

 

SHE also happens to be a slut of note & decided to intoxicate everyone at her own house party with loads of tequila & then approached my ex who was passed out in a bedroom and did her thing. But he DID reciprocate didn't he...so it was both their faults.

 

I happen to see her passing by now and again since we live in the same SUBURB and feel myself wanting to throw up...

He didnt really think of that when he decided to *** her did he...that I'd have to see both of them for a long time after the event....So considerate.

[Ruff Ryder]

Just relax girl.

 

My family is in plum stead and soomer set west.

 

About the man just leave him alone invest your time in some one who is worth it ok?

 

Just be strong do be in pain be mad it will help with the pain.