everythingido Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 i have been going out with my girlfriend for 10 months now and i have to say its had its ups and downs but we have always come out on top and stuck together just recently she broke up with me and six days later she came back and said that she made a mistake and wanted to be with me and me being weak as i am i took her back because when you love somone its really hard to let them go i just couldent say no this sounds wrong i want to be with her but i think i have fallen out of love her and i do no why i have (theres just stuff that she done or said) she dont love me as much as she used to some of the feelings have gone, she loves the atention of other guys which i hate, she somtimes moves away from kisses hugs ect, she dont want anything sexual to do with me no more, she ignores me infront of others everything romantic i do for her is nothing to her no more and all this is making me not like her she doesnt want to break she said never wants to. i just cant be with her with all those things in my head, she said lets work on things but nothing ever changes, im scared im going to break up with her and regret it the reason im here is just to ask what do i do now i dont no my head messed up do i break up with her cbecause i just dont think things are what they use too or stick together and work on things somone please help? i dont no what to do
JS17 Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 The first try at a breakup never sticks. If you're both not happy in the relationship then move on. Also, PUNCTUATION!
JadeStar Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 Please use more periods. It sounds to me that she isn't sure what she wants. I think she wants to break up but doesn't, and wants to have you or string you along incase things don't work out with someone else. Maybe you need to tell her you all need to take a break from one another to see what you both really want. No calls, no emails, no being in touch period. Just kind of like a trial thing for the both of you to get your heads on straight about what you want. Jade
Author everythingido Posted November 1, 2005 Author Posted November 1, 2005 We hare actrully tried being apart for awhile liek a litlle break and when we saw each other again it was great for a week or so then it just faded. What you said might be true about stringing me along that actrully was in my head before i posted on here. When i was about to break up with her a little while ago she started crying and i asked her why and she said because she loves me and dont want it to end, to me when she said that it ment somthing to me like she does love me but maybe im wrong?
Craig Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 Dude! Learn to write a little better. Capitalize, punctuation, paragraphs, spelling! Dang, it was hard to read your post so if this is the way you write your e-mails your message is getting lost in the difficulty of reading your writing. Other than that what JS17 and JadeStar said.
JadeStar Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 She probably loves you, she may just be confused as to what she truly wants. It may be that you have to be the one, to put your foot down, and just let her know that you feel you're being strung along. Her crying may also be a manipulating tactic to get you to feel sorry for her so you will take her back. Not saying thats the way that it is, just saying its possible. Jade
Author everythingido Posted November 1, 2005 Author Posted November 1, 2005 Sorry About the spelling But im trying. People have got to understand my view on it aswell i love her, i love her to bits. Everyone said to me why have i got back with her and its because i love her i coulden't help it. What im thinking is that i love her (to much somtimes) and im trying my hardest to make her smile and be happy but she doesnt want any of it noe more. I have trust in her by saying i think she loves me but its just not as much as i love her. We are falling apart and i dont no what to do.
lilmoma1973 Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 [/b Move on she is stringing you along ... She obviously she doesn't know what she wants or she wouldn't be acting like that!! If someone wants to be with somone after splitting they would do their best to keep that person and make them feel wanted and needed !! Maybe she is with you till something better comes along cut yor losses and if it meant to be she will be back again!! Good luck
JadeStar Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 You have been given some advice as some things to try to do. I think we all understand how much you love her, but it seems to be one sided. I think you have 3 choices here. One you either talk with her indepth about how you feel shes treating you, and see if it changes things(my guess it might not) or you let her go, cut all ties with her. Or you keep living the way you're living, which to me sounds pretty miserable. Jade
lilmoma1973 Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 Don't stays in it because of love because there is more to a relationship than just love..People can't live on love alone!!!! It requires honesty ,loyalty, respect and communication and without those what do you have!! Good luck
Craig Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 Everyone said to me why have i got back with her and its because i love her i coulden't help it.I think you have your answer right there. Sometimes we are so close to a situation that we don't have an accurate and objective point of view. We allow our emotions to overide our good sense. She is showing the real her by her actions and her actions are resulting in a painful experience for you. She is not the woman for you regardless of what you believe you could have with her. The best thing you can do is to be strong, go no contact and keep yourself busy to take away some of the pain.
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