tinktronik Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I have a friend Kate.She is a good person , and a wonderful mother of two girls.Kate is the only person I know who is a "superwoman" A single mom, she works a full time job + overtime (about 13 hrs a day) plus another parttime job .Then she goes home and sews her daughters clothes b/c she cannot afford to buy them . She stays up all night hand stamping cards to sell on ebay for extra cash .She lives in an economically poor part of the country and with all she does still barely scrapes by.I picture her as being an executive secretary or something ,out of all of the people I know, she would do well at it.Her husband and the father of her two children was military and when his service was up he emptied the bank accounts and drove away in the family car ,leaving her and their two young daughters behind. This is not that unusuall , Ive lived there and it happens quite often.This place is like a sinkhole. In this town there are only about 3 places where non military can work and you get fired as soon as you are due to get benefits.So everyone just works the jobs and deals with it.I did too!!! Kate is on the last job, it dosent seem to matter that she goes above and beyond for these companies.This last job has cut their employees down to 20 hrs a week and claims will cut more hrs as hollidays grow nearer. Kates ex has a child support order but does not pay ,only enough to keep him out of jail.about $50 every 6 months. She has gone to the state for aid,but b/c he has an order they will not help her.I hate to say this but when I went for aid in the same town I was told that there was no aid also ,but the girl after me knew the social worker and was given aid which I was told did not exist.It seems you have to know someone? Kates parents are gone and most of her friends in the area are in the same boat.Ive talked to her on the phone and watched scraping by turn to selling the tv. pawning her dvd's ect.Shes even bought laundry detergent to clean her childrens clothes and then filled it up with water and returned it to the store. I have moved away from this place and am doing well simply by living someplace else. My question is I am considdering sending her enough money to make it cross country to me,and housing her and her daughters untill they can start a life here.I have 3 sons and my place is small but perhaps it would work.I feel that this is a person who when I needed help always had her doors open to me and I cannot bear to see her life get worse month after month.I fear when she has no money left ,the state may take her children from her.I have seen this happen in that area before , instead of helping her. Does anyone have any good advice here???
BeccaBee Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 Whatever happens she dose need to get out of there. I also have a friend who is a single mom with two kids. She works one full time job and goes to school part time, they live tight but they still do alright. So it sounds to me like your friend needs to get out of that town at all costs!
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