Israfil Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Are there limits on the time one should remain in a Long Distance Relationship? When is enough enough? What is reasonable?
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 If your asking this question, it might be time. I was in a LDR or about 3 months before we got sick of the commute. We had to do what h had to do so we moved in together. I picked up my life and moved in with him where he is. We are now engaged. If you don't see yourself doing this, then nows the time to end it.
submart Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 Well, in order for a long distance relationship to work out (as in progress to the next leve:engagment, marriage), one is going to have to move to the other's location at one point. Does not really matter when. You need to be able to look inside your partner and learn what day to day life in person will be like with him or her. This is how you really find out if your compatible. LDR are great though, especially when your just getting to know someone. I think they can lead to great success if honesty, communicatioin, and faithfulness is a priority to both. I've been in a LDR in the past. It was LD for a year and a half. I than moved to be with him, and the relationship immediately ended. We were just NOT compatible by any means. Nice guy though, no regrets! I've been in my current LDR for three months. If the relationship continues to go great, he will move to be with me in a year and a half.
RecordProducer Posted November 1, 2005 Posted November 1, 2005 I think two years is enough unless there are reasons such as work, school, etc. But if the only reason for prolonging things is procrastination to move the relationship to a higher level then somewhere between a year and two the LD problem should be solved or people should not waste precious time of their lives and possibly miss more serious opportunities. We all know that LDRs don't let us get to know each other too well. So those who don't want to make radical changes in such circumstances should not get involved or quit the relationship within a reasonable amount time. If your fear of failure surpasses the desire to be with your partner then the love is not strong enough. I think after a while, LDRs tend to go down; if you spend a few years in a LDR, the love will fade away instead of grow stronger due to the distance.
kgal Posted November 2, 2005 Posted November 2, 2005 It's different for every relationship. Some 'ships move faster than others.. it depends on how compatible you both are and if it's really true love.
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