Tired-but Very Content-update

[Hot Coco]

Oh terrific... here we go... gotta bring *looks* into this.

 

Well, here's my take on this *looks* thingy... a woman who's got tons of issues isn't *good-looking*, period. Kinda like a bad personality can make a Brad Pitt lookalike uglier than sin... except to those women with uh... *issues*! Same thing in reverse, of course.

 

Playas (god I hate that word!) don't look below the surface anyway, that's why I didn't even go there.

 

Besides, to these people if you're great looking, you've got issues..if you've got few issues then you've got to be a dog. You just can't have it all according to them. These types of women and men don't really LIKE the opposite sex. So in their minds there's no such person as one who is the "total package."

[SmoochieFace]

You may love women...

 

 

I don't think he does and I believe that deep down inside he doesn't really love himself. He seems to be scared of being vulnerable - whenever things get too *hot* relationship-wise he bolts like a scared kid. He is in it only for the sex and the thrill of the conquest - certainly not for making a deep emotional connection.

 

I almost feel sorry for him... hehe...

[alphamale]

I don't think he does and I believe that deep down inside he doesn't really love himself. He seems to be scared of being vulnerable - whenever things get too *hot* relationship-wise he bolts like a scared kid. He is in it only for the sex and the thrill of the conquest - certainly not for making a deep emotional connection.

 

I almost feel sorry for him... hehe...

we all have problems and emotional baggage SMOOCHIEFACE and I'm sure you're not without yours...

[SmoochieFace]

we all have problems and emotional baggage SMOOCHIEFACE and I'm sure you're not without yours...

 

 

Totally agree... and I certainly have no issue with saying that I am imperfect as I have issues as well. We ALL are as there is not such thing as *perfection*.

 

What separates the MEN from the BOYS is whether one acknowledges their issues and works toward resolving them so that they can be a better person instead of using their issues as excuses to justify their ways.

[basscatcher]

I'm thinking this:

 

What Alpha refers to as really good looking women are most likely women who are so damn high maintenance because they have such ugly-low self esteem they have to try to look like the covergirl models on magazines..

A real man wants a real woman..

I beleive real women don't try to present themselves as someone they are not.

 

I was told many times that I should be a face model because of my bone structure.. Many times by hairstylists and people I have met when I have been out in the metro.. I have had many MEN who try to change me. They want to put me in high fashion clothing, get the latest hairstyles and doll me up with jewlery and such.... It is NOT who I am.. I will not put on a front to please someone's eyes... I am not a shallow person.. I am not superficial... I am not greedy, I am not overly selfish. I keep myself on the plainer side because I want respect and to be treated like a real person with a heart and not just some woman that men want to get into bed with..

 

I have had my share of men in my life.. From your posts I would almost bet my partner # is near yours.. I have never had a hard time getting a man in my life.. But I have had a hard time keeping them because most men are shallow and they want the bombshell on their arm but they don't want her brain or heart. So screw them.. I could be hard, cold, shallow, I could be a golddigger, I could use men and just F* them and dump them..

BUT I CHOSE TO RESPECT MYSELF MORE THEN THAT.

In my teen years I went crazy with trying to please everyone.. NO more.. I am 37 and I don't want to waste my time trying to be the envy of everyones eye physically.. I don't wear my hair the way men want it. I dont' wear my makeup the way most men want it. I don't dress they way most men want me too. I don't want to be someones trophy to parade around.

 

Anyway--I went on a tangent again--I believe Alpha's idea of good looking (hot) women are women who have low self esteem, lack of respect for themselves, are weak and with all that he will get bored with them because they most likely don't have a backbone to stand up tall if they we put in a situation where they needed to stand up for themselves. They are shallow in thinking because men make all the decisions for them in the relationship. Etc etc. I think you can see where I am going with this..

 

Real beauty isnt in how a womans hair is styled or how she applies her makeup or how she dresses. Its in who she is as a person. Her morals and values. Her beliefs and respect for herself and others.

[basscatcher]

What separates the MEN from the BOYS is whether one acknowledges their issues and works toward resolving them so that they can be a better person instead of using their issues as excuses to justify their ways.

 

I was just thinking this... I am glad you said this..

This goes for women also...!!!!

 

I have spent many many years and hours of counceling, reading, looking and reflecting at myself and my actions and choices. I have made a hard effort to change my thinking and my choices.

 

I use to be a bigtime bitach!!!.. I couldn't open my mouth anywhere without screaming, yelling, swearing, snotting off to my SO.. I was angry because of the treatment I was recieving..

I had to learn to take responsiblity for my own choices and actions. I chose to be treated like dirt. I accepted to stay. It made me bitter. I placed blame on the man and took it out on all the men following.

 

Then I learned that the men who followed the first men are not the blame or fault. It was the individuals themselves not the whole male population..

 

I found everything IN myself to change...

 

No person can make another person do anything. Every decision and choice you make whether it be your thoughts, feelings, or actions are your choice.. No matter what the situation or the pressure. You are responsible for yourself.. PERIOD. Even if there is a gun to your head your decision is still your decision no matter what....

 

We all need to be responsible for our own lives and stop taking all our problems out on other people.

I beleive if Alpha was to be sincere on working on himself.. He would stop playing all his games with women eventually.... But until then he will always have negatives reguarding women...

 

If his negativity comes from his relationship with a female family member he will have to come to terms and make amends with that rift in order to clear up his use and abuse of women in his life. Chain reaction subconsiously..

[Hot Coco]

I'm thinking this:

 

What Alpha refers to as really good looking women are most likely women who are so damn high maintenance because they have such ugly-low self esteem they have to try to look like the covergirl models on magazines..

A real man wants a real woman..

I beleive real women don't try to present themselves as someone they are not.

 

I was told many times that I should be a face model because of my bone structure.. Many times by hairstylists and people I have met when I have been out in the metro.. I have had many MEN who try to change me. They want to put me in high fashion clothing, get the latest hairstyles and doll me up with jewlery and such.... It is NOT who I am.. I will not put on a front to please someone's eyes... I am not a shallow person.. I am not superficial... I am not greedy, I am not overly selfish. I keep myself on the plainer side because I want respect and to be treated like a real person with a heart and not just some woman that men want to get into bed with..

 

I have had my share of men in my life.. From your posts I would almost bet my partner # is near yours.. I have never had a hard time getting a man in my life.. But I have had a hard time keeping them because most men are shallow and they want the bombshell on their arm but they don't want her brain or heart. So screw them.. I could be hard, cold, shallow, I could be a golddigger, I could use men and just F* them and dump them..

BUT I CHOSE TO RESPECT MYSELF MORE THEN THAT.

In my teen years I went crazy with trying to please everyone.. NO more.. I am 37 and I don't want to waste my time trying to be the envy of everyones eye physically.. I don't wear my hair the way men want it. I dont' wear my makeup the way most men want it. I don't dress they way most men want me too. I don't want to be someones trophy to parade around.

 

Anyway--I went on a tangent again--I believe Alpha's idea of good looking (hot) women are women who have low self esteem, lack of respect for themselves, are weak and with all that he will get bored with them because they most likely don't have a backbone to stand up tall if they we put in a situation where they needed to stand up for themselves. They are shallow in thinking because men make all the decisions for them in the relationship. Etc etc. I think you can see where I am going with this..

 

Real beauty isnt in how a womans hair is styled or how she applies her makeup or how she dresses. Its in who she is as a person. Her morals and values. Her beliefs and respect for herself and others.

 

Great post but you're wasting your breath. He just wants a hot woman. Nothing more, nothing less.

 

Hey, I tried that when I was in my 20's. It was kind of fun for a little while. Well, for like 2 minutes. Get who I want, use them and then dump them. It was boring and lonely and I felt like a loser. The real challenge wasn't getting them it was keeping them like you said, Pad. So it was a little phase for me that I grew out of.

 

Smoochie what you said was SO true about the difference between men and boys. So true. Read that again, Alpha.

[Hot Coco]

I think it's really interesting that we all said in one form or another that he doesn't like women. I think we all wrote that without having seen each others' posts. Did anyone notice that.

 

That's a key issue here. He really doesn't like women.

[alphamale]

Real beauty isnt in how a womans hair is styled or how she applies her makeup or how she dresses. Its in who she is as a person. Her morals and values. Her beliefs and respect for herself and others.

You may want to tell this to the female masses PADA because women are much harsher judges of other women than men ever have been.

[SmoochieFace]

I had to learn to take responsiblity for my own choices and actions.

 

 

I believe THIS is the key... right here. PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY.

[SmoochieFace]

You may want to tell this to the female masses PADA because women are much harsher judges of other women than men ever have been.

 

 

I will agree with this. All one has to do for evidence is look at the supermarket magazine racks and read what's there. Cosmo, Teen People, Glamour... you get the picture. Magazines for women written by women.

[Hot Coco]

You may want to tell this to the female masses PADA because women are much harsher judges of other women than men ever have been.

 

I can't believe I'm agreeing with you! I've always said that. I think that's true. Ok, back to your problem now....

[basscatcher]

Great post but you're wasting your breath. He just wants a hot woman. Nothing more, nothing less.

 

Hey, I tried that when I was in my 20's. It was kind of fun for a little while. Well, for like 2 minutes. Get who I want, use them and then dump them. It was boring and lonely and I felt like a loser. The real challenge wasn't getting them it was keeping them like you said, Pad. So it was a little phase for me that I grew out of.

 

I never think I am wasting my breath. Because from experience in my own life.

I have been told things that I blew off and months or even a year or two later it came back to haunt me. I remember what was said to me that I blew off and it finally made sense. So I don't beleive that their is ever a breath wasted... NEVER... I will waste if if necessary. If we were to always give up on hard cases this world would destroy itself in the ciaos because no one gave a damn.. Everything-I believe--comes full circle..

 

In my early years I played a lot and didn't settle for awhile. I went through a mix of events and emotions. I evolved into many different stages of perception of relationships. I was even very bitter at a time and hated all men. I even lost total self respect and didn't give a damn what happened to me.. I believe all those experiences were lessons. I have many different facets in my life that I have learned from.. I could have dived into the world of drugs (like my brother did), I could have became a alcoholic, I could have prostituted myself. But I chose not tooo,. I made the decision that every harsh reality has a lesson in it and it will be useful one day.. AND they have.. I have supported and helped many people who have come into my life that are going through hard times. I have been in many different shoes and I can empathize and sympathize with most people in time of trial and tribulations.. I believe that my lessons in life are a gift to me for other people... I chose to learn from my mistakes, I chose to use that knowledge to help others..

 

No matter how bad my life has beaten me up I chose to try turn it into possitves. Sometimes I need help too and I fall into a pit of dispair. I am only human I am not perfect. But I know without all of my lessons in life I would not be the person I am today..

 

I would not be in this new relationship with Mr. Landscaper enjoying his sweetness. 15 years ago I wouldn't have given him the time or day.. Why because he is nice, because he is laid back, because he is patient..I wanted drama, I wanted conflict, I wanted to vent and push my ideas and opinions. I was on a bad track.. The lessons I have lived have prepared me for him to enter in my life NOW..

 

Alpha choses to be the way he is. Internally, he may want something different but he doesnt have the tools yet to change where he is at. He may not even be able to see the lessons yet--all he can do is be angry, vengful, and selfish.. He may only be able to think about short term pleasure and gratification and not realize the consequences of it until down the road. Then he will have to face those realitys and pray he learns the lessons from them...

 

I don't believe anyone is bad or evil. I think we just act bad and do evil things because we are like little children and don't know how to deal with all the issues, feelings and events that take place in our lives..

 

Mr. Landscaper came into my life when I was ready for him. I have more knowledge and understanding of myself so I can make better choices and decisions without feeling panicy. This is a experience too. Either I will learn and grow from it for something different in my future or I will learn and grow for the rest of my life with him..

[basscatcher]

You may want to tell this to the female masses PADA because women are much harsher judges of other women than men ever have been.

 

Not necessarily... I believe each persons experience is individual.. I was judged very harshly growing up by men.. It started with my father. I was teased and put down dramatically by the male sex worse then the female when I was a child. Then when I became a teenager it was the same. Now that I am an adult I find women to be more judgemental then men towards other women..

 

Its our society.. I think men put the tag on women when it comes to judging and other women feel threatened so they attack more vicously at other women because of the jusdgment men put out there.. Its competition. It's survival.. It's animal instinct for survival and reproduction..

 

Power of suggestion that another person isn't as good as another. Also trying to outdo another to be the center of attention. To win...

 

Men and Women are both guilty of this....

 

Alpha you talk about this stuff all the time...

In another thread when you were talking about feminism. I've read examples of caveman instincts, changes in our society based on power and control which is a part of survival. We are like wild animals trying to mate and survive. Only with intelligence and it can be a bloody mess.

[alphamale]

Mr. Landscaper came into my life when I was ready for him. I have more knowledge and understanding of myself so I can make better choices and decisions without feeling panicy. This is a experience too. Either I will learn and grow from it for something different in my future or I will learn and grow for the rest of my life with him..

WTF! So all this goes down in 3 weeks? I mean, like a few wks ago you were talking about 2 or 3 guys who were f*** buddies and all that sheeyot. So in 21 days your whole outlook and philosopy has changed. Come on, who are you kidding here? I know the type of woman you are and you will sick to death of Mr. Lanscaper after a month or two. A leopard cannot change its spots in such a short period of time.

 

I am very wary of people who "see the light" in a matter of 3 weeks and then start saying all the krap you have been over that past few days about Mr. Landscaper.

 

You know as well as I that you'll eventually go back to your old ways. Past behaviour predicts future behaviour 99% of the time.

[Mz. Pixie]

I'm always told that I'm beautiful. Just the other night while playing poker my husband was offered all the winnings on the table and everything in this man's pockets for a chance with me. He answered "She's priceless". to the guy. I'm not shallow and I'm not greedy and I don't see myself as a beauty queen.

 

I probably wouldn't have dated my husband in my younger years and before I was married before. I didn't like a bad boy type but alot of guys I dated were very handsome- one could have easily have been a model.

 

When you get older and you know more about yourself your priorities are different. My husband is a nice guy- he's handsome- smart-caring- the WHOLE PACKAGE. He's also sexy as hell and his number of partners probably rivals yours Alpha. He's also been totally faithful to every person he's ever been with- and I've been told this by his friends, his family and even by an ex girlfriend.

 

If an empty relationship based on sex and games is all you want, then Alpha's methods are fine. I just prefer a man with a deeper soul than that and one that's not afraid to take a chance and step out!

[SmoochieFace]

WTF! So all this goes down in 3 weeks? I mean, like a few wks ago you were talking about 2 or 3 guys who were f*** buddies and all that sheeyot. So in 21 days your whole outlook and philosopy has changed. Come on, who are you kidding here? I know the type of woman you are and you will sick to death of Mr. Lanscaper after a month or two. A leopard cannot change its spots in such a short period of time.

 

I am very wary of people who "see the light" in a matter of 3 weeks and then start saying all the krap you have been over that past few days about Mr. Landscaper.

 

You know as well as I that you'll eventually go back to your old ways. Past behaviour predicts future behaviour 99% of the time.

 

 

Know what I think? I think you WANT Pada to fail here. Don't you?

 

You seem to be seething with jealousy that she has found a decent man instead of falling for a *playuh* like you. You want her to fail so you can be *right*... isn't that so, Alpha?

 

Quit being a killjoy and show some happiness for another person... or is that too difficult for you? Kinda difficult to be happy for other people if you aren't happy with yourself, eh?

[Hot Coco]

I never think I am wasting my breath. Because from experience in my own life.

I have been told things that I blew off and months or even a year or two later it came back to haunt me. I remember what was said to me that I blew off and it finally made sense. So I don't beleive that their is ever a breath wasted... NEVER... I will waste if if necessary. If we were to always give up on hard cases this world would destroy itself in the ciaos because no one gave a damn.. Everything-I believe--comes full circle..

 

In my early years I played a lot and didn't settle for awhile. I went through a mix of events and emotions. I evolved into many different stages of perception of relationships. I was even very bitter at a time and hated all men. I even lost total self respect and didn't give a damn what happened to me.. I believe all those experiences were lessons. I have many different facets in my life that I have learned from.. I could have dived into the world of drugs (like my brother did), I could have became a alcoholic, I could have prostituted myself. But I chose not tooo,. I made the decision that every harsh reality has a lesson in it and it will be useful one day.. AND they have.. I have supported and helped many people who have come into my life that are going through hard times. I have been in many different shoes and I can empathize and sympathize with most people in time of trial and tribulations.. I believe that my lessons in life are a gift to me for other people... I chose to learn from my mistakes, I chose to use that knowledge to help others..

 

No matter how bad my life has beaten me up I chose to try turn it into possitves. Sometimes I need help too and I fall into a pit of dispair. I am only human I am not perfect. But I know without all of my lessons in life I would not be the person I am today..

 

I would not be in this new relationship with Mr. Landscaper enjoying his sweetness. 15 years ago I wouldn't have given him the time or day.. Why because he is nice, because he is laid back, because he is patient..I wanted drama, I wanted conflict, I wanted to vent and push my ideas and opinions. I was on a bad track.. The lessons I have lived have prepared me for him to enter in my life NOW..

 

Alpha choses to be the way he is. Internally, he may want something different but he doesnt have the tools yet to change where he is at. He may not even be able to see the lessons yet--all he can do is be angry, vengful, and selfish.. He may only be able to think about short term pleasure and gratification and not realize the consequences of it until down the road. Then he will have to face those realitys and pray he learns the lessons from them...

 

I don't believe anyone is bad or evil. I think we just act bad and do evil things because we are like little children and don't know how to deal with all the issues, feelings and events that take place in our lives..

 

Mr. Landscaper came into my life when I was ready for him. I have more knowledge and understanding of myself so I can make better choices and decisions without feeling panicy. This is a experience too. Either I will learn and grow from it for something different in my future or I will learn and grow for the rest of my life with him..

 

Yes, Pad you're right. That's true that you don't always hear someone right when they tell you something. The message may resonate at a later time. Sorry, about saying you're wasting your breath. Maybe I should have said your message will be falling on deaf ears at this moment.

 

Something else you said really struck me. I've said this before. If I had met my guy at another time in my life I would have never appreciated what I had in him. I wasn't ready for this type of love. I was like you. I needed chaos, drama, games. That's funny isn't it? Maybe having had all that made me really appreciate the REAL thing when it came along. That's interesting that you were that way too.

 

And Alpha. You say Pad will go back to her old ways. Well, I won't speak for her but she reminds me of me in some ways. And I didn't go back to my old ways. It's called growing up. We all have to do it some time! (Well, some never do, really)

 

I can tell she's had it with the old ways. She's exactly where I was 11 years ago. And if I suddenly found myself single again, I'd still look for the good guys. I've had enough drama and chaos for a lifetime! Moody men, men who played games with my emotions, shallow men and selfish men. Been there, done that.

 

And once you have a REAL man, you never go back to a boy.

[Art_Critic]

WTF! So all this goes down in 3 weeks? I mean, like a few wks ago you were talking about 2 or 3 guys who were f*** buddies and all that sheeyot. So in 21 days your whole outlook and philosopy has changed.

 

I haven't said anything because I think that fact PADA is happy is awesome..

 

But this part of Alpha's quote has been in my mind thruout this whole post..

 

this guys real colors haven't even been shown to her yet and here she is nesting and planning her future..

[Hot Coco]

What does the fact that she had FB's have to do with this relationship? I don't get it. She obviously knew that they were not to be taken seriously right? That's why they were FB's. She must have had an understanding with them. I don't know because I haven't read those posts but I still don't see what it has to do with recognizing something real when it comes along.

 

Explain that one to me.

[Hot Coco]

As far as not seeing his true colors...I don't know but I can tell you this. It sounds like she's seen enough to know that he's not a BS artist. The Alpha's of the world don't ask a woman to take it slow and hold off on sex. They're into instant gratification which Pad's guy clearly wasn't. That spoke volumes to her (as it did with my guy.)

 

So maybe she's seen enough of his "true colors" to make a determination that he's worth a chance...he's someone with whom it's worth thinking about a future. I don't think she was planning one yet...just thinking that he may be in her future. But that's for Pad to say. Just my guess.

[basscatcher]

WTF! So all this goes down in 3 weeks? I mean, like a few wks ago you were talking about 2 or 3 guys who were f*** buddies and all that sheeyot.

 

Correction: I was associating with men who wanted me as F* Buddy and I wasn't going to be that.. NO Way.

 

So in 21 days your whole outlook and philosopy has changed. Come on, who are you kidding here? I know the type of woman you are and you will sick to death of Mr. Lanscaper after a month or two. A leopard cannot change its spots in such a short period of time.

 

Many people think they can understand me and they end up eating their words.. I'm possitive I won't get sick of Mr. Landscaper.. I may get upset with some of his ideas, wants, etc which is normal when two people come together but there is where the work comes in relationships. Two people with two different personalities with two different wants, needs and desires. That is what makes relationships so much fun and interesting.

I have not changed my philosphy ALPHA.. You havent heard much of my morals or values in LS. I have just begun to reveal a bit of my morals and values. You don't know me that well. I have made comments here and there and I havent really elaborated on much.

 

I am very wary of people who "see the light" in a matter of 3 weeks and then start saying all the krap you have been over that past few days about Mr. Landscaper.

 

I don't see the light What I feel is happiness, joy, refreshed, I feel a connection with him. I know he and I have very similar morals, values, interests and tastes. What I have said about Mr. Landscaper is what I see and feel.. I have reality that this is a romantic phase in a relationship. In 2 months time the bad habits will reveal themselves, I will find things that I don't agree with about him as he will about me. That is reality of relationships. Its a matter of how you accept them and deal with those differences that make or break the relationship.. Right now I see possitives (which is normal at this stage of a relationship) and I am enjoying them. Logically I know what is to come.. I am not stupid or nieve but I am focused on the here and now. Why make trouble before trouble comes??

 

You know as well as I that you'll eventually go back to your old ways. Past behaviour predicts future behaviour 99% of the time. /QUOTE]

 

For those like you who chose not to face themselves. I am in constant motion, evolving, learning, listening, watching, putting myself in other peoples shoes.. I have relationship knowledge and I am also human. Unless you have spent personal time with me to get to know me you don't know me. You can only read the words I put on a screen. Just like you do. I see a lot of people bashing you frequently because of what you express. I can see a bit past what is on the screen because of experience with men like you. Knowledge comes from experience and education.. Don't underestimate me. Many people have and have apoligized me me for making wrong judgements.. I have not gone back to my old ways. The person I use to be is not that way. I have grown.. I have made choices, I have gotten help, I have learned lessons. I refuse to be stuck in a rutt. I am a fighter. I have determination to improve my life and the quality of it. Sometimes I make a quick decision and stick to it. Other times I take my time to feel things out and investigate before making a decison..

 

You do not understand women as well as you think you do Alpha... You only see and hear what you are allowed to see and hear and you also have preconcieved ideas and notions about women so you are NOT open minded to learn and see from different angles and viewpoints.

[basscatcher]

But this part of Alpha's quote has been in my mind thruout this whole post..

 

this guys real colors haven't even been shown to her yet and here she is nesting and planning her future..

 

My future is always in my mind because I have always felt called to be a wife and mother. It comes natural for me. but as for nesting and marriage with Mr. Landscaper -NO I am not planning or deaming of that yet. I want it in the future but I don't know with whom it will happen.

 

Right now things are going good and very well. It's been years since I have had a dating relationship with this much context, respect, dignity, kindness, attentiveness, support, understanding, sharing, compatability, and interest.

 

I am in the moment mostly with a reality of possibilities of negative and possitive. Relationships are only successful because it takes two people to make them work with God's help. One sided relationships DON'T work.

 

I am not rushing or racing. I am just letting everything happen naturally and using logic and responsiblity without neglect of feelings or visa-a-versa.

[quankanne]

I don't see the light What I feel is happiness, joy, refreshed, I feel a connection with him. I know he and I have very similar morals, values, interests and tastes.

 

kinda falls in with my theory that you just *know* about a person, that time is not of essense -- it doesn't matter how long you know them, because something just clicks, it's a sure feeling about who and how they are. And that's not limited to love relationships with the opposite sex, but developing deep, lasting friendship.

 

I don't know all of Alpha's tale, but I think he's like the rest of us when it comes to experience shading his vision of relationships, so his doubt of this romance makes sense when you think about it from his viewpoint. Happily, there are many other posters whose experiences have been more positive, or rather, they've clung to the hope of good things to come, rather than focus on the negative. It all depends on where you're standing ...

[Lishy]

I haven't said anything because I think that fact PADA is happy is awesome..

 

But this part of Alpha's quote has been in my mind thruout this whole post..

 

this guys real colors haven't even been shown to her yet and here she is nesting and planning her future..

 

I hate to say this .... I like to belive that we can all find our 'Mr Right' and that we will 'just know' when he comes along

 

The reality is (and anyone who had a long term relationship will confirm this) You DONT really know someone until you have been with them for a considerable time.

How can you plan to spend the rest of your life with a man/woman who you havnt even had an argument with or seen them angry, sad, upset! How do you KNOW they are the real deal when they havnt seen the 'real' you - The 'you' when you are not floating from happiness in the honeymoon period of your relationship - In fact how can it even be serious after 3 weeks? I could never imagine introducing my child to a man after only 3 weeks - even if i thought he was God!

 

I seriously wish Pad all the best, I really do I dont wish to rain on her parade even for a minute - She is a smart lady and I am not doubting her judgment I am just saying what i feel.

 

Eyes wide open honey.... eyes wide open!