basscatcher Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Wow, my life has become so magical. Some of you have been following my Cinderella story. I started out wondering if looks really mattered when being involved with someone long term. Then I posted about different events that had happened and how I was developing feelings for this great man I call Mr. Landscaper. I have complained about the drought in my sex life too because he made me wait before we did the deed and it's been a difficukt road. I met his kids last week as well. He has great kids. Well, I have update news and its ever more possitve. He just keeps getting better and better. I think I am falling for him BIG time. He treats me very well. He has fullfilled all my needs and my wants in a man thus far. And for those of you who question--the deed has been done and it was so worth waiting for.. I am very very exhausted today, my body hurts, I NEED MY CHIROPRACTOR.... I also met his brothers this weekend... He took me to the house he grew up in and introduced me then last night we met up with one of his brothers for beer and some socializing. I also met one of his dear friends-that was interesting. He is so full of BS I didn't know if he was pulling my leg about Mr. Landscaper or if he was telling me the truth. . So anyways. He made me go shopping with him--Tomorrow Nov 1 is my birthday and he forced me to go shopping. I told him I wasn't going to shop he said yes you are. I told him I hate shopping and he told me I better get use to it. I told him if he is going to drag me out shopping then he is going to do all the shopping and all I will do is say NO if I don't like something... So 3 pairs of pants, 3 sweaters and a shirt later we are walking out of the store and I feel like I am about to burst into tears. I have never in my entire life met anyone other then my mother who wanted and did such a sweet thing for me.. I have never had a man shower me with so much adoration and attention. He was having so much fun picking clothes out for me while I remained a shadow and a critic.. He and I have very very similiar taste is style.. It is so great.. Having him in my life feels so magical.. He is like a dream come true.. I invited him and his kids over yesterday for lunch so I put together a huge potroast, mashed tato/sweet potatos, vegies. It was a great afternoon with all of us together.. He is taking his youngest trick-or-treating tonight and then tomorrow he wants to take me out for supper and then we are thinking about watching the hockey game.. I am definetly in heaven and I am happy to share this good news with everyone. I was a skeptic in the beginning with my Mr. Landscaper because I was spoiled with the toy boy, pretty boy, young charming guys downtown at the clubs. I had experienced men only wanting FWBs and that is the social norm now days.. I was scared, paranoid and becoming kinda bitter about never finding a great man. Then here comes this down to earth man who is a mans man, self employed, laid back, rugged, blue eyes, light brown hair, older then the club boys, mature and a gentleman. He has and is totally sweeping me off my feet.. Romance and love is in the air.. He might meet my family at Thanksgiving.. His kids have warmed up to me already and we are joking around and picking on each other.. Its so wonderful... He is a nice guy and he isn't finishing last and I am content not having a bad boy in my life. I feel so much peace being with Mr. Landscaper.. and in the bedroom :bunny: NO COMPLAINTS--definetly worth the wait. OMG..
Art_Critic Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 What are you gonna do if he drops his drawers and presents you with the tiniest one you have ever seen ?? Just trying to get you to see that you haven't seen the whole picture yet.. Don't fall too hard
Author basscatcher Posted October 31, 2005 Author Posted October 31, 2005 What are you gonna do if he drops his drawers and presents you with the tiniest one you have ever seen ?? Just trying to get you to see that you haven't seen the whole picture yet.. Don't fall too hard Reread hun... He has literally dropped his drawers already... As for seeing the whole picture.. I have been through a lot of shyt and very bad treatment in my life... I see no warning signs of him being a obsessive, controlling, manipulative, jealous, abusive, drug addict, alcoholic, hateful, revengful person... His children are normal children. They don't act like they fear, they aren't obnoxious brats. They are intelligent, open minded, outspoken, respectful, polite, chatty little people. They are fun and very loving. I am already getting little presents from his daughter. She has been drawing me pictures for my Refridgerator.. I once heard the phrase "Show me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are!" His brothers, his one friend and his children are all respectful decent people. They talk highly of him. I have heard him talk on the phone to clients and customers for his business and he is professional and curtious. We spend a lot of time together and I watch him like a hawk. I have been through a lot in life. I am hyper sensitive to a lot of things. I have good feelings and vibes about him and everyday they get reaffirmed.. I know there is always someone out there that is a good player and can pull the wool over your eyes so to speak but if I live in paranoia about everyone I will never enjoy life and experiences and will live like a sheltered scared, social anxiety hermit.. Yes, my eyes are wide open. I am still cautious but I am surely enjoying and loving everything that is happening....
Walk Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I say fall like crazy!!! Enjoy every single second of it. Don't think of "what if" and don't listen to the naw-sayers. Friggin' live in the moment for a while. You deserve it. Just make sure you give as good as you get! I'm so happy for you!
Art_Critic Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Go girl... What happened to waiting ? By the way.. Congrats.. Everybody deserves to find love
Mz. Pixie Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Pad, You sound so much like me when I met my husband! I'm soooo excited for you because I know just the place that you are in right now! It's so hard to give up holding back because you don't want to get hurt. I've always been the kind that held back because when you really truly love someone like I love my husband, you leave yourself open to get really hurt. He's never made me regret it from the first moment we met. I seriously doubt that my feet have touched the ground since we got married in July. :bunny: I hope this is everything that you want and need it to be. I'm so glad you're happy- and I'm really glad the sex was great and the drought is finally over!
Author basscatcher Posted October 31, 2005 Author Posted October 31, 2005 A_C WE DID WAIT... Do you know how hard it is to wait when you spend every evening together talking, laughing, cuddling and then the hormones kick in... I think waiting over 3 weeks was a challenge, this girl is in her 30s--thats prime time hormone machine.. I think we did very well holding off and I feel so much better about it. I have more respect towards him and I got to know him better and my feelings were allowed to start naturally instead of them being JUMP started by hormone surges.. He is a wonderful man.
Author basscatcher Posted October 31, 2005 Author Posted October 31, 2005 Just make sure you give as good as you get! That poor man was exhausted by the time I got done with him. ahaha ,, He was giggling at me. I think he was surprised!! He said "Your 36; I'm 41--I'm not in my 20s anymore." then I laughed at him.. My legs, back, kneck, shoulders, hips are hurting bad. I hope I'm not walking like I road a horse all day rounding up buffalo.. :lmao:
alphamale Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 the best players are the ones who don't look like players at all. this dude could be a carbon copy of me....
Author basscatcher Posted October 31, 2005 Author Posted October 31, 2005 I hope this is everything that you want and need it to be. I'm so glad you're happy- and I'm really glad the sex was great and the drought is finally over! So far so wonderful, he is more then I ever expected. He is wonderful. I can't believe he took me shopping for my birthday.. I told him no but he wouldn't hear of it. I made him do it all. I was just following him like a shadow as he shopping in the womens section with a smile on his face.. He was pulling stuff off the racks left and right. He would shove me in the dressing room and I would have to come out and model for him.. He was all smiles standing there in his red hat and red button up Polo shirt.. He was having fun. I've never seen a guy having fun shopping. He picked out all the clothes and I didn't expect him to buy everything he picked out that fit me.. He told me to get use to it. I told him NO he better get use to it because I hate shopping and he will do it all for me then. He smiled.. He and I like the same style. We are a lot alike. He teased me this weekend and told me if he ever buys me a minivan that I am not suppose to run off with the sales man.... Thats what happened with his exwife. He bought a minivan for her and she had an affair with the salesman. She divorced Mr. Landscaper and married the car dealer.. I told him not to worry. I have made my share of mistakes in the past and I have learned my lessons... It is wonderful. I am glowing, smiling, on cloud 10, in heaven.. I don't want my bubble to burst..
Author basscatcher Posted October 31, 2005 Author Posted October 31, 2005 the best players are the ones who don't look like players at all. this dude could be a carbon copy of me.... Sorry sweetie, For some reason I don't think so. I don't see you as being strongly attentive (makes sure he see's me almost every day), always in contact (he calls everyday sometimes a couple times). Alpha, I have a feeling he is real... He is pulling me into his private world--his family and closest friends. I'm meeting people that already know my name and about me from him.. He is opening up his personal world to me too much in order for him to be a player. He has brought me to where he hangs out, where he goes with his brothers, he has taken me to his childhood home, he has his kids and I already bonding. This guy is not playing.. He has made himself to vulnerable and open..
alphamale Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 (makes sure he see's me almost every day), always in contact (he calls everyday sometimes a couple times). ... He is pulling me into his private world--his family and closest friends. I'm meeting people that already know my name and about me from him.. He is opening up his personal world to me too much in order for him to be a player. He has brought me to where he hangs out, where he goes with his brothers, he has taken me to his childhood home, he has his kids and I already bonding. This guy is not playing.. He has made himself to vulnerable and open.. this guy is moving waaaay too fast and you'll most likely start to feel smothered right quick. So when he asks for your hand in marriage 3 wks from now are you gonna accept or run for the hills?? I suspect the latter
Author basscatcher Posted October 31, 2005 Author Posted October 31, 2005 this guy is moving waaaay too fast and you'll most likely start to feel smothered right quick. So when he asks for your hand in marriage 3 wks from now are you gonna accept or run for the hills?? I suspect the latter NOPE. I have never felt smothered. I like contact-I hate being alone and being distant. So that is no problem.. As for asking for my hand. I doubt it.. I can maybe see it in 6 mths to a year and then I would even have a year or two time after that. Truthfully, I don't see marriage happening that soon.. I just don't see him doing that, that fast.. And if by chance he does (which I highly doubt) I will say no engagement but if you want total exclusivity then yes-if he wants to give me a symbol of his interest and feelings thats fine too. He is not a idiot. He is rather intelligent and level headed.. I don't believe that all these society rules need to apply. Let relationships take the course and pace they take naturally. why does everyone either purposely slow them down or speed them up.. Just let it happen and make choices along the road ..
alphamale Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I don't believe that all these society rules need to apply. Let relationships take the course and pace they take naturally. why does everyone either purposely slow them down or speed them up.. Just let it happen and make choices along the road .. Ok PADA...we'll see what happens but I'm fairly certain I am correct....
Author basscatcher Posted October 31, 2005 Author Posted October 31, 2005 Ok PADA...we'll see what happens but I'm fairly certain I am correct.... Ok. we will see what happens. You just keep reading my threads and you will eat some of your words.. I'm sure.. I probably will too. :laugh: I am enjoying..
Outcast Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 the best players are the ones who don't look like players at all. this dude could be a carbon copy of me.... You WISH, Alph. You're just jealous because you thought you could scam Pada for yourself. Quit being a killljoy - not all men are like you (thank God).
alphamale Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 You WISH, Alph. You're just jealous because you thought you could scam Pada for yourself. Quit being a killljoy - not all men are like you (thank God). why do you say that MOI....*ahem*, I mean...OUTCAST? The last place I'd be trying to pick up women is on LS
Outcast Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 why do you say that MOI Now he's talking to himself!
Author basscatcher Posted October 31, 2005 Author Posted October 31, 2005 :lmao: ahahahahahahahah :lmao: Too funny.. Alpha always plays the devils advocate when someone else is finding a little peice of pie and is happy... Alphie needs to grow up and stop playing games or he will be a lonely old man--Man was NOT created to be ALONE.... They need to be taken care of. Inside they are just over grown children.. :lmao: OUTCAST--I would probably beat Alpha with a stick if I ever got involved with him anyway... His games would drive me LOCA in the cabasa. I don't like a suave finesse guy.. I don't like a sweet talker.. I don't like a aloof guy.. He would turn me off in about 2 weeks time...
alphamale Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 .. He would turn me off in about 2 weeks time... unfortunately PADA, so will Mr. Landscaper if he does not cool his jets a little....if I had a nickel for every time I've seen a woman run away from a guy who gets too close too fast I'd have $50.00.
Author basscatcher Posted October 31, 2005 Author Posted October 31, 2005 unfortunately PADA, so will Mr. Landscaper if he does not cool his jets a little....if I had a nickel for every time I've seen a woman run away from a guy who gets too close too fast I'd have $50.00. NAW.. this guy moves slower then the last guy and I was with him for 6 months before he ran back to his needy, flakey, helpless, hopeless, depressed, OCD, I can't live without you ex.. I do love attention, I don't like much space, I have always been like this. I am more uncomfortable with distance and space then being close.. I am affectionate, cuddle bug, I am always giving backrubs and scratches. I love touch..
alphamale Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Now he's talking to himself! whatever you say "honeychile"
Outcast Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 if I had a nickel for every time I've seen a woman run away from a guy who gets too close too fast I'd have $50.00. That would be because you won't find the people who enjoy closeness and commitment in the bars, A. Try hanging with some happily married people and you'll see a whole other mindset.
alphamale Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 That would be because you won't find the people who enjoy closeness and commitment in the bars, A. Try hanging with some happily married people and you'll see a whole other mindset. i have friends who are happily married and happily single and I also have friends who are unhappily married and unhappily single. everythign in life has its pros and cons...
Author basscatcher Posted October 31, 2005 Author Posted October 31, 2005 everythign in life has its pros and cons... Yepper, and you still need to figure out what you like and dont like.. and find the person who fits into that frame..
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