MixinMusic84 Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Hey, whats goin on everybody, its cool theres a forum like this cuz i am in for some serios help. Im 20yo and have never been in a relationship, this is very depressing. THere are 2 reasons, that i know of, y i cant seem to find a girl. One is i am scared of rejection which makes it extremely hard to go talk to a girl, wether it be a girl i see at school or a random girl at the mall. The other reason is I have low self-esteem ( i know this is a huge turn off, but i really dont show it to people inless there close to me) The one thing about me is i am a 20yo who looks like a 16yo. And in my perspective of things it seems girls like guys who are older, or at least look older and this makes me feel like it is useless to even talk to a girl even if i did get the courage to actually go up to her. Now, im not like a real shy or quiet type guy, i just moved halfway across the country to a place where i knew no one and have made lots of friends already. i can talk to anybody im not attracted too but as soon as i see an atractive girl i go blank and nervous and scared. Another thing is that i am so inexperienced with a lot of things that if i ever do meet someone, they would probably be turned off by the inexperience I would really appreciate some advice on where and how to meet a girl and things i could do to help my fear of rejection. Thanks
kinziepooh Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 Okay, you poor guy, I'll give you some advise. First of all you need some practice dating. You say that you are really good with someone that you are not atracted to, start there. Go on some dates with some girls that you like as friends, get used to the rythm, get used to talking and conversation. Eventually work your way up to maybe a double date with friends, have your guy friends bring a girlfriends friend as a blind date, then you don't have to worry about if you like her or not and will have other people around for support. Go to the movies, clubs with music, places you don't have to talk alot you just drink and dance. After the movies you can talk about the movie. But one thing is for certain, you are putting way to much emphasis on just a casual date, relax and realize that's what dating is for, practice. You're supposed to f*#@ up and you are going to look dumb and even be dumped, but so will they. No one has this thing down. Why do you think there is a chat room like this. No one (unless an arrenged marriage) gets it right on the first date the first try and live happily ever after. Remember, you are just having a good time with a hot chick that you may or may not get to touch, if you do great, if not, try a different technique next time, see what makes you feel comfy, do what you like and eventually after lots of dates, you will get used to it and won't care. The guy that get's the girl is dumped many many many many times, is rejected lots and lots and lots of times, and when that happens you get used to it, it still hurts, but once you get used to it and expect the worse everytime, when the good happens, it's nice, good luck
Author MixinMusic84 Posted October 31, 2005 Author Posted October 31, 2005 hey, thanks alot, im goin to try that out, ( working my way up) but wheres a good place to go for a underaged guy to go, and when i do see an atractive girl what can i say to initiate a conversation without looking desperate or looking dumb or something and also do girls really see guys that look young a turn off
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